My wife and I were married for 2 years until we ahd our first child. That was 12 years ago. He was born with autism. He can't do much now at all. She divorced me because I told her that I couldn't raise a retarded child. My ex wife just died and now the state has put the boy in my home. The truth of the matter is that I got over him a long time ago and I don't want to come back into his life now and i think it would hurt too much to start now. I've stopped loving him. Is that wrong? I also don't have the time to take care of his needs. I hear that there are state run insitutions that I can put the boy in. How do i go about admitting him into one of them without any money out of my pocket.
2006-08-23 10:30:47 · 50 answers · asked by Walker T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So very sad. Your Son is a Child of God, and God doesn't make mistakes. He is a blessing, and honestly it sounds like He would be better off in another home. Just do not put Him in a State Institution, find a Family that adopts Children with Autism. That is the least You can do for Him.
God Bless Your Son
2006-08-23 10:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea where you are coming from and can only hope that there is something mentally wrong with you. My son is autistic and he is a terrific guy , who can function quite well in society. You have already upset more than a few people. Are you honestly the kind of person that is willing to give up on any obstacle that you may come across? What a lamea$$ you must be. That boy NEEDS you right now and you want to walk away and you tell yourself that you no longer love him?!?
The best thing for you to do is to try and get him a loving home. If you feel that you cannot provide that then I suggest that you find one for him. I believe that if you were to go to the State that they could help you with this, I do not know the cost-if any, however.
I wish you and your son all of the luck in the world.
Do you realize that you have just insulted many people? Do you even care? The people that have even bothered to answer are putting aside their feelings of rage for something that they are not even sure is serious. I seriously hope that you are not trying to screw with people's heart's-they really do care.
2006-08-24 16:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by Colleen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Of course there's something wrong with that! How could you not love your own son? Who cares if he has autism- he's still your son! "A retarded child"? Do you think he wanted to be born autistic? Your son needs your help, and all you can do is whine to us about how you don't want to spend any money on him. Think about how your ex would feel, knowing that her child's biological father doesn't love him.
You make me SICK! If I knew how to, I'd inform the state about this and have them take that child out of your custody. You don't deserve to be a parent!
2006-08-23 10:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
That is just sad! I couldn't have children, so we adopted... We adopted 4 kids, all with different problems. One of our kids has severe problems, seizures, born with a syndrome and mentally retarded. She is 11 but functions at a 1-2 year old level. We have had her since birth. We could not turn our backs on her because she has problems. She didn't ask to be born with these problems. We love her unconditionally even if she isn't our biological daughter.
Who is it going to hurt? You and your life style? Is it wrong to stop loving your child? Absolutely! It's as if you are treating him like he is trash, you just throw it out when your done. He is a human being, a product of you! You just can't throw him out.
If I were you, I would consider signing papers to relinquish your rights to him, so he can be adopted out to some loving and caring family. It won't cost you a d*** dime! Call your nearest Social Services.
2006-08-23 14:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by duh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably better that you let someone with a heart and compassion raise your son. apparently you dont have the common decency inside you to realize the boy just lost his mother, his lifeline. now, you, the father, finally have the chance to get to know your son and you want to throw away that oppertunity....you really are a peice of work. How dare you even think that about your own child, you selfish sorry excuse for a man. when you decide you have sex, you know there is a chance a child could come of it. and a child did. just because he isnt exactly the way you want him, doesnt make him any less of a person or any less YOUR child. So you do the right thing and give up custody of that child. you dont deserve to get to raise him and be the one that makes him smile. you dont deserve the oppertunity to do the one unselfish thing an adult can do- raise their children. do the boy a favor and give em up!! i honestly dont know how you sleep at night or look at yourself in the mirror. you should be ashamed of yourself.
2006-08-23 10:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for that child is give him to the state which would void all your rights. Then a caring, loving family will happily adopt the boy. I have a 10 year mentally handicapped child and you have no idea how much joy you are letting go.
2006-08-23 10:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What was God thinking....first your poor son has to live with a disability, his mother dies and then if that is not enough, he gets stuck with you. You have a worse disability...it's called s**** for brains. Please, Please get in touch with the autism society and beg them to place him in a special home or group home....why would you think "institution" right away. With the right training and of course love and care (which he can't get from you) he could contribute to his well being and society. And how stupid anyone would think you would be willing to support you son. Ever hear that if you play, you have to pay??? I'm sure he'll get over you quicker than you got over him. The only credit I give you is you can admit you have no use for your son. I have a request and/or demand....GET A VASECTOMY LIKE YESTERDAY!!!!
2006-08-23 11:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Nunya B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing for you not to want him and it's another thing for you shirk the financial responsibility of him, disabled or not. One of my closest friends with autism and it gets real frustrating for him at times. I would imagine if you want out of it all together you would have to go thru legal proceedings and make him a ward of the state. You might want to talk to the Dept. of Social Services/Human Resources. and consult an attorney. With you being the biological father, not going to be easy for you to pass the financial burden off on someone else. Doesn't he recieve disability or some sort of social security income to help in this matter. Best of Luck and sorry to hear about your situation.
2006-08-23 10:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give up the child to the state. Call a local family attorney and talk to him/her about what you must do in order to give up all parental rights to the state. However, I would suggest that you simply eat a bullet and save the rest of the world the hassle of having to deal with you. Then your son could inherit your estate and the money could be used to better his life.
2006-08-23 10:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by mufasa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have no soul. my cousin has autism and he is a funny person
who is always in a good mood. People with autism are people too. They have feelings. They need to be loved. They need to play and exercise and think and do things just like a normal person would. They just need a little help. Though in your case, because you're such an asshole, I think he'd be better off with someone else taking care of him.
2006-08-23 10:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋