My mom doesn't wanna let me date until i'm 16 but i dont turn 16 until the end of next summer and that really sucks!!!!! What do i do plz give me some good advice
2006-08-23 10:26:19 · 25 answers · asked by Tink*In*Pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My mom doesn't wanna let me date until i'm 16 but i dont turn 16 until the end of next summer and that really sucks!!!!! What do i do plz give me some good advice
and i dont necessarily want to go against my mom
2006-08-23 10:40:16 · update #1
Ok, here's a "fathers" spin on this little problem. My dear, I don't know your current situation at home, (you said your mom, but is there a father opinion in this too?) I have an 18yo daughter who just married, and I now have my first grandchild! Now, I must be honest, at first I was NOT thrilled with my daughter dating at 16, but soon learned to accept the facts of life. While I'm not a girl, I WAS 16 once myself, and had little resistance from my mom about dating. Ok, Ok I know, I'm a male and we're supposed to get more slack and not have our folks worry so much.....but they did, and it didn't stunt my growth or give me pimples or any such thing......lol.... But honestly, I was a bit weary with my daughter for quite sometime at first. However, (and I think you'll like this part!) If you and your mom have a good relationship, and she TRUSTS you, she'll allow you to date under certain conditions......For example, I used to double-date with my best friend as a safety net.......Not so much for me, but for the benefit of HER mom. Besides that, it kept me from allowing things to go to far TOO fast.....get it? Aside from that, and again depending on your circumstance, she herself has to look back at her teenage years and ask herself what she felt and how she reacted at that time.
There is one more thing.........Things back then where quite a bit different than they are today, (AID, DRUGS, and VIOLENCE) sooooooooo, in closing I must remind you young lady, that YOU and you alone are (or at least should be) the one in charge, and in control of your date. Just be true to yourself, and remember that whatever you do, you WILL have to live with those consequences.....Good luck!!
Lee
P.S. One more thing......Sexy Hottie is NOT an approriate nickname for a 16yo, so SLOW DOWN plz??
2006-08-23 10:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your Mom, wait until you are 16. What's the rush? You'll be surprised at the maturity you can gain in that one year...and be better able to handle the issues that can come up when you start dating.
If your Mom will let you go out in group situations, then at least you could still spend time around guys you like, and socialize...but truly, 16 is plenty young enough to begin dating...
Sorry, I know that's not what you wanted to hear...but I've been down that path and I remember how it was...
2006-08-23 10:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient you're young and trust me look on this site, many older women are still dating and unhappy, dating boys are no going out of style, it will be here waiting for you when your mom says it's okay for you to date. You can date at anytime in the future but your youth and innocence you'll never get back, enjoy being a kid a little longer, cause before you know it you'll be dating and have many problems bigger than what you have no. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-23 10:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Wood77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stick with going out with guys without actually going anywhere. You can be in a relationship without being somewhere to make-out. I know it stinks but you can't go against your Mom, and maybe, if you wait, the real Mr. Perfect for you will turn up just when you can really date him, and that's where the fun will begin....
Good Luck!!!
(or you could try sneaking out of the house, but it's not advisable, your parents could think you got kidnapped and call the police.)
Grace
2006-08-23 10:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Hayley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is dating THAT important to you.... and by what benifits are you going to gain from dating.... ???
Dont be so concerned on this issue.... as wanting to date can mean that you may be dating for the wrong reasons.....
Date for the right reasons.... and if you really like someone... explain to you Mom about it... but maturely!!!!
Talking to your Mom in a mature, but honest way may make her realise that you are not 8 years old anymore... but dont be upset if she still says no!! Your time will come... and guys will always be about!!!
Please be careful with the dating game... and be careful who the guy is.... and make you they want to date you for the right reasons too!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-08-23 10:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think 16 is a good age limit for dating. however, since you're here to go against your mother, does she object to you having friends who are boys? if not, i'd say there's an easy way around this. now, if you don't want to mislead your mother, then you're gonna have to wait until you're 16. besides, any guy who truly deserves you will until you're 16. i know next summer feels like an eternity, but it's not.
2006-08-23 10:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by vam_pire_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, carried out that and offered a t-shirt. Being a step-determine isn't common. what you may desire to keep in mind is and not asserting which you're doing this, yet keep in mind you're no longer her mom, dicipline is during the father and mom. it is your interest to aim and be a some individual who evokes her to be diverse, sturdy, etc. Your substantial concern is the ex. she is jealous, and afraid that the daughter will think of greater of you and the father than her, so she feels that via letting her do what she needs so as that mom seems cool, and speaking crap approximately you, she has secured her place as "the cool mom". Any issues which you have with the daughter you may desire to inform your husband. He desires to take a seat together with his daughter and tell her which you're his spouse, and that he won't enable her to handle you like crap. Now she will have the means to resent this order, yet finally she will have the means to work out which you're no longer as undesirable via fact the mummy is making you out to be, as long as you stay independent. He won't be able to alter how the ex is appearing. In our case, we've been all adults approximately it, and the ex and that i'm getting alongside, no longer each and all of the time, yet for the main section we do. She too had little to no regulations, and used the excuse that she would desire to no longer cope with them....enable me shed a sprint easy on what happens while there are no longer any regulations.....the eldest have been given pregnant at 19, single determine....drug addiction, alcoholic, 2 greater little ones via the time she replaced into 25. she is now in her 30's clean and sober. yet another daughter single determine of two, she is a drug addict and alcoholic. yet another is a recuperating alcoholic and addict besides. She isn't doing this toddler any favors via letting her do as she needs and if she does not positioned the brakes in this toddler, she will have the means to finally end up via fact the above.....and then rather of because it rather is via fact she had no regulations, she will have the means to blame the father for no longer being there and thier divorce. i'm a company believer in no longer common love, and that in case you do love your little ones, you will set regulations and bounds for them. those little ones are our destiny leaders, and somebody desires to instruct them morals, self admire, and to admire others. your doorstep daughter isn't getting this from her mom, via fact she desires to be the cool determine.
2016-09-29 21:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is almost the end of the summer only one more year, if you can't wait then that shows that you are too immature to be dating. You need to respect your parents wishes.
PS Learn to write out ALL your words.
2006-08-23 10:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents want to see maturity.
You will do as she has requested, so she sees that you can act in a mature manner.
That, however, does not stop you from planning things so when the gates open up, you're ready to go
2006-08-23 10:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
arrange an event to go anywhere, movies works well, and tell her that more people ore going even if its your bf or a double date. just say its a big group of friends going and then make some people up.
2006-08-23 10:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo Security 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋