ok this is a long topic but please read it...I have a big problem..i like my friend's ex g/f...right after they left each other she called me on my bday and she came without me inviting her...and we have been seeing eachother 4 4 days and then she travelled for 1 month and came back....i forgot about her...but she called me again and told me i miss u why don't u ask about me i really wanna see u bla bla bla...then we've been meeting for 1 month (daily)..talking on the phone bla bla bla...one day she told me see im wearing the skirt u like another day she holds my hand and lots of other things...then we were out one day with my friends and they asked her if she still loves her ex she said yes....but how come she loves him and does everything with me and she is the one who calls everyday i never called lol..that 1 month we were travelling and when we came back she didn't call until i sent her a message...i dunno what to do how can i let her like me (if she doesn't) & she loves my friend
2006-08-23 12:02:45 · 20 answers · asked by A... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok let me add something...her ex doesn't know that we go out...and she called me 2 weeks after they broke up...i just wanna know is it right to continue what i was doing we were fine but she kept on talking about her ex...and i wanna know why didn't she call me when we came back...i don't think she just wanted to have fun because she had alot of friends at the place we travelled....
2006-08-23 12:27:06 · update #1
One more thing i dont love the girl...i like her maybe 1 %....and when she stopped calling i didn't get mad or something it was so ****** normal and i didn't even care lol i just sent her a message told her why did u stop calling me she replied from her mother's phone saying my credit has been depleated....
2006-08-23 12:30:28 · update #2
Im so sorry one more thing is....That when she recharged her credit she didn't call and when we were together she told me that she wants to get over her last relationship but don't know what to do...i told her don't call him for a week and u will forget him and she stopped calling him but i travelled before the week ends and since then we didn't talk but im sure that she didn't call him....but i wanna know why didn't she call me...
2006-08-23 12:35:07 · update #3
I suspect from what you have written, that she is simply using you to make her ex jealous. The fact that she latched on to you, straight after breaking up with her ex, suggests she either didn’t care about her ex, or is looking for ways to get back at him for dumping her.
If you don’t like being used, then I suggest you just tell her that you are not interested in having a relationship with her.
It is really up to you to decide… If you like the girl, and believe there may be a chance of making the relationship work, then perhaps she just might get to like you better than she did her ex. I’m sure that there have been many relationships that started off shaky, but ended up strong. Yours may be one of them.
You can sometimes learn a lot about a person by asking their ex… Perhaps you can ask your friend how he feels about you going with his ex, and what he thinks about her.
Anyway, as I said, the decision has to be yours to make. Just bear in mind that if you are being used, you will probably end up being hurt!!!
2006-08-23 12:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. I think the easiest thing to do is if you really like her and want a relationship then tell her that she needs to completely resolve all feelings of her ex first because you don't need to be the rebound guy. Then quit seeing her all together until she can come and talk to you about the fact that she is really ready to move on. If you believe her, then great. If you have issues with dating a friend's ex then you just need to talk to your friend about it and make sure things will still be cool between you guys. Good luck!!!
2006-08-23 19:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by bbydol221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this girl sounds like she might still be in rebound mode. how long ago did your friend and her break up? also how long did they go out? i'll tell you this, if they went out for a long time (longer then 7 months) and you don't want to lose your friend, don't mess with her at all. if you don't care too much about your friendship with this guy and you could do without it, then you should consider going for it. but the girl is sending mixed signals and in the end you could get hurt. she might just be looking for some fun right now and not a relationship. i just think you need to lay it all out to her. tell her she's sending mixed signals and you want to know what does she want out of this.
2006-08-23 19:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word rebound comes to mind. Maybe she is still hurting after their break up and you are a great distraction. That would account for the neediness, she needs to feel wanted after the split. Be very careful. You need to safeguard your heart from her indecision. If it were me, I'd have a talk with her and voice your concerns. Let her know that you are interested but that you don't want to be hurt. Demand honesty and don't be fooled by what you want to hear and opposed to what she is really saying.
Good Luck !!!
2006-08-23 19:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really amazing how we have so many friends in this world but few genuine ones. Friends will use you for everything and anything they can get, then dump you almost immediately, once they get what they want from you.
Genuine friendships don't do that. They care about you and only want the very best for you and want you to be happy no matter what.
Isn't it about time that you dump the users in your life?
2006-08-23 19:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe she was on a rebound when she called you right after the break up.. you are like the bridge of the feeling between she and her ex.. she can't be with him so she 'be with someone that his friend..
Take some times of from her for a while..she still can't get over her ex..can you stand that?
2006-08-23 19:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.... that was kinda long..... Interesting but long.... Anyway I'd like to share a few points for your consideration.
1.) She just be using you to get back at her ex.
2.) She's just lonely and wants decent company which means you...
3.) She's a user-friendly person.
All in all, she doesnt paint a very good picture of herself, so why are you still hanging out with her?
Get a real girlfriend before you fall in love with her. Please..... :)
2006-08-26 07:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a girl or guy will still love their ex and also be pursuing a new relationship that happened to me before.....my ex dumped me and it wasnt something either of us wanted his parents wouldnt let him see me anymore so it was really tough to get over and i met a great guy in the process (my now husband) but for a little while i was still in love with my ex.....i think a part of me will always love him, cuz i know that the break up wasnt wanted by either one of us.... she just needs time to get over him and she probably likes u.
2006-08-23 19:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it isn't always good idea to go out with your friends ex. It could cause you to lose your friendship with your friend, well let's say your friend got over it and everthing. well it seems the girl likes you although she has feeling for your friend and due to you not responding to her she must feel you don't like her. If you like her you could pay her more attention still considering the ex problem She MIGHT USING U .
2006-08-23 19:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by Patcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with her you'll have to give her some new happy memories to help her get over the ex. She may always love him in a different way but that's something you need to help her with.
2006-08-23 19:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by tman137 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋