Help...I feel trapped?

Question

I quit drinking 6 months ago because it was killing me.Although I feel 100% better the boredom is killng me. I find it hard going to pubs and talking to girls because I'm in an anxious state due to all the alcohol around me.I'm starting to wonder if sobriety is all it's cracked up to be and I would love to be able to just let my hair down and have a blow out but i daredn't.I'm 36 and struggling to find new things to relace the booze. Is there anyone who's been where i am and got through it that can give me any advice right now cos i feel like i'm wavering

Answer 1

If you hang around in a barber shop long enough, your going to get a hair cut. Stop going to "pubs". Go places that don't serve alcohol. There's plenty of women everywhere else.

Answer 2

The Good News Is Your Not Alone On This One,
The Bad News Is, The Road To Becoming And Staying In Recovery Sometimes Is Hard And, Yes At Times Lonely.

Here Is A Site That Will Help You,
http://stepchat.com/slate.htm

They Are People Who Are Going Through The Same Thing As You. You Are Not Alone On This. You Will Hear Many Stories, Some You Will Be Able To Relate To.
They Will Give You Ideas Of Things To Do To Occupy Your Mind, And Body.

But To Answer Your Question,
You Got To Stay Away From The Pubs And Places Where Alcohol Is Served. Going To These Places Is Like...

Hanging A Steak Around A Dogs Neck And Telling Him Not To Eat It.
He May Not For A While But Guaranteed With Time His Will Power Will Give In To His Temptation.

But Most Of All,(I Don't Know If Your Religious) But Pray For God To Take The Taste For Alcohol Out Of Your Mouth. To Give You The Strength You Will Need On The Long Hard Road Of Recovery.
Remember Recovery Is Life Long, The Alcohol Is Like A Demon That Will Always Try To Get You Back!!

Good-Luck!!

Answer 3

I think in this country our society is very limited in activites. Everything seems to centre around the pub. I'm not a big drinker - I'll have one drink when I go out and the rest is Diet Coke. I don't like alcohol. Luckily for me. My father was an alcholic, my grandparents all drank either too heavily or were alcoholics. I'm concerned too about the levels my sons drink. They dont' seem to be able to have a good time unless they're drunk. This is a sad reflection on society. I often wonder what muslims do, besides pray!
I suggest you get married and have children. That will give you something else to do!
Good luck.

Answer 4

Meeting people in a state of alcohol intoxication is great - you 'feel' confident although the next day are in a quandry. Would you rather meet people when on the pi*s, or when sober? Baring in mind that the majority of your relationship with a girl will hopefully be spent in sobriety, I do think it will be the latter. If not, your main 'new' worry will be - "will she like me when I'm sober?" Carry on the good work, although let your hair down now and again and be in control. A couple of nights a week drinking is no harm.... Let it get out of that and you are asking for trouble. Find something that stimulates your mind such as art, reading, writing, scuba diving, go-cart racing - anything!! And to wind down exercise! Walking, cycling, gym or even better - a sober night of love with your belle - read some books and find out how to turn a girl on to the max for a real confidence boost!!

Answer 5

I havent been there totally cos I still drink, but getting down the gym helped me a lot in cutting down. I didnt go till 9.00 at night (OK, it was more for a broken ankle rehab) but the boredom was the same.

Assuming you had a bad problem, have you been to aa? And I dont mean the road side pickup people. I am also assuming that you like to live life, are a bit of a social person, and dont want to start joining clubs unless you meet like minded people, which are game for a laugh and a bit of a live wire?

If you live round my neck of the woods, come meet me for a coffee, we can go go-karting or something! Theres lots of stuff like that you can do. You just need to make the suggestion to mates to go do it. I bet they would be up for it.

And pat yourself on the back for being so strong and giving the booze a rest! Good on ya.

Answer 6

Okay, don't go to pubs!
I am not a recovering alcoholic, just a non-drinker. Pubs and clubs are places that are entirely focused around the consumption of alcohol. If you don't drink in them, it makes the drinking people uncomfortable too. So generally, it is best to avoid them. Here are some great places to meet people:
At a ski hill.
Go back to school, you can meet new people.
Take a course - in music or art.
Go to a dance studio and take ballroom (there will always be girls there)
Good Luck!

Answer 7

You're doing great, don't give up. There is no way you can continue to drink and live a normal healthy life. You don't have to go to bars to have a good time, stay away from any place that has liquor, it will be too much of a temptation and you will feel anxious. There are so many fun things you can do besides drinking.

Answer 8

I stopped drinking 14 years ago for the same reason as you.IF YOU AN EX-DRINKER,THE MOST BORING PLACE IN THE WORLD IS A PUB.Join a club of some kind so you will have some-where to go in the evenings,or try reading,you could even get hooked on this site,the urge to drink at this stage,is your worst enemy,fight it.You have already gone through the hardest part,believe me it will get easier.Good luck.

Answer 9

Are there any chapters of Alcoholics Anonymous near you? Ask at a local hospital if you don't know. My nephew is going through the same thing so I know what a struggle it is. Please don't give up. Join AA and go to meetings as often as necessary. You need the support of people who can understand you because they have been through it. You are young enough to turn your life completely around and to reverse all the damage you have done to your body . That is a job worth doing. Please don't give up.....write your story when you feel bored and maybe someday it will make all the difference in someone's life.

Answer 10

I have not been through it, but I encourage you to stay strong. You're worth it!

I don't know where you live, but have you tried surfing, or hiking... Start playing tennis or join a baseball team?

Finding and surrounding yourself with people who live a healthy lifestyle will be great for you. Also, you don't really want a girl you meet in a bar, because that might cause you to drink further down the road.

Get with someone who likes the outdoors!

Got get 'em tiger!