my g\f was hanging out with her best friends and a guy who her best friend know ask them to come over. well they were there this guy touches my g/f against her will..she tell me about all the details and i guess her best friend had no clue anything had happened...well i told her to never go over there ever again...well i was over to this best friends house the other day and my g/f say "i will be right back"...well as i am sitting there watching TV the b/f of the best friends say to me " i wanna give u a heads up" i was like what? u know your girl went down to that guys house who touched her..i was like ..what..so i went down to the house and i knew she was there but the guy told me she wasn't so i waited for 2 hrs and sure enough she came out..she told me she was only their with her friend to babysit. .then tells me he tried to do other stuff but her friend stoped him...i asked her to promise me to never go their again and she told me she can't.. what should i do about this ????
2006-08-23 10:25:19 · 7 answers · asked by frank d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's lying to you. This situation does not make sense, and any time something doesn't make sense, there's a clear reason why it doesn't make sense.
If someone was touching her in a way that made her feel uncomfortable she would NOT put herself in the position for that to happen endless times. She may say she's doing it for her friend, but it really just sounds like she's trying to rationalize her nonsensical behavior.
It also sounds like she has a guilty conscience...for something, and told you to make herself feel better.
If not, why did she go over there and not tell you straight up her predicament over "babysitting".
She didn't tell YOU, her fiance, where she was going, but that other guy knew? Don't you think that's odd. Think to yourself how would he know? Why did she not tell you before you caught her? A logical person would not put themselves in a position to get raped or be touched by someone, and if they were going to be in that position they would want to bring someone like their fiance to make sure that doesn't happen. People always do what they want to do, but before you become legally and financially binded to someone who doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you, maybe you should think about putting your plans on hold. (or off all together) I would- because if you don't have honesty - you've got nothing, your entire relationship means nothing. You can't build a home on an unsound foundation, the truth is and always will be what it is, the truth.
PS Asking this question signifies you do not believe her, but you either do not feel confident in your own conclusions or you're in denial, by remaining in denial you set a precedent for her, meaning if she lies to you it's OK, because you're not going to do anything about it anyway. Like I said she's going to do what she wants to do anyway, the only one who stands to get hurt is you.
2006-08-23 10:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Meryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do... You dont even need to ask. Deep down, you know she is lying, and you doubt her... can you live with this girl for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE in doubt??? NO! you need to break it off for good... ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER... and I guarantee... she was cheating. She was NOT babysitting and he probably didnt touch her inappropriately... SHe probably wanted him to. Talk to him, Ill bet he will tell you exactly what happened. And Hes more reliable since he probably doesnt care about you or her. But she cares about you and doesnt want to get caught so Id bet good money she is lying through her crooked little teeth!
2006-08-23 10:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the HEll!!!!!!!!!!!!! U R about to get married and ur girl is going over a guys house who keep on touching her and she keeps going over that dudes house obviously she love what he is doing to her.And think when you went over the guy's house he denied the fact that she was there if i was u i would dump that girl and go get a honest one. That's the same thing why me and my bf broke up. You sound like a nice guy don't let a girl mess up ur life dump her now DON'T GET MARRIED TO HER!!!!!!!!!! if u do she will do the same thing.
2006-08-23 10:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright listen here...if you honestly have to think about this question you are blinded by love...shes cheating on you its so obvious and the whole hes touching me story is a cover up so you would think he is the last person you would expect she would be with...she obviously isnt thinking about your relationship and just herslef. best thing is get out of this before you get hurt
2006-08-23 10:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by DrakeE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's her own person so she's going to do whatever she wants. The only thing you can do is trust her.
2006-08-23 10:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsam_goindumb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not being faithful, and if she loved you like she should, she wouldn't do t hat to you, that's a new low of low's....
2006-08-23 10:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to dump her.
2006-08-23 10:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋