Any other healthier options you can think of..not going to go to therapy either. We are still really good friends but everytime we talk it rips my heart out....sucky...really sucky :-(
2006-08-23 11:14:11 · 13 answers · asked by numb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the constructive advice.. I was kinda joking with the whole alchy thing. Although I did do some of that the first week. :-) I do exercise. Everyday.. like a wild man especially right after. I just really thought we were perfect for each other, but my family wouldn't have accepted the situation and the other person wasn't okay with that.
2006-08-23 11:23:15 · update #1
Now we don't want to do too much drinking now! Then we develop that problem, where you won't have to worry about going to therapy, you would have to now be clearing your callender for your AA meetings. Be careful! Time heals all wounds, i can talk through experience. In the mean time occupy your time with things that you love doing,.............and OH! being really good friends does'nt help either, as a matter of fact its the next worst thing. Take a break,let the friendship lie a bit, untill you get yourself together, where maybe a healthier friendship can be had.
2006-08-23 11:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way for a long time we are still friends. but I did not turn to alchol .it is sucky you just have to deal with it, drinking is not the answer, it hurts like heck but I would rather be in his life as a friend than to totally lose him and never see him again, sometimes i think it would of been easier to get over him if i didn't see him.and him keep saying i love you every time we talked, he still says that, it's been a year and I just now got over him.
2006-08-23 11:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u are an alcoholic, and if u are not - u may become one by using alcohol to cope, sounds like u dont have very good coping skills, and that is one reason u are having problems getting over this break up. losing a loved one is not easy because u go through a grieving process, but the more u numb it with alcohol or drugs the worse off u will be because u are not letting ur mind do its job of FEELING and when you drink or cover up ur feelings u are just prolonging the recovery process - u must heal with healthier options.....like journaling , talking to peers, praying to ur higher power, meditaing, exercising, and CRYING...JUST LET YOUR BODY DO WHAT IT NEEDS TO DO.
2006-08-23 11:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Aubrey P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking only numbs the pain and wont make it go away.In fact it may intensify your feelings of hurt.Only time will heal you.You need time away from your ex to get yourself together.Go out with friends.Try a hobby.Find new friends.When you are ready then you can go back to friendship with your ex.But heal first.
2006-08-23 11:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously u both broke up on good terms, but was there a specific reason as to why he doesnt want to be with you? If there is, i recommend you buying the book "He's Just Not That Into You"- read it! it'll make you open up your eyes and realize that there are way more guys out there than just him.
2006-08-23 11:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by chicksgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know that feeling but the drink wont help its only makes u down.
take consolation in the fact that u r still friends most relationships end on worse notes.
just set urself a goal and work towards it things will get easier as time passes.
2006-08-23 11:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you healthy but you NEED to follow it because it works.
STAY away because you AREN'T friends that should see each other on a daily basis. Drinking is a band-aid, distance and OTHER friends...of the same sex preferably....for at least a few months is the cure!
2006-08-23 11:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Joe S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea put down the booze and go to the gym you will find someone there with a healthier outlook on life.
you know what you find at the bottom of a bottle?
NOTHING!
2006-08-23 11:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by longfellow j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about how you feel or talk to your mom or dad. but drinking wont solve anything it just might get you even more hurt in the future. but tell him how you feel and maybe he will get back together with you. good luck!!!!
2006-08-23 11:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by mustang_princess2222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run... run.... run....
It helps to work out!!! Takes all of the sadness out of you and you may even meet some hottie at the gym!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-08-23 11:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋