My husband recently passed away and I'm wondering who does the bride dance with when they have the customary "dad & daughter" dance? I feel bad that she can't have that dance with him - my sisters husband is walking her down the isle but it doesn't seem appropriate for him to dance with her. Do we just not have that dad and daughter and groom and his mother dance for part of the traditional wedding?
2006-08-23 10:32:48 · 22 answers · asked by suzycrmchz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am very sorry for your loss. That day will be really hard for your daughter, so I would suggest not having the traditional father/daughter dance because it coud make her very upset with someone else filling in. If she is close to her new father in law, maybe she could dance with him to A wonderful world...Just an idea. Don't push her into dancing the dance, everyone will totally understand if she decides not to.
2006-08-23 15:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your husband recently passing away. Does the bride have a brother that would want to do a brother - sister dance together? I know it don't take the place of her dad but her brother is just as important part of her life. You could also do a mother - daughter dance in-place of the father - daughter dance. I think what ever you two decided will be just fine too. Good Luck and best wishes to your daughter.
2006-08-23 20:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by lady_bug418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride has a brother it would be a sweet moment to have the two of them dance together. However if she doesn't have a brother a grandfather or or close uncle just might do the trick. Before deciding anything talk to the groom to see how important the mother/groom dance is to him....it would be unfair to axe the dance without him being in the loop.
2006-08-23 18:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by bluearia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married also and my dad also passed away, but lucky me I have a wonderful brother (actually I have 4 but this one was more of a Father figure) that is going to walk me down the aisle and do father/daughter dance. If there are no brothers or uncles I think the mother dancing w/her daughter is just as beautiful! Why couldn't you walk her down the aisle as well? Hope everything works out!
2006-08-23 18:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first answer, where the bride has a 'dollar dance' instead of a father-daughter dance. maybe you can do a dance with the bride, mother of the bride, groom, mother/father of the groom...all together. or if the bride has brothers, cousins, uncles, godfathers, etc, maybe that can be their special dance. i don't think the groom should dance with his mom if the bride can't do the father-daughter dance though. it could turn out to make things a little too emotional on an already emotional day. maybe a groom-dad and bride-mom dance? something fun !
2006-08-23 17:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by discoballz82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. My father was a dead beat so my brother & Mom gave me away. We did not do the dances because my fiance did not dance. There are traditions old and new and the new idea of the bride dancing with her Mother sounds so sweet, it may even bring back memories of you two dancing together when she was a baby. I know I danced with my little girls and now my grandaughters and grandson all the time... (why do we stop?) Had my grandfather still been with us I would have quite happily danced with him, he was my hero! I pray your daughter's wedding is all she dreams of and more! Many Blessing on you both!
2006-08-23 19:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by loni1127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that decision is totally up to you guys. There is no written book stating you have to have someone in particular or a father-daughter dance at all. I would go through a list of people who are special to your daughter like grand fathers, brothers, uncles, cousins, friends, etc. If no one comes to mind you can always use a female close to her, or maybe even yourself. My cousin has a dead beat dad, so when she got married this past weekend our aunt gave her away because even though she isn't a guy, she was a second mother and was there for her more than her dad. Good luck and don't worry, do whatever you guys want to, it's your daughters special day to enjoy.
2006-08-23 17:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that her father has passed away. but i think maybe you should just take that part of the ceremony, my father was not at my wedding either, my brother walked me down and my mother gave me away when the dances came we did a dollar dance for the bride and groom instead of the father and daughter dance. hope this helps
2006-08-23 17:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by 2forme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having my grandfather dance with me on that one. What we did was choose 100 Years by Five For Fighting and I asked my grandfather to dance with me. I don't have a father so he was the next best thing. I know how hard it is to deal with something like this. Maybe she wants to dance with the mom. There is nothing wrong with that either. My mom is even walking me down the isle. That has become more and more common. I wish you all the best of luck!!! I am married in less than 2 weeks!!!
2006-08-23 20:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by myloveismusic11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father had passed away, so I had my older brother dance with me. Not a good idea, he was drunk as a skunk at that point, and I had to go looking for him; he didn't remember. You don't have to have that specific dance, after the couple dances, just have the attendants join in, then family, then everyone. *** I hope you don't mind if I add something here just for you, as mom of the bride. At my wedding, at some point at the dance, my mom came and got me to dance with her! It was so cool! Now, my mom at this time was 62 and I had never seen her dance, not even with my dad, who had died two years previously. I really don't know what prompted her to do it, but it was very sweet - I have a picture of us - and it gave us a nice quiet time to talk during a waltz.
2006-08-23 18:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋