What do i do about a relationship that has gone south?

Question

I have put 5 yrs. into this relationship to make it work. Yes , we have had our roller coaster.But we've always worked it out I've Set her up in a new home, started 2 buss. financed thru me , auto's, taken care , and loved her kids (2) I have 2 of my own , whom i have custody of. Take her on multiple vactions/trips anually, I have a High sexaul drive, she recently cut- off this need. Has said she needs her space, Im 42, shes soon to be 36 ...I am deeeply in love willing to marry her, "what do i do"? I have recently found a phone bill showing her to communicate w/ a caller , over 70+ times in a mth.(April, May period) whom is a male caller, that is married, (we were , at the time apart ...for 45+ days...Any advise, please help

This is my Buddy , by the way...not me!

Also, he is a very well to do fellow, sharp dresser, makes $$, fun guy , looks are decent, im not gay...and im married!

Answer 1

Ditch the witch.
Too bad she has no sense of loyalty. Too bad she wasn't mature enough to talk to you if she was unhappy.
Her phone calls to some other guy are a travesty. Especially if he's married. She likely thinks that the new dude will be a better fit for her, but seems to be keeping you on stand by with the "space" B.S.
Kick her to the curb. She'll either smarten up quick, or smarten up slow, but if you keep giving her the space she needs, and providing for her the way you have been, you are condoning her behavior. You're allowing her to poo on you while she investigates this new opportunity.
Kick her to the curb right now, and cut her off. Don't wait around and hope she makes the decision that you want her to.
Go find a woman who deserves to be with you, not one who is passing time with you until somebody "better" comes along. This new guy isn't going to take care of her. He's already got a family. She'll find out PDQ that she is his second choice, and that he doesn't love her, he just wants to do her. Otherwise, he would have insisted that they both be single before they pursued a relationship.
Your kids don't need this crap. Ditch her before you find out all the gory details, before it gets ugly.
If she ends up learning from her mistake, tell her she's allowed to come back if she gets a job and holds her own, 'cause this wasn't meant to be a free ride.
Sorry, I'm PMSing, but I mean it. Cut it off. End it. Kill it. You deserve better.

Answer 2

Your asking this in the religion and spirituality section, so I am assuming you are looking for an answer that defies what you know in your head.

Honestly you should have married her before you had sex with her, but without a solid biblical background you would not have known the reason behind this rule.

This relationship may be gone, because without her consent, you will not be able to work it out even within a biblically counseled situation.

Advise for next time. Read and reread your bible, if you do not own one, buy one or get one from a biblically doctrinal church. If you have little to no background in reading the bible, buy a version written for about the sixth grade level. Not that you are not educated, I assume you are. But its a great first introduction bible written in everyday language. It does not tell the entire detail and once you are ready for that, buy a new king James or Regular King James version.

Understanding and having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ will give you the tools you need once you are ready to pursue another relationship or if this woman is still around, the tools needed to make it work.

Basically, I am telling you to get to know your creator first, then look for the mate that you were or are supposed to be with.

Answer 3

properly in the journey that your effective with this relationship basically seeing one yet another once you may then save it going yet i imagine this relationship is only a enable party sort of aspect maximum lady at the same time as they get out of a nasty relationship they don't desire to leap into yet another one so she is taking section in her freedom and getting to carry close different human beings which i'm positive it quite is effective with you because you seem to earnings from the time she gives you! heck delight in it!

Answer 4

I would try to sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels and tell her your feelings. Dont force her into anything, be patient, may be she is going through a hard time or something right now, be there for her. May be you should try getting counselling!!!!!!! I wish you the best!

Answer 5

I would try my very best to work it out, however, it seems the only thing you can really do, is bring it out and let the chips fall where they may. From my experience, holding back to keep things together only prolongs the outcome.

I wish the best for you both.

Answer 6

first of all, I'm very sorry about the situation. I bet its really difficult to accept. but you said you love her...and wanna marry her!...then I advice you to talk to her, calmly, without anger, but with love and compassion, asking her if she wants to stay with you or not. don't get angry with her and don't blame her for anything, even though you may have all the reasons in the world to do so. she will see true love in your words and reactions-by forgiving her. then its up to her. Don't do the same mistake she did, don't end up being unloyal as she did. i know man, this is going to humiliate you. but I assure you, you'll gain inner peace within your heart after wards. loving is giving you life. he who give his life, will receive it back. but he who doesn't give his life will loose it.

Answer 7

You, my friend, have been played for a fool. Ditch her and head in the opposite direction. Fast. And don't look back. AND...recoup all the losses you can.

Answer 8

Go north.
Take the high road and move on with your life.
It is clear she has moved on, at least emotionally.
Time you did the same...with no regrets and no anger.

Answer 9

Move on to a relationship that is less work and more fun.

Answer 10

Honestly? It doesn't sound like she wants to be with you anymore. Celebrate what you have had and move on.