Why do religious people harp on about how good marriage is when its a total lie?

Question

Look at the level of divorce, the domestic violence, the marriages to get hold of guys money then a divorce, the marriages of convenience to get people in a country or all the forced arranged marriage rape slavery, honour killings, neglect, emotional, physical, mental and sexual abuse of spouses and children and that often from the religious lot...

Look at all the fights over custody and money etc...

All the affairs which occur as marriage is not all that good...



If marriage was that good none of this would occur not due to some moral code, some moral rule or a god or anything... just a case of people would be genuinely happy to stay with the person...


Plus what about those who don’t get to meet a perfect partner at 14, 15, 16, 18. 22. 28. 30. 35 even 45, 55 60 or never what are they supposed to do? level along and hurt and lonely & mess out on all contact and till the emotions and feelings shared between couples, never have an orgasim, or to hold anyone till to old?

Surely any marriage that works is no differnt to a live together thing...

Ie no rule makes it work, just lucky enough to find someone compatable partner you develop well with so can stay loved up

Note a miserable couple together does not count as a successful marraige just as together, it has to be a happy one with an active sex life

If the relationship was that good why do you need a marraige to cement it together?

Neither does living together as mate and mate and no love life.

Answer 1

I think its to do with religion exercising control.

Its true the marriage doesn't lead to happiness.

Its true that monogamy is not natural.

Answer 2

You are trying to address too much with your question. You asked about marriage not supposed soul-mates. So here's an answer: There are many kinds of marriage, many kinds of relationships, many kindds of truths. For every bad story there are 3 good ones. Some people are happily married in an arranged marriage, others believe that their love doesn't require a piece of paper. To judge others choices is controlling and closed minded. Some individuals should not be married and some people have been the victims of horrendous injustice. But some people are head over heels in love with their partner and want to solidify their bond. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 3

Christians (and Jews) are in favor of marriage because marriage is GOD's creation. And GOD hates divorce. (Old Testament)

Christians are in favor of marriage because JESUS taught and confirmed that marriage is one man plus one woman, for a lifetime. JESUS was not ever in favor of divorce, but allowing divorce in the circumstance of infidelity, and even then, only if the wounded spouse was too "stiff-necked" to forgive the adulterous spouse. Remember, JESUS is about forgiveness.) (New Testament)

Marriage represents the relationship between CHRIST and His church, which bestows GOD's special honor of marriage being a covenant, not a contract. This also explains why the enemy, satan, works so hard at destroying marriages.

If we Christians lived by the Word, we would not be divorcing, at all. Hence, there would be no custody, money issues, etc.

Since GOD does favor marriage, we can pray to Him for the spouse of His choice, and in His timing. Unfortunately, we are extremely impatient people and do not give GOD credit for knowing what He is doing.

Marriage can be wonderful. Just keep praying to GOD for a spouse and living your life for Him. GOD answers ALL prayers. And be open to hearing His answer. "GOD does speak..." Job 33.

GOD bless.

Answer 4

It`s about ideals,doing the right thing...not just religion but society.It makes it all neat.Marriage is an institution.If You dont get married then Your a failure.Well guess what-it`s a lot worse finding out the hard way !!Being a bigger failure.
Okay,that`s my logic/head speaking.Somewhere in my heart there`s still a childish hope of a fairytale /a flame of hope that hasn`t been extinguished.Well 'if' I did marry I would be head over heels in love that`s for sure.(I didn`t know I could be this sweet..aah),and it`d have to be more,a proper partnership.

Answer 5

I don't think the things you wrote indicate that marriage is bad, just evidence that marriage is made up of two sinful people who make mistakes. A lot of the problems you mentioned are problems that will occur after any relationship, whether or not the people were married.

Look into the benefits of marriage - health benefits, benefits to children, etc.

Answer 6

A happy marriage is not a lie if you are willing to work at it. I've been happily marrieds for 43 years. Of course, I came from a generation that was not into instant gratification and separation and divorce over the first rough spot. There were rough spots but we worked them out. Separation was never even considered. Unfortunately, Dr. Spock ruined generations of American lives.

Answer 7

Evidently, some marriages are better than others, but that might be because some people are committed enough to work at it.` I doubt if any marriage is "perfect".
Being "in love" with someone involves alot more than going to bed with them. There is getting up in the morning...morning, after morning, after morning....

So, what's next? Should we trash marriage altogether, and just go for an all out orgy??

Answer 8

Some are lucky and find love and never have issues in their marriage, others have all kinds of hurt and pain. Religion is a personal preference and the belief or lack of is also personal. If it is involved in a marriage, it helps to cement the committment in some instances, not at. Nothing is perfect. least of of human beings.Anyone is lucky to find love period, true, committed and faithful love under any conditions. That in itself makes it holy.........

Answer 9

HONEY IT IS NOT MARRIAGE THAT IS BAD IT IS THE PEOPLE THAT SIN AND MAKE IT BAD THEY DO NOT TRY THEY GIVE UP BECAUSE THE LAW OF MAN HAS MADE IT EASY FOR THEM TO RUN IF THEY FOLLOWED THE BIBLE AND WENT TO CHURCH THEY WOULD WORK ON IT HARDER MARRIAGE IS A 24/7 I SEE PEOPLE IN MY CHURCH THAT HAVE BEEN MARRIED 45, 50, 60 AND MORE YEARS AND THEY WILL TELL YOU IT WAS NOT EASY BUT BECAUSE OF THEIR BELIEF IN GOD AND THE BOUNDRIES OF MARRIAGE THEY STAYED AND THEY TRIED YOU SEE PEOPLE TODAY DO NOT WANT BOUNDARIES BUT I FEEL THAT IF TWO PEOPLE REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER AND PUT GOD FIRST IN THEIR LIFE IT STILL WON'T BE EASY BUT THEY WILL HAVE A BETTER CHANCE AFTER ALL LIFE IS A CHANCE

Answer 10

Cheer up dude, you'll find someone at some point, as long as you're happy with yourself.

If religion helps some people find and keep a healthy relationship with each other, then bring it on I say! And anything else that works! There is nothing better than sharing your life with someone, and any means is justified by that end.

Answer 11

all depends on effort put in by both partners. if both try to make work it will. i'm not married (am Jehovah's witness) and all couples and families seem genuinely happy with each other and give each other respect. i have seen hardly any marriage break ups with them, compared with about 30% of other mates who have broken up. but can see why u think that way, many are not bothered to put in effort after certain amount of time, but in my experience this is outside religious groups (Jehovah's witnesses anyway)