My son had his first day of kindergarten today. He is a social butterfly and is extremely intelligent. I have no doubt that he will excel academically but he is quite the talker and I'm afraid he will not stay on task and listen to his teacher. He received a mark on one of his papers sent home that said, 'try to follow along as we work, ok'". He was also sent home in clean shorts because he had an accident. Do you think this is just because of the stress on him due to his first day? Do you think I should give him a few days before approaching him about it and see what happens? What should I say to him? Parents and teachers please encouraged to answer.
2006-08-23 10:36:34 · 12 answers · asked by mom_of_geniuses 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I have been both parent and teacher..so ..if he's a social butterfly it may take him a bt to understand that this is important work, and not time to chit chat..don't say anything about the accident, it could be that he didn't want to stop because he was having so much fun..if everything seems great with him, don't worry..he'll get into the groove of things..
2006-08-23 10:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Selena D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes children a week or so to get into the routine of school. Make sure & talk to him about the importance of listening to the teacher and sitting still. Explain to him that even if he knows what the teacher is saying, he has to stay quiet because the other children may not. I wouldn't worry to much about the accident, it was probably first day jitters & not wanting to ask. Talk to him as soon as you can about this, the quicker that you get across to him how important it is to be still and follow the rules, the faster he will catch on and then become the best kid in class.
2006-08-23 10:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by nelltx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was like that. Peed on himself three or four times a week and denied that his pants were wet all the way home. He was just having a blast. Bet yours has been adored to the point he can hardly contain his joy. Quit worrying about it. He will be fine. He's smart and friendly and at an age that nobody cares if he wets his pants. Tell him to slow down long enough for a potty break even if he doesn't think he has to go. As for paying attention, he'll be labelled ADD when he is probably allergic to dairy. Don't jump on the drug bandwagon. Kids who get tons of adoration at home during their first years, tend to not focus on what they are told to focus on when they begin school. Personally, I never could, but my kids did. I pulled my son out in second grade and taught him and his older sister for four years, the only regret I have is sending my son back at seventh grade for football. I should have kept him until ninth, like my daughter.
They are easily influenced by their peers in junior high and set with their own standards by high school. Just go with the flow and keep on adoring him, never show disappointment as long as he isn't hurting himself or others, his happiness will get him through very well in life.
2006-08-23 12:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by mspriveye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The accident is very normal, don't stress him out about it. I wouldn't talk to him about the paying attention part until a week goes by, and the teacher still sends notes. He JUST started, and it's quite an adjustment. He'll get into the flow of things after the first day jitters have worn off, and he'll understand what the teacher expects of him. Hang in there, he'll be fine!
2006-08-23 10:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about him it was the first day.. as for the shorts.. he was probably to excited and was doing something and just didn't get to the bathroom on time.. remind him to tell the teacher when he has to go to the bathroom and she will let him go and then he can come back to do what he was doing before he had to leave..
he will calm down.. and the teacher will find a way to get him to stop talking quiet so much.. they are really good with the kids.
don't worry so much mom everything will be fine..
have some rest while he is out of the house and don't worry so much.
2006-08-23 10:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him low-key reminders of how he is expected to behave at school. If he has a bathroom in his KG room (ours does) remind him that he can go to the bathroom any time he needs to and if he misses anything, the teacher will help to catch him up.
Don't get too stressed.....it's just the first day! The first couple of weeks are hard on a lot of kids.
2006-08-23 12:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The accident may have been stress, or maybe he didn't know where the toilet was, or didn't want to ask. It is not a problem. If it is still happening in a week's time, then talk to him.
Teachers have lots of practice in dealing with children who don't / won't / can't listen. Let them deal with it, but do support them if they suggest anything.
He'll be fine!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-23 10:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From 5-7 boys have as much testosterone as puberty. It makes them unable to spend lengths of time at one task. That is a ridiculous thing to write on his paper, not like he can read. She should be helping him to follow along as they go and keep him interested
2006-08-23 22:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom...you don't have nothing to worry about because i was and still am that kind of person and let me tell you your son has a very good talent which a few people including myself have...its weird but here it goes there is this thing in the back of our heads that records everything that someone says so even if we are busy with something we can still know whats going on,who's talking ,what they are saying ....and let me tell you i am the one kid in all my classes that doesn't pay attention to the teachers and has the highest GPA in all my classes so don't worry i was like that and still am....just one thing for later on tell him to keep his citizenship one level above unsatisfactory....what I'm saying is that he doesn't have to look at the teacher to know what she/he is saying...if you know what I'm saying....good luck...you have nothing in the world to worry about that...and best of all teachers really respect you when your like that...:)
2006-08-23 10:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe a little discipline is in order. I mean just because you think he is smart doesn't mean anything. He must behave in class. He must obey his teachers. Or he could be a genius and no one will ever know, because he wont learn anything.
2006-08-23 10:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by lisapj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋