My girl friend broke up with me little over a month ago, she wanted to be friends and get to know each other better, she also told me that she would be interested to get back together just not now she needs time to focus on herself. Since then we still talk to each other but not as often, and she usually calls me before bedtime and that's not happening anymore. She sometimes return my calls, and sometimes not. I'd asked to lunch she told me yeah, but never got a firm date and time with her. Is this how our friendship is going to be or am I expecting too much from her? I don't know what to think and I still love her. its really hard for me to deal with this right now. Any advise or suggestions. Yes, I do hope that we can still get back together someday.
2006-08-23 11:29:28 · 23 answers · asked by ThePrince 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really love her, give her a little space. Just not too much that you lose her. Allow her to realise what she is missing out on without you! If she loves you, then she will definately come back, just a matter of time. If she has lost her love, then i advise you to move on as there would be no point in wasting time and giving love to one who is not returning it!
Overall if she is a good mate, then make sure you don't lose her. Keep her as a mate and let her know that that's what you've decided. She may even come back in a matter of time.
Try to find out what's triggered all this. Why she has decided such a sudden move. If you've decided to be friends, find out why she don't return your calls. When you want to go for lunch. Set up a time and date and tell her. If she can't make it for then, then re arrange it. Just make sure you don't pressurise her too much to do things.
Hopefully she comes back to her senses. Wish you all the best!! Hope everything happens for the best!!
2006-08-23 11:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the awful truth: You are the "back-up guy" for her; the one she's keeping on the shelf just in case things don't work out with whoever she really wants. In between other relationships she may return your calls; if she's broke she may let you buy her dinner; if she needs a ride she'll call you.
Is this what you want in a friend? Do you deserve to be treated like this? I know it hurts, but she does not have the same kind of feelings for you that you have for her. Hanging on and waiting for her to pay attention to you will only make her respect you less.
You can't "turn off" your feelings instantly, but you CAN decide to make a healthy choice and move on. Who knows? Down the road you may wind up together, but not now.
2006-08-23 11:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by amivins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are expecting too much from her. I think she was trying to let you down gently with the friend line. Exes rarely make good friends after the fact because there is so much hurt and emotion to deal with, and how hard would it be to see her as a friend if she decided to move on and get another boyfriend? I say, move on. The sooner you cut her out of your life the sooner you will start to heal.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 12:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry 2 tell u but u need to move on. Stop calling her, enjoy yourself, go out and meet other people, & who knows maybe, just maybe, she might wonder why u stopped calling & she'll be the 1 looking 4 u. If she does, great, if not, there's plenty of other fish in the sea.
2006-08-23 11:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lil'MissSnshne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..hate to tell you this...she's not interested. Move on. This is her "nice" way of telling you to give up buddy because it's never gonna happen. Sorry you had to hear it from a stranger, but better to hear the truth now than later. At least you haven't wasted too much time.
2006-08-23 11:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing you, pal! "Focusing on herself".......translation:She wants to see what other relationship opportunities are out there. She is keeping you as "insurance".....in case it does not work out. No, you cannot be friends with her......because you want more than friends and it is not working. Pack it in and move on! The only way to get over her is to not have any contact at all. Stop making a fool out of yourself.....make decision to do your own thing......it is OVER!!!!
2006-08-23 11:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
F U CK HER! dont waste one more second on the dumb c u n t. Go out and get a hooker and call her when your F U C K I N G her and leave her a message telling her what your doing. Than send her the used condom in the mail.
2006-08-23 11:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by ilikegivingfacials 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to play it kool make sure you make it slear that you want to be friends with her. Give it time and she might come around and decide that she wants to get back together but you need to be patient and if you still love her this could be very VERY hard so good luck i hope it all works out.!
2006-08-23 11:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was the one who broke up with you....just go on with your life. The right person for you will arrive in no time. You can say hi to her when you see her around but not all the time. Life has to go on.
2006-08-23 11:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ajie F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time. Let her chase you. Hard as it will be to sit around and wait... dont. Go out and enjoy your life. If she is going to come around... she will, but in her own sweet time. Things my not be as they once were. You did not indicate why the breakup happened. Just chill awhile and let her come to you. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 11:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋