Every single thing bothers him ( and im not exaggarating either) he's so emotional like a girl and it drives me nuts. He mainly complains & not try & solve his problems it seems like..he likes to hold on 2 his problems. He is always bringing up his past events it seems as if they it still bothers him and his whole mood just changes and that effecting me. He just represses them and the next thing u know he just blows up about a topic and ur just like "what did i miss?"im trying not to give up because he obviously needs help but i can only be patient for so long and this nonsense keeps happening. we have only been together 3months and every week its something new. I tell him he can talk to me but he doesnt until its to late and i just cant deal with it anymore. It's always about him he never asks me how things are going with me. We're always focused on his irrelevant issues. What do I do?
2006-08-23 13:27:28 · 10 answers · asked by knd25th 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He also over analyzes everything single thing and it just consumes him. he writes to express himself but that doesnt work because everyday he just get worse. its crazy
2006-08-23 13:32:05 · update #1
Find out why he's so emotional, if you find a way to root that out, he may come around.
2006-08-23 13:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your boyfriend needs some serious counseling. See if he can make an appointment with someone referred, through his church/synagogue, or counseling agency. If he doesn't get a handle on his emotions NOW, it will follow him all his days and will effect his employment, his marriage, and how he relates to his kids. He is full of negative energy, and there may be some abuse issues he has not addressed yet. You are not a punching bag, a counselor, or a mediator between him and his conscience. It will be no fun if you're constantly having to support him when he can't get along with co-workers and keeps getting fired/layed off from jobs. He's full of stress and is using you as a sound-off board. You are important to yourself and to your friends and family. Don't allow this guy to manipulate you into doing what he wants. He's destructive and sounds like a time-bomb, waiting for that right time to let out all of his frustrations at once [which may be a violent outburst].
Keep your distance from him until he can handle his imbalanced hormone levels. We have PMS, but he has something that needs either counseling or medication to control.
2006-08-23 20:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to do but thats obviously him and he couldn't change I would seriously evaluate the relationship depending on how serious it is. If you really love him and dont want to leave him you could try talk about it with him even seeking professional help. He may have deeply imbeded issues that need to be resolved for him to be truely happy and to make someone else happy, you both deserve that. :)
2006-08-23 20:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him straight out what you just said. Say that you really would like to help him get through everything but he just needs to talk to you.
If that doesn't work and he gets mad and everything, then he's probably just looking for attention from you, and he doesn't actually want to solve anything. In that case, I would end the relationship becuase you're obviously not getting anything out of it.
2006-08-23 20:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful not to become co-depenent! (google it).
You could get overwhelmed by him and lose your self.
In order to have the good relationship you want ,you must have mutual care and concern. Right now it is one- way and that is unacceptable.
Tell him that you and he don't know eachother well enough yet to rely on eachother/ him to lean on you so much. You want to be his girlfriend so he needs to find a couselor or therapist to help him with his constant caos and crises.
It is not your job!
2006-08-23 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either learn to like it or make a change. I know very well what I'd do. You obviously aren't helping him at all.
2006-08-23 20:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him to grow a sack, eat some red meat, maybe try boxing as a hobby. that might knock the wussie out of him
2006-08-23 20:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its only going to get worse.
You have only been with him 3 months, I say dump that sissy.
2006-08-23 20:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to try to find a way to express it. could be videos, art, poems, anythign
or tell him to get an emo haircut or cut himself or listen to emo songs ^.^
2006-08-23 20:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him soooooooo much love that he gets immersed in it . he will forget everything nasty about his past
2006-08-23 20:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by DEAR T 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋