I have a 19 month old that is getting into everything! Normal, I know, but nothing helps Anything in her out of her reach is her target, she is CLIMBING. Any suggestions on how to make her STAY in time out? Hand smacking and even a pop on the butt doesn't do ANYTHING except make her do a high pitch scream and then start wailing like I just threw her across the room. Time out seems like the only other solution and I hope it works.
Terrible twos are starting early and I don't see it letting up anytime soon! LOL!
2006-08-23 11:07:58 · 14 answers · asked by Crazy Mama 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
HOW do you do time out with a child that BARELY sits for dinner?
Very hyper and energetic! I refuse to use her crib because that is her place to sleep, I don't want her to think she is being punished when it is time for a nap or time for bed.
2006-08-23 11:15:39 · update #1
I am trying the redirection, it is about a 50/50 chance on if it works or not.
Luckly the most dangerous thing she does is stand on toys, she is locked out of the kitchen except when it is time to put away dishes. She likes to help.
I simply make sure everything is turned off and put away the knives and let her in.
It just seems like every five seconds there is a meltdown on her part because I have told her "no" or taken her to do something else so she will stop doing something she wasn't suppose to. I feel like I am five seconds from my OWN meltdown! LOL!
2006-08-23 11:19:42 · update #2
We have a playpen, I am going to get my fiance to pull it out of the storage shed and put it back to use! LOL!
2006-08-23 14:45:58 · update #3
This is completely normal toddler behavior. Time-outs are ineffective b/c children don't have the mental ability to "think about what you did" until around age 7. Instead, state the rules positively and firmly. Instead of saying "Stop climbing on the table" say what she Should be doing instead. Children this young literally can't think of what they should do instead so you will have to tell her. "Feet stay on the floor. You can climb on the playset out back." If she starts the screaming or refuses to listen, offer her two equally acceptable choices. Try to make them as similar as possible to the unacceptable behavior she was doing. For example if she was climbing, she might want some movement activities. Say "Feet stay on the floor. Do you want to build with blocks or dance to music?" Both are similar to the climbing behavior, but both are OK by you. She can't say "NO" because the choices are blocks and dancing, rather than listening to you or not. Above all, be consistent. This research based method is called Love & Logic and I have used it for 5 yrs with the toddlers I teach. Good luck!
2006-08-24 04:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a 19 month old to want to touch anything in her reach-is perfectly natural. Expect it and you will save yourself a lot of grief. If you don't have a play-pen, get one . It keeps them safe ; and you sane .Hitting just teaches them to hit back . When it's time to work in the kitchen , they have those little tables that are low to the floor ( for toddlers) and it has a large table area around the child to play with their toys .When they get used to an established routine and learn their boundaries , structurally , they eventually calm down . Try to take the baby out in your yard or to a park several times a week and let her explore and roam ( while you chase her ). It will use up a lot of that "terrible two" energy ; which sometimes can last longer than two years .
By the way , if we tend to put too much focus on punishment - you'll find the child will constantly "test" you -as a way of getting attention ( negative or otherwise ). Reserve time -outs for the dangerous activities at that age . Otherwise their whole day will be nothing but" time-outs" , because they are curious by nature .It's most important to focus on the absolute "no-no's when they are under 3yrs. , like safety issues .The baby will be happier and so will you in the long run .
2006-08-23 11:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I Do. You're Lucky I've dealt with Toddlers. Yes The Terrible TWOs are the Hardest. why it's the hardest: the kids personalities are coming to express how they feel. It's normal. Your choice for any disciplinary action: Speak in a commanding voice. Not a loud voice. A voice - - A tone - - expressing to the kid that You Mean Business. After Your Express Yourself Then the Child Will Give a Facial, Hand Or Body Expression. Then You have Your Expression. Then You give Your Toddler a smile and open your arms. The Toddler will understand You The Parent. This action works all the time. You and Your Kid Meet at The Same Level.
2006-08-23 11:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by charms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Redirection.... Give her something to do!!! Let her play in the tupperware drawer or pots and pans... have boxes of toys you only bring out once a week.... it doesn't even have to be a toy - it can be an empty kleenex box and empty toilet paper rolls!!! Get outside and take a walk... go to the park... try just saying "uh uh uh uh" and moving her when she climbs and redirect.... and try to make it as safe as possible.... too many time outs will make time outs lose effectiveness - save it for serious infractions... and check out Positive Discipline or The Discipline Book for creative ways to deal with problems without spanking and time outs... it really does work. And you don't have to feel like a monster mommy for yelling, smacking and punishing all the time...
2006-08-23 11:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by populpit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sons terrible two started and months too mine climbs and mine laughs at me when i pop him on the hand butt or mouth. i have found the best punishment for him is time out. i put him in the corner and every time he gets i out without saying a word i put him back in eventuality he gets the point and stays in and i leave him in for a minute for every year i do this with all of the kids that i keep.After letting them sit there for there time than i tell them what they did wrong and what i would like them to do in that situation in the future then i make them say they are sorry and i tell them OK go play. If i find that it is something that they are do repeatedly even after time out i than take away there afternoon snack which id normally some kind of candy and that works
2006-08-23 11:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by take_me_away3354 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing when he was that age (with the meltdowns). During his 2-yo well-baby check-up, we did some allergy testing and found out that he was allergic to eggs. It was interesting because he wasn't having a physical reaction to them even though we would eat them every morning for breakfast.
Turns out, the meltdowns were his allergic reaction. Since we took him off the eggs, he's been a MILLION times better. He's still a 3yo boy but isn't freaking out at everything!
Your ped should be able to run a simple allergy test by just drawing blood. I suggest that every parent with an unruly kid check to see if it's just an allergic reaction before they start labeling ADD, ADHD, or (as in more of your case) unexplained/unnecessary meltdowns.
2006-08-23 11:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, been there and worn that cereal stained t-shirt! At this age little ones are madly curious about everything and her tears are pure frustration at not being able to explore their exciting new world. I know you can't explain to her 'why' she can't do the things she wants to, they don't understand explanations or the word 'no' - all they know is frustration at being stopped. Remember how you felt when you were dragged out of a great shop before you were finished shopping? That's how she feels about not being able to climb and grab the things that take her fancy.
Instead of physical reprimands, which just make her 'madder', and probably end up upsetting you more, why not try (as I did) 'Diversions', get her attention with something, divert her mind to what you want her to play with - anything that is safe and exciting to a child her age. I gave up the 'No!' and replaced it with 'Oh, look honey! Look what Mom found!' and dazzled him with a big shiny ball of scrunched up tinfoil or a squeaky book or something... it worked for me.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 11:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard at such a young age. If she is doing something dangerous (ie. pulling on an electric cord or getting by the turned on stove), take her out of the room and have something that catches her interest -- save something she really likes for such times. Otherwise, at her age, very short time outs, like 30 seconds, repeatedly may help her to get the idea for later. Again, try to change her attention to something she is allowed to play with. Lots of luck.
2006-08-23 11:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every time she gets out of time out calmly go get her and put her back in keep doing this until she stays there for her entire time out ( I use 1min per year because it has to be a time limit that they can understand)it takes a long time initially but the end result is worth it. I think the main thing is to stay calm and in control and if you follow thru it sets such a good example for future discipline.
2006-08-23 11:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by PediRN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a way to burn some of that energy, take her walking outside every morning and eveining. 15-20 minutes should help. get some toys that are safe to play with. the kids in my family LOVE cardboard boxes that they can climb in! take some time to sit on the floor and pretend wrestle or play blocks. get a sheet and make a tent, put some stuffed animals under it. teach her to throw a ball to you,
get a big ball from Wal-Mart, I hold it between my knees and bounce the baby on it, singing the abc's or counting or just singing nursery rhymes.
2006-08-23 12:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by snowcrablegs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋