this guy always says he'll call me but he doesn't. he's called me one time and he's had my number for the past 3 months! he always insists on me and him hanging out, and tells me to call him when he gets off work, and when i try to call him, his voice mail comes on! is he ignoring me? will he ever call me again? i like him-what should i do?
2006-08-23 12:35:32 · 14 answers · asked by moneymakerchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about him. If he was interested in you, hed be answering your calls. Move on.
2006-08-23 12:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the first step of a program to Not Call That Man (if you have an urge to call a man but know you shouldn't). This is from one of the chapters in a book titled - "Don't Call That Man!"
Step One.
POSTPONE contacting him. STALL!! Tell yourself you will wait at least two hours before you contact him. This will give you some time to work on yourself. There's always time to compulsively call that man.
Writing Exercises. What can you do (such as going to a book store or movie) to postpone calling him for a few hours? Write about the urgent need to call your ex. Describe your feelings.
Sometimes the way a woman THINKS keeps her hooked on him. Here is a sample (from "Don't Call That Man!") of two ways you might be thinking that's making it especially difficult for you to let go of him.
IDEALIZING. You may be IDEALIZING him thinking he is perfect and unique - attributing magical qualities onto him. If you are ruminating about how incredibly great he is and how you'll never find such a perfect specimen of a man again, you'll never be able to let go and mourn. Try being realistic about him - focus on his flaws if necessary. Otherwise letting go will be a never-ending struggle.
IF ONLY. You keep obsessing about the events that led to the end or deterioration of the relationship. You keep thinking and thinking about how things could have been different and had a happier ending. If only ... if only ... if only ... you must accept the way life played itself out. You can make changes in your future life with what you've learned from the experience but focusing on the past is only making you frustrated and unhappy
This helped me - it's from RhondaFindling.com. She wrote a book about it.
2006-08-23 19:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by JeyJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might call, but you should think twice before throwing yourself headlong into this. When a guy wants something, he'll make an effort to go out and get it. If he's not calling, he's just not that into you.
Do you really want someone who can't keep a promise as simple as calling you? What about when it comes to more important things, like keeping a date or being honest in a relationship? If he's not reliable now, he won't be reliable later on.
Hang out with him if and when YOU want to hang out with him, but realize that you deserve to be treated better!
2006-08-23 19:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by susuan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. A guy who is interested makes some moves (like calling you). It sounds like you are a back up plan to him.
2006-08-23 19:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anick M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just his back up plan if his other plans with someone else fall thru. Move on with your life. Next time he says this crap just tell him you don't think you'll be available you have plans. You know, like a knitting class. MOVE ON.
2006-08-23 19:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok ok,,,check this .......send him a vocie mail or a text message saying that u called and then u will know at least if he likes you.....because the dude has to check his messages.........then u will know he is playing lil kid games with you.then forget about it and just call me ..........john (626)392-1493 .........and i hope u call it would be a trip .......lates
2006-08-23 20:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by slappy dangler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like this guy is just playing with your emotions, also one thing to consifer is if you slept with him if you did move on he doesn't want you if you didn't there is a possibility he is jus playing hard to get and really like you
2006-08-23 19:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by rasheeta1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is treating you like a puppet on a string. At his mercy and he knows it.
What a fool., he is.
2006-08-23 19:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a girl and cant answer the phone when you call...
2006-08-23 19:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Monique G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just telling you that probably not to hurt your feelings i do the same thing it is a hard habit to break
2006-08-23 19:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋