After being raped at six could it still be affecting me?

Question

I'm 22 now. I've done alot of sexual things that i've been ashamed of, but i keep doing them and its real hard to stop. Like having my sexual needs met everyday is like oxygen to me. I don't think that it was because i was sexually abused, i think i got over that a long time ago but my bf of 2 yrs thinks i have a problem. Should i go talk to a therapist or something becuz i really want this relationship to work. Also should i tell my mom i was raped or should i not hurt her like that?

1) i don't and never blamed myself for what happened.
2) not risky sexual behavior but hurtful ones
3) THANKS ALL FOR ANSWERING MY QUESTION!!!!!!

Answer 1

Any young victim of sexual abuse is going to continue be affected by their experience for the rest of their life. When a child is abused their sexual "engine" is turned on, so to speak. The problem with this is that the physical feeling and emotions of sex do not translate well into the mental reality of a young child. It is difficult for children to comprehend that something feels good but is bad. Their reality is very tactile and as such the idea of sex is confusing. Sex feels good to the human body, an adult engaging in sexual behavior with a child is bad.

The result of this disconnect is dissonance in how the abused understands sex and develops relationships with other people. Negative or harmful components of any personal relationship may be unconciously sought after by the abused because of this early paradoxical experience.

It sounds like your having the same problem. Sex is feeling good physically and emotionally (i.e. the afterglow effect) but is negative. The experience may be negative because your placing yourself at risk for physical harm or because you are hurting others that you genuinely care about. There is a disconnect in the your psyche interprets sex. You need professional help.

Telling your mother is up to you. Any decision you make is the right one. The focus for you right now though needs to be getting help so that your ideas and behaviors regarding sex can be healthy and functional.

Answer 2

OMG!!! Yes the reason why you are needing attention sexually is b/c you are trying to deny the feelings of shame. You feel guilty about the rape. You feel it's your fault but it's not. You should talk to your mother. I don't think you should carry this around any longer. You are hurting and you need to resolve this issue and begin the healing process. First step is to acknowledge that it happened and two forgive yourself (b/c I know you think you are to blame but you are not) and the person not for their sake but for yours. THen go tell you mother and whether she believes you or not you need to tell her. Then talk to a rape counselor. Dont go another day carrying this around. You are not alone and you need a support system. They are rape groups just like there are addiction groups. Whether is happened 2 days ago or 12 years you cant pretend like it didn't happen! I will pray that you will begin a new day.

Answer 3

If you don't want to keep anything from your Mom, then yeah, maybe you should tell her. I was raped from the time I was 2 til I was 12, and it still has it's effects on me. Some people, after being raped, will choose to want more of it and others will turn away from it and become bisexual or homosexual. If you don't feel that you wanting to get your needs met is a problem, maybe you should talk to your bf about why he feels that you have a problem. Maybe he isn't willing to meet your needs and you need to find yourself a new partner.

Answer 4

I understand what you are going through. It is important that you talk with a therapist because you might think that you have dealt with your problem but it will always be there in the back of your mind. It is good to talk to someone, to get help sorting your feelings. I also think that you should tell you mother and if she really cares for you she will be their to support you.

Answer 5

First get a therapist and talk everything out with him/her. I'm sure that when he/she thinks you are ready he/she will have your mom come in so that you can tell her what happened to you. You are not over it by along shot but I think the right therapist can help you. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

You need to let some else besides your bf know. Even if you tell your mom and it hurts her. You let her know and she may be able to give you some extra support that you need. A therapist is a good solution for the problem.

Answer 7

You have nothing to lose by talking to a therapist. If you keep doing things you regret, a good therapist can help you with that. If you decide later that therapy is not getting you anywhere, you can always stop going.

Answer 8

Maybe the rape has something to do with how you are acting out sexually. Maybe you should go to a therapist it is going to help. Good luck

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Go seek help asap..... The more you try to figure this out on your own the more confused you get and I truly don't think your past the rape but that is what a therapist is for...