Each has her point, and it's not a right or wrong argument. Sort of a generational gap disagreement.
2006-08-23 10:34:55 · 24 answers · asked by playbigfun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The parents should be a united front. Always support your wife in her decisions when dealing with a child. For one it shows the child that you stand together and will function as a team whereas they are only one person. And for another reason, you are going to live with your wife for the rest of your life, she is your soulmate and the one you made vows with. Your children wil move out, have their own family and respect you for doing so, and in turn use that strategy in their own lives.
2006-08-23 10:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by AbsintheLover 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should be on the side of Your Wife, as long as no harm is involved. You should always say that You both will discuss it, and then get back to Her. You should always present a united front. Ask Yourself, how would You like it if You told Your daughter one thing, and Your Wife undermined Your authority. You promised to love, honor, and cherish, Your Wife. She should be the most important Person in Your Life after, God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Once Children figure out They can divide and conquer, Your in a lot of trouble.
Like a very wise Man once said, When You disrespect My Wife, You disrespect Me.
God Bless
2006-08-23 17:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by Muffin Ann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a teenager and when my mom and I get into an argument my dad backs up my mom, but at the same time he backs me up. In this case just try to find out who has more reason and supports their argument better. That's what my dad does, since he does not want my mother and I to be mad at him when it comes to an argument, since we know that he not always takes one persons side he takes both. I say you listen to both of them or if not then just don't try to get all caught up into the mess lol Well good luck and take care
Ciao~
2006-08-23 18:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by a_cute_girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably need to side with your wife if you don't want to get divorced anytime soon ;-)
That being said, maybe you and your wife should get on the same page. It doesn't have to be about sides -- just working through the problems.
Ideally, you should try to facilitate understanding btw the two. I know it sounds cheesey, but if you takes sides and foster conflict, it'll just harm the family.
2006-08-23 17:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Suzi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take either side. Explain to them you can see each of their points and that it's not a right or wrong argument so they will have to settle it themselves. Maybe this will help point out to them that if they listen to what each other is saying that maybe they are both right.
2006-08-23 17:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by spottedtiger2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never... EVER get in between 2 scrappin' females. I'd rather receive root canal without anesthesia.
Just buy your wife a pair of nice earrings and your daughter an IPOD, and all will right in the universe...
Good luck with that.
2006-08-23 17:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! hey you know, if you want to be sleeping on the coach than go for your daughter but if you want to stay on your wifes good side than I would side with your wife. Plus, The children are suppose to be obedient to there parents, so I think its best if you side with your wife, its a good learning experence for your daughter too.
2006-08-23 17:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I presume the wife is not her mom? You need to get proffesional help ,because the teen years are turbulent and it wont be easy on your daughter, the wife is older ,a woman as such she is the one who needs to bring her [the girl] around and you must always listen to your daughter because she is part of yourself, a wife comes and goes, a child is forever.
2006-08-23 17:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A smart man would NEVER choose sides, in regards to arguing females (of any age or relationship).
You've got to be as wise as King Solomon (link) and come up with an equatable solution that is fair to both parties, all the while without losing your family jewels in the process.
Best of luck to you, my good man!
2006-08-23 17:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to your wife aside from your daughter because in order to have a healthy relationship with your family you need to be on a team with your wife, otherwise things cann get misunderstood. this is just an opinion, i hope it helped you somewhat at least. good luck.
2006-08-23 17:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋