I have a real doozy of a problem?

Question

I asked my fiances niece to be my maid of honor ...when I was drunk. My problem is that I have no memory of asking her and I really want my sister to be my maid of honor. How do I tell her that I want my sister? HELP!!!!!!!

Answer 1

OOPS! You do have a real doozy of a problem. Your sister's feelings and your of course should be the most important thing, but I am so grateful you just don't want to hurt this niece's feelings. Start about starting off on the wrong foot with your new family. Ok, simple, 2 maid of honors. Why not, lots of people do it. If anyone asks, just say you just couldn't choose, so you decided to have 2. If one of the girls were married, it's simple. The married one would be your matron of honor.
If neither is married, have a little private talk with each one. Tell the niece, that you had always promised your sister the honor, but you want her to. So, to please understanding that you didn't want to hurt either of their feelings.
Your sister, do the same thing, tell her the truth, if you can trust her to keep it quiet, and tell her you just didn't in-law problems before the wedding. She should understand competely, and you two may even have a good laugh about the whole thing....

God bless us all......

PS. no more getting drunk till after the wedding I think 3 maid of honors would be pushing it

Answer 2

Option 1:
Come clean, completely. Ask the niece to understand.
Option 2:
Ask the sister to put up a big stink about it in front of the niece. Have her claim you promised it to her last month when you were in another drunken binge. (this basically puts the heat on the sister, hope she likes you)
Option 3:
How many witnesses were there, can you claim you said something similar "I wish you were my maid of honor" etc
Option 4:
Place her in another role that is of equivalent nature (like godparent of first child etc)
Option 5:
Bribe, hard cash can work wonders
Option 6:
Get someone else to guilt her out of it (like the nieces parents).
Option 7:
Tie the maid of honor responsibility to something the niece can/wont/or doesn't want to do (like being a part of a bachelorette party from hell)

Good Luck

Answer 3

Do what my sister in law did... Ask your sister to be a maid of honor as well. If there is any fuss between the two of them tell them I love you both too much to choose, or you both mean a lot to me so I have decided that you both should be honored. If you un-ask your cousin there will be tension and she will feel hurt. Good Luck!

Answer 4

If she is just as special to you, and close to you as your sister, then have them both as maids of honor.

Another more techincal solution may work if your sister is married and the neice is not married- your sis could be "Matron of Honor", and the neice "Maid of Honor". (Matron refers to a married woman, maid is more of a general term)

If she is NOT as special to you as your sister, then you may need to do some talking. Tell her you were drunk and you 'forgot' that you can only have one maid of honor and you meant bridesmaid. Soften the blow by asking her to do something else in addition to being a bridesmaid like plan the bachelorette party.

Answer 5

i'm guessing you want to prepare your artwork, so i will attempt to prepare you the way I were given my solutions.. A. artwork: ok before each little thing you ought to get 2 equations equalled to one yet another to get the fee of the slope(m), then you plug it in to discover the quite equation. First enable's take care of two years in the past. X=-2 and y =210. so that you're saying that 210=-2m, so 210 +2m=0. Now the present: X=0 and y = 220. So, 220=0c, and 220=o Set the equations equivalent to eachother.. 210 +2m = 220, then 2m = 10, then m = 5. Now we can positioned this equation in slope intercept sort..(y=mx+b). y=5x + b. b is the y intercept, to discover that we plug in the point at x=0. So, 220=5*0 +b. b = 220. answer to A is: y=5x+220. B. okay to graph it, first graph the criteria for x= -10 and x=10, then connect the criteria. For x=-10, plug into equation to get the y. y=5*-10 +220, so y = 100 and seventy For x=10 y=5*a million- +220, so y =270 answer: connect those factors on a graph: (-10, 100 and seventy) and (10, 270) For questions C and d, you're honestly basically plugging factors into the equation y=5x + 220. C. a million. y= 5*-5 +220, y=-25 +220, y=195 answer: 195 human beings 2. 100 seventy 5=5x +220, 35=x + 40 4, x=-9 answer: 9 years in the past D. a million. y=5*8 +220, y= 40 +220, y=260 answer: 260 human beings 2. 275=5x +220, fifty 5= x + 40 4, x=eleven answer: eleven years from now i desire this helped, it really is honestly plugging each little thing into one equation, so with any success you would possibly want to have the abilities to finish similar issues in the destiny.

Answer 6

Have them both be a maid of honor. Only your sister stands first. She would be second in line. Why would she take you seriously anyway if you were drunk?

Answer 7

Make your neice a matron of honor. Your sister the maid of honor and have them both with you. Good luck!

Answer 8

EEEK! You could twist it a bit and say that your sister felt horrible when you didn't ask her ... and that you'd like to pass the title of maid of honor to her instead so she won't be upset. Or you could sya you forgot that you'd promised the title to your sister years ago...
Or just be honest... She should understand that you want the honor to go to someone in your family!
Good luck!

Answer 9

That's rough... Explain to her that you want her to be in the wedding and that she is really important to you, but you misspoke. Tell her that you wanted her to be a bridesmaid/reader/usher, but your sister is going to be your bridesmaid because you had a deal going back forever. Or you can make them co-maid of honors.

Good Luck!