I am an 18 yrs old 5'4 265 lbs straight male. My question here is for both sexes. Okay, girls can you please help me with my appearance. If you look at my profile at myspace.com (blocked face) which is playstation9@yahoo.com, I really think I need a new haircut or style with my clothing. I am asking this because I am really not a fashion material man. Can you please help me with this. Give me tips on how to look good which involves a new hairstyle look(which I am not an expert on) and a new style for what I will be wearing. Help me find a good free site where I can judge hairstyles for men and put my pics in it to look at it. (keyword:FREE)
Guys this question is for you from a straight unexperience man. I have never dated before, nor have sex. I know it is due from my weight. I don't think I am ugly or disgusting but can you guys give me some tips on how to be confident when speaking to a girl. I really have a proble with conversation and eye to eye contact. Please help.
2006-08-23 12:46:38 · 16 answers · asked by I'll_give_u_10pts_if_u_answe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try going to single groups at a church.You need to find a nice girl who sees you for the sweetie you are.
2006-08-23 12:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful man.
Don't worry what others think of you life is to short. Be happy with the way you look and don't change a thing.
I use to date all the hotty's from high school. They are now losers and can't support my friends who they married. I would by far have a fat ugly husband who is loving and treats me good then have a guy who is Mr. Perfect and only cares on apperance.
You will find the right person. Good things come to good people.
2006-08-23 12:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you and you only can make the changes in your life. For start write down ten good things about yourself, and then ten bad things you don't like. Within those ten things you don't like about yourself what changes can be made? Set realistic goals here for example i change my eating habit, exercise more etc. You have to start to like yourself by this I mean accept your fault and good points. To chat to a girl just be yourself any girl will tell you they hate men who over do the charming bit it right turn off. Join a club find common grounds to stard a conversation with a girl.
2006-08-23 12:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as a haircut goes...I would go with something shorter and possibly spiked. Most girls like guys with shorter/tigher hair. Clothes? That is up to you. Nothing too tight, but nothing too baggy. Just as long as your comfortable. Look for colors girls like. Such as greens, blues and reds. A pair of khakis, white shirt, brown belt and penny loafers are usually a good bet. It makes a guy look more sophisicated. Neutrals go well with white. Khakis with white, brown with green...Things like that. Mix and match, but don't go overboard on the colors. I know it's a lot to remember, but the main thing is to be comfortable!
2006-08-23 12:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cassa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to the a hair salon, ask the stylist to suggest a cut for you, or show you pictures of how it will look on your face. Go to a boutique, and they can hook you up with cloths. As far as girls is concern, just be your self, you will meet the right one, Be good at what you do, this is where confidants will come in. they will come to you.
2006-08-23 12:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't look at you pics so, i believe what you say here, if you have a weight problem then
why don't you fix it?
I avoid women that are EXCESSIVE over or under weight...
Why?
because I see that as them not taking care of themselves...
so why do i avoid that?
well, if they can't or won't take care of themselves then how can I take care of them?
So,,,,
So I believe that they are looking for someone to take care of them since they won't do it themselves and I believe that I can't do that.
so,,
So, she is not for me as a bonding pair person - may be ok as a friend...
Do you think women will be the same as me?
Eye contact...
I still have a problem with eye contact - I force myself to look at her eyes (my nature to look at their mouth and that must yeild to my determination to see their eyes - it is slowly working - I was almost killed when I was 8 by the person I called "mother" and the mouth does give certian kinds of survival information BEFORE the eyes).
How to be confident when speaking.....
um
I don't know...
i don't have that problem now - used to and I don't remember what I did that fixed it....
just talk and be yourself
if they stay then what you are saying is ok...
or
if they get closer to you while you are talkin then what you are saying is ok...
or
if they don't stay then don't then say that anymore...
maybe as you fix your weight problem then you will be confident that you can fix other problems for yourself as well.... ...and that'll help.
You seem sensitive and nice - women say that they like that.
I'm accused of being too nice.
and
sometimes gay (by men)
(I think someone that they liked was attracted to me tho.)
this is somin' that I do believe...
as you gain and handle appropriately the small amounts of self-confidence you will be given the responsibility of handling more and more of your self-confidence.
I believe that you'll make it, if you want to that is.
2006-08-23 13:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get a buzzcut. Have a casual but sophisticated style. As for confidence, you should join a club or group( i find karate great!!) to gain confidence, karate would also give you excercise, self dicipline ect.
2006-08-23 12:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st get a life, then dont act so dund, can you not walk in to a shop and ask them what cut will lokk good. and there is this new place out it called a gym a place to go work out and get fit. so more girls may like your looks. try the yellow pages and the last thing stop being a cry baby
2006-08-23 12:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A haircut and new clothes is not going to cut it......let's be honest! You need to get professional help, pal. You are grossly obese and it is unhealthy!!! You need to loose about 125 pounds!!!! And with your e-mail address "play station".....duh, that says a lot about you! Stop being a complaining victim and make a commitment to yourself to loose weight since you are on the path to a miserable life and poor health! You will probably develop cardiac problems, diabetes, skin breakdown and a host other things. It is your life........so stop thinking about a hair do and new duds.....Eeee Gads........loose that Fat!!!! How do I know these things??? I am a nurse and know the story on this stuff!!!
2006-08-23 12:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dude, you got to put yourself out there and take a risk. Through expierence talking to girls you will gain confidence. Good luck and don't worry so much, girls aren't as superficial as we are.
2006-08-23 12:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋