I have been with my fiance for three years and when he asked me last year at 20 if I would marry him I said yes because I thought I was completely ready. What would I be missing out on if I got married right now?
2006-08-23 11:01:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you are asking this question its because you may not be ready. When you are ready, you will have no doubts about what you want, and you wont care what you miss out on.
2006-08-23 11:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 21 and he was 22. I'm 24 now and we're still doing just fine. We have our ups and downs like anyone else and I honestly don't believe we missed out on anything. We were together for a little over three years when we got married, engaged for about a year and a half. If you are having questions, then maybe now is not the right time for you to be getting married though. You have to be sure. So even though 21 is not too young to get married in my opinion, you have to be sure it's right at any age. Lots of luck to you though!!
2006-08-24 19:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by angelbear56722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person. For example, I am about to turn 19 and am nowhere near getting married. I don't even want to think about that until after college. Even if mr. perfect walked through the door right now. On the other hand, my best friend, who is only 6 months older than me, is getting married this june, which means she will be 20 when she gets married, is completely ready to settle down and get married and start a family. It really depends on the person and their lifestyle. Congratulations on the engagement and I hope you two stay happy and in love. So many young marriages don't last, and I am scared for my friend, but I guess I still support her decision. Just be careful, and follow all those cliche rules of newlyweds and getting along.
2006-08-23 19:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by KC_Meag42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't listen to those who say "if you have to ask you're not ready" doubt and insecurity are normal parts of an approaching wedding day.
2. Only yours and your fiancee's opinion of if you are ready matter.
3. 50 can be too young if you are not emotionally mature enough for marraige.
4. What exactly are you afraid of missing? Partying, sex, education? The first two - perhaps you should check your priorities and evaluate your level of commitment. The latter or any other situation you are fearing - you should have a discussion with your fiancee about yours and his intentions. Make sure they match.
5. It is fully possible to make a marriage work even if you aren't what others consider financially secure, but it is more work. You should sit down and budget and plan before the wedding to make sure to avoid conflict later. Disputes over finances is the number one cause of divorce.
6. You should discuss family plans and living arrangements first. If you want kids and find out 5 years from now he doesn't it could cause a serious problem
7. Remember it is a lot easier to get married than it is to get divorced. If you aren't sure (beyond normal jitters that is) set the date farther back or don't set one at all for a while.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-23 18:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice is to be 100% sure.
Young people like yourself tend to have a fairly tale perception of marriage. Marriage is often tough - and that's if you're with the perfect person. Otherwise, it's almost impossible.
And plus, people change in between 21 and 30. Sometimes a lot. Not for better or worse necessarily, but it just happens.
I'm not discouraging it. I'm 28, and I'm married for almost 2 years now. I love my wife, and love being married. But, it isn't easy. And I know that I wouldn't have been ready at the age of 21 , even if I had met the woman I eventually did get married to back then.
2006-08-23 18:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was engaged at 20 and married only 3 months after i turned 21... i didn't miss out on anything.. however, if you are worried about missing out on stuff, then maybe you shouldn't get married yet... if you're still into going out and partying, or being with your friends more than your fiance, then you're not ready. maybe you should spend a little more time thinking this over, and decide if you're really ready for such a big commitment.
2006-08-24 02:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if 21 is legal where u live then no your not too young to get married. what would you be missing by being married. sleeping with other people thats about it but why would u want to do that when the one your with is the one you love. being married does not mean your dead. you can do everything the same. you just now have someone to share it all with.
2006-08-23 18:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by super mummies life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think 21 is to young to get Married. Look if you really like this guy it wont madder how old either of you are ! Just have fun in life!
2006-08-23 20:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by loved_one_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt. you are not missing out on anything. Ask yourself did you miss out on anything in those 3 years you were dating him? If you didnt than go for and get married and you will have more fun. If you two like to go out alot you wont have to worry about getting home early so your parents wont get mad. Instead you can stay all night with him and than go home with him wihthout your parents waiting for you at the door. Good Luck! :)
2006-08-23 21:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I got married at 16 and I've been married now 5 years.
Secondly, if you have to ask if you're too young to a bunch of strangers that don't know or care...then you're too young and immature.
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2006-08-23 18:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋