I went out with a guy for a brief period about a year & 1/2 ago. I had always had a crush on him & then he finally became single (divorced). I was in a bad relationship that had just ended when the new guy & I became acquainted. My ex bf decided to ruin things between me & the new guy. He just didn't want me & didn't want anyone else to have me. The new guy had just been through a lot of drama & didnt want to deal with anymore so he called things off with me. I have no clue what all my ex told him. I tried to patch things up with this guy but he would never even give me a chance to talk to him. I just wanted him to hear what I had to say but he wouldnt even give me a chance to do that. He was even telling me he loved me. If he loved me, how did he walk away so suddenly ? He moved on & started dating someone else & still is. Problem is, I have never gotten over that. I ache to talk to him. I just need to tell him my feelings but I dont know how. This bothers me so much. Please help
2006-08-23 12:08:35 · 4 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried moving on and finding someone else..Nothing at all works..I have realized that I MUST bring closure to this and have him finally hear me before I can personally move forward. How do you just call someone up after this long and ask them to listen to you without looking like a complete idiot. I need some serious advice.
thanks
2006-08-23 12:11:11 · update #1
Your ex probably threatened your bf into staying away from you.
2006-08-23 12:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your closure begins with you moving on, obviously he did. And if you were as important to him as he was to you then he would have listened to what you had to say. But since he didn't then don't give him the satisfaction of thinking he is God's gift to women. Move on and forget about him.......... find a real man that can stand up to your ex and not be ran off by whatever he tells him. If that's the case you will never have anyone...........
2006-08-23 19:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by SweetT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him won't bring you any closure. Keep looking for someone new, there will be one that really perfect for you.. Of couse he would say anything what he was with you..but seem like he moved on real fast. you need to cut all contact or thought about him. Calling him will make the matter worse..you could ruin his new relationship..that will make he hate you more..
2006-08-23 19:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do here is to leave all the ex's out and don't tell anyone anything, if your after someone who is recently divorced. They have just been through the ringer, that is true and they don't like to have more games in their head.
It will take time. Be secretive if you have to, but do it in private so nobody else knows.
2006-08-23 19:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋