I know this girl at the gym she is 21 and I am 29. We are good friends. This summer she went on a trip so I sent her an email inviting her to go out with me as soon as she gets back. I was trying to let her know that I wanted to have a closer friendship. She never replied and last night I saw her at the gym and she acted like she never received my email. Why do women do that ? Perhaps she does not want to hurt my feelings by saying NO to my invitation or perhaps she is insecure. She always replys to my emails right away. Should I give her time and just be friends and don't invite her out anymore ?
2006-08-23 11:53:50 · 7 answers · asked by davidcool756 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok... if her track record shows that she always and promptly replies to your emails, except for this one... Then, I would say she's using the idea of "never getting the email" as her way of not having to deal with the situation... Which, would lead me to believe that she values your friendship, and was possibly weirded out by the invite, and doesn't look at your relationship with any romantic interest, but didn't want to hurt your feelings and reject you. HOWEVER, unfortunately, there's always the possibility that she actually MIGHT be interested in you romantically and she really never did receive said email..... Solution? Give it a little time, feel it out... and if it feels like it might be the latter of the two scenarios... try asking her out again... However, please... not electronically.
2006-08-23 12:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by bluehorse89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question. It sounds to me as if she is not interested in a romantic relationship with you, and was not honest about receiving your email. If that is the case, it is unfortunate that she wasn't up front about the email, but maybe she wasn't confident enough to reply with a negative answer.
You are both members of the same gym, and you'll have lots of opportunities to spend time with her. Keep up the friendship and keep your eyes and ears open for any hints on her part for wanting to get closer. You may yet get the chance.
Here is another - totally different - method of getting a woman's attention. Are you dating anyone? Go ahead and go out with other women. And don't keep it a secret from the woman in your question. Most women will find a man more attractive if ANOTHER woman is interested in him. NOW-THIS IS IMPORTANT. Please do NOT go out with other women just to make her jealous. It would be wrong to use someone in that way. Go out with women whom you genuinely enjoy spending time with, and with whom you could see a relationship growing. Who knows, you may have more women after you than you can handle.
2006-08-23 19:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done this to guys before. I know it sucks for the guy but sometimes women just don't know how to turn a guy down. Honesty is important. So just come straight out and ask her if she's interested. If she continues to play games, then she's not the one for you anyway. At least you had the nerve to ask her out. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 18:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps she is just comfortable socializing with you at the gym and responding to emails that don't involve getting together one on one....hey some gym people can be weird that way.
2006-08-29 17:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kind of a rude thing to do, lol...she could just have the balls to say hey whatever i dont wanna go out with u..but instead shes hiding from the issue, which to me shows that u cud probably find a better girl. thats exactly the age of me and my husband im 21 and hes...well he just turned 30. she really should have just replied to it even if it was going to be negative....sorry 'bout your luck,
2006-08-23 19:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have not gotten your email .. it has happened to me a heap of times where that internet postman goes AWOL ... Send another ;)
GoodLuck to your both
2006-08-23 18:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she really didnt get it this time but if she did maybe she just want to be friends for right now.......are u sure she singled???? she probly just dont want to mess up yall friendship
2006-08-23 19:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋