I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and he has never asked or tried to have sex with me. He asked once after the first year of dating but i said i was not ready. He said that was fine because he didn't want to till he knew who the right one was and till after he was married. He just bought a ring ((his friend told me, I'm not supposed to know, i feel guilty, i wish he hadn't told me)) and my friends told me that i should sleep with him before we get married because i need to know if its good enough to marry. But i know i will love him no matter what. I don't care about those things, i love him and isn't that enough? What should i do, should i sleep with him before or after? ((He is the first guy i have ever even kissed))
2006-08-23 12:10:42 · 24 answers · asked by Sweet_pea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound so much like you name, I feel very proud of you, youths online here should take example from you.
Don't bother with what your friends are saying, Once you love someone deeply, and you feel like he is your solemate, when the time is right(and that is after marriage), the lovemaking would be perfect, no matter what. Be proud of your morals and values, no one should make that decission for you.
2006-08-23 12:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore your friends and stay on the road your boyfriend are on it seems to be working for you. Your friends are telling you what to do, well how many relationships have they had while your still with the same one!! If they can't say they have had the same relationship for the same amount of time as you, how can they give advice on something they can get straight for themselfs. Relax cause the only two that have to worry about your relationship is you and your boyfriend!! They are telling you that he is cheating they are saying have sex. so their opinion should be keep to themselfs.
Good Luck and I hope you the best.
Don't give in to you stupid friends ideas they don't have a clue!!
2006-08-23 12:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex isn't a big thing for the both of you then don't make it a big thing. There are all kinds of relationships out there and yours should able to work out just fine. People tease people about what is odd or unique about them...try not to take it to heart. Just be glad they don't call something more derogatory. Good luck and have a good old fashioned honeymoon.
2006-08-23 12:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with waiting. Sex should not be the deciding factor in wheter or not you get married. If for some reason it's not great once you are married, there are things you can do to make it better. Good luck
2006-08-23 12:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please stay a virgin till you discover that precise individual, I did and it became the superb decision I ever made. i became interior an same project as you with my 3 bf''s and they could continuously tell me, i became stupid and did not comprehend what i became lacking. properly, enable me inform you what i became lacking, one had an abortion, one were given an std and the different pregnant with a boyfriend who left her a unmarried make certain-yeah precise, I ignored alot. stay authentic. at the same time as i ultimately fell in love at 18, I knew he became the single after relationship for one and a nil.5 years, my first time became perfect. He waited to be with me all that factor and when we finally made love (no longer basically sex), he became loving, affected individual and kind, no longer out for a speedy get off. And we are nevertheless at the same time. Now i quite believe the rationalization my bf's needed me to have sex so badly, became because they were jealous of the undesirable options that they had made and distress loves company. i got here upon love and they got here upon lust.
2016-11-27 01:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling u are in a better position than i am.I am a twenty five year old virgin and i have no one with in my sight that i want to give it up for or marry.Don't listen to your friends.listen to all the people advising you on this sight.Wait until you get married.however i am warning you to be cautious about what his friend told you...and not to base your decision on what you think the guy is going to do..this situations are very tricky dear and you sound innocent to me.
2006-08-23 12:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably shouldnt choose to marry someone (it happens to be a promise you make for life, not cheapened as it is daily) by whether you guys have good sex once. In all honesty if you are a virgin and so is he it wont be very impressive.
2006-08-23 12:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by angrylittlefisherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him until you are married. Be proud of the fact that you saved yourself for that special person!!! Don't let your so called friends get you down!! You are doing the right thing!!
2006-08-23 12:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! You love your man for who he is, not for sex. Having sex should be sacred, not just a game. Save it for marriage. Remember- you're only 20. You still have a lot of your life to live... don't ruin it!
2006-08-23 12:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥2cute4u♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wait till marraige and they are very rude to be like that just because they fell into the pressure of thinking they have to have sex
2006-08-23 12:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋