i have a two year old that is a cry baby he cries for everything how do i get him to stop?

Question

his nana and papa spoil him way to much if he cries he gets it when he comes here or home he thinks that he should be king of the house and whatever he wants he should get even if i tell him no his dad says he is too young to know that crying gets him is way. how can i stop that and how can i tell his nana and papa to stop that becaue it is becoming a problem

Answer 1

He's doing it for the attention factor. Children love attention - good and bad. Totally ignore him when he fusses about not getting his way and tell him (in a quiet voice) that "crying will not get him what he wants." Explain to Nana and Papa what is going on and that you really need them to help you with the problem. Make them feel they are "needed" to resolve the behaviour problem.

Answer 2

Ask him why he is crying to let him know that you've acknowledged the situation (for example wanting a cookie before dinner) and then explain (one time) why he can't have what he wants. Then leave the room or occupy yourself with something while he is crying. Once he sees that whining will not get your attention it will become much less frequent. As for the grandparents, it's their job to spoil their grandkids and while they shouldn't overdo it, a little spoiling is okay and your son will see there is a difference between the two households as far as expectations. If they are really being overindulgent you may bring up the problem but try not to be accusatory because it will backfire and you'll seem like the mean mom. Good Luck

Answer 3

Your son knows that crying is getting him exactly what he wants.

Be strict with his grandparents. Tell him the problems you are having him with and that they can't let him have his way all the time. At 2 he should be able to let you know to a certain extent what it is he wants. If you or however is taking care of him says no, then it's no. Put him in a time-out if needed. You need to show him now that your the boss, not him and he can't get everything he wants all the time. Otherwise, you'll have major problems as he gets older and learns to talk. If he throws a tantrum, let him.

I use to baby-sit a 2 year old who would cry if he didn't get what he wanted. But, if I said no, it was no. He would cry, scream and throw himself on the floor. I would simply walk away. Eventually he would realize that I wasn't going to give in and he would stop.

It is hard to do at times, I know you don't want to hear your child crying and it probably makes you feel mean. But, it needs to be done. He'll learn and the eventually grow out of it.

Answer 4

I had the same problem when my daughter was that age.

First, whenever he cries, ignore him; with the exception that he is injured of course. Children learn early on how to manipulate to get what they want. He knows that everytime he throws a fit that you or your husband, even his grandparents will give into his needs.

I will give you an example that happened to me. When I would go grocery shopping, my daughter would try and throw a fit in the store to get what she wanted. When she would yell, I would mimic her and embarass her. Yes, people will look at you. It only took me twice before she did not throw fits in the store. I learned that she did not like being embarassed. Also, if you go to the store before dinner time or closer to lunch, give your son a box of toddler cookies. Your going to pay for them anyways, it's okay to let him snack on stuff while you shop.

As for his grandparents, you and your husband need to have a good talk with them. Let them know of rules that you set for your child. It makes it harder to raise a child the way the two of you seem fit, when other people are not respecting your decisions.

Remember, you are the parents, you set the rules. My daughter is a happy six year old who enjoys school and has a wonderful personality. My daughter also is disciplned. I don't spank my child, but I have been putting her in time-outs since she was two.

When she was 2 I always sat in a room with her for about 2-5 minutes or when she finally stopped crying. Now that she is older, I always make sure that she understands what she did to get herself in a time-out.

You can also talk to his pediatrician to get more advice.

Answer 5

Tough love, don't give in when he screams for something but reward with lots of praise when he asks for something nicely and for good behavior. The reason he acts like that is because you have let him he is 2 years old and will have tantrums occasionally but not all the time. You need to be firmer your the parent not him!

Answer 6

Did you know that babies are somewhat similair like pet dogs. For example if a dog hears the word no, hell start getting all wild up, You should use more love with vissualness!! Learn to take your child for long walks. More vissualness less words make more listeness!!

Answer 7

Does he talk?? If he does, tell him he can ask you for ...whatever.. and if it's something he doesn't need, explain that to him, but tell him that he is getting bigger and doesn't need to cry, that you love him but don't like him acting that way..I have a 20 month old, I have never swatted him, we haven't had a problem..

Answer 8

beat the living sh!t out of him then when you say stop he will know to stop, or shake the living sh!t out of him,

Nonviolent then when he cries put him in his room take everything entertaining out of there maybe 1 book but an advanced book, leave him there for 2 hours or until he stops

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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Try these articles.. Maybe tickle him and laugh when he starts crying. Change the mood and make him forget what he's doing.