My husband and his ex wife divorced 7 years ago. My in-laws cater to her every need and to the child they had together. Meanwhile since then my husband and I have two other children with us full time. My in-laws bend over backwards for the ex and do not do anything with my husband and I and our other children. They have even said "they love the other child more then any of the other grandkids and she is number one priority on their list" to my face. Now there are two new grandkids that were just married into the family and they are treated better then our other two as well. My husband pays his child support like clock work, and buys her anything she needs to a point. We are very involved with her school stuff as well as activites as we can be since she lives in another state. When is enough, enough? My children are very hurt by the way they are treatedby their grandparents!! When is it time for me to explode on them????
2006-08-23 11:55:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my husband and I have always told his parents how we feel about this and they say "they don't treat them differently". It just pisses me off that one of the children we have at home is their blood and they still treat her like ****! They are the most two faced people I have ever met, they talk so bad about his ex one minute and then the next she walks on water. They did not like her when my husband and her were married, but now they can't get enough of her! And all the ex does is use my in-laws for money!! That is a proven fact and my in-laws know it!
2006-08-24 03:06:46 · update #1
now
if they aren't going to treat your children with the love and respect they deserve they do not deserve to see your children ... EVER
good luck
Just reading this made me angry for you.
2006-08-23 11:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by curious georgette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I married my husband I brought my 2 kids from a previous marriage with me. My mother-in-law has never treated my kids nicely. She has been an absolute *****, not giving them any slack at all and treating them as though they were nobody's all because they are not "blood". Now, after 5 years of this my daughters do not tolerate her at all. When she comes around they go off into their rooms and will not talk to her. I don't discipline them for their attitudes towards her because she was the cause of it and I really don't think she deserves to be in their lives anyway. I really don't think there is a lot you can do because these kinds of people are just ignorant, stupid idiots who really should know better than to treat children like this. I'm not sure that you exploding on them will help the situation but it will make you feel a whole lot better. They are the ones missing out on their grandchildrens lives and it's their choice.
2006-08-23 12:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by cazzi_g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get used to the fact that your husband as well as his parents came with a set of "baggage" before you and he got married. As long as your husband's children from his first marriage are alive his ex wife will always have a tie to him and his family whether you like it or not. His parents have every right to dote on whomever they wish to in the family whether you like it or not. You don't get to dictate who they can or can not like. The only advice I can give you is to learn to deal with it because it's going to last for a very long time. These are a few of the things you should have thought about before getting involved with a man who was married and had children previously, there are always complications.
2006-08-30 04:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how sometimes we want family to be involved with family,but the truth is not everybody is going to be that way.The only ones that are reliable for the happiness of your kids are you and your husband and nobody else.As long as your husband is taking care of his other child and that's it.Stop trying to get them to be grandparents because they feel like what they do is enough and you cant make somebody change,they have to want to on their own.Maybe you could also have some jealously towards the ex-girlfriend.
2006-08-29 07:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never change these awful people. Show your kids what a class act you are by not responding to them and causing more trouble in the family. I would avoid them as much as possible. It sounds like your husband is lacking a backbone which I am sure does not help matters.
2006-08-23 12:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there are a few things going on here.
First, they are probably afraid of never seeing that grandchild again, so they treat the child and the ex like gold. Second, maybe they REALLY liked the ex, and resent you for taking her place.
Ignore them, see how long it takes before they crawl back!
2006-08-23 12:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that they don't like you and is taking it out on the kids (which hurts you more...wouldn't hurt much if they just treated you badly). They're evil people and your kids are better off without them. Has hubby stepped in and tried to talk to them? If not, he should.
2006-08-23 12:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something your husband has to take care of.
He needs to tell his parents how this makes the two of you feel & how this treatment makes you children feel.
If they continue, cut off all contact between them & your family.
Good Luck.
2006-08-23 12:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your project is rather very equivalent to mine. different than the ex became right into a woman chum and the youngster isn't his...yet comparable concept. His mom and dad handle me and my little ones as though we don't exists yet worship the floor the ex and her little ones walk on. that is sweet that your husband helps the variety you sense and feels the comparable way. You and your husband ought to consult together with his mom and dad and enable them to appreciate that your little ones reported it hurts them the way they are taken care of. clarify that the ex spouse is in basic terms that an ex spouse. they'd desire to flow on and start up up loving you and your little ones. in addition they'd desire to love your husbands different little ones too, are not getting me incorrect. The grandparents ought to love all of their grand little ones, rather because they are 0.5 brothers/sisters. If chatting with them does not artwork, enable your little ones to spend extra time with relatives that does coach they care. in the experience that your mom and dad love the youngsters and choose to work out them each and all the time, enable them to. How does your husband sense that they handle his first childrens extra advantageous than his 2nd? He ought to tell them. in case you recognize that they are 2 confronted, shop your words to a minimum. you do no longer choose them changing up what you reported so others do in comparison to you.
2016-12-17 16:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by joyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break of ties with them completely, but don't forget not to take out your anger on the ex's kid like they do to yours, it is never a child's fault.
2006-08-29 17:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋