I'm 15, live w/ mom and my lil bro, 11. My dad died 3 years ago in a car wreck. My life has been kinda stressing. My mom works full time and could never get over my dad death. She´s frequently depressed. My bro has serious psychologicalproblem too. At 15 I have a lot of responsabilty on my shoulders. I have to support my mom and my bro. Gotta be the perfect girl 24/7. Gotta be strong. I ca't bear with this anymore, people think I'm strong but Im just a teen, though my adolescence was stolen from me. I can't be mom of my bro, no matter how I love him. I miss my dad too, he was a wonderful man. And I cant be mom of my mom whwn she falls in deep depression and says she wants to kill herself
I dont know if u ca understand me, Im a bit disturbed today, I wanna run away, want someone to listen to me Maybe Im being selfish but I must think about me, Sometimes I wanna live home, do something crazy, run away with the first sweet boy I find Since my life is so crazy I have this right
2006-08-23 09:48:00 · 11 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to talk to a trusted adult who isn't your mom. Do you have a grandparent or aunt or uncle or counselor at school that you can talk to? A 15 year old is not supposed to have to deal with all this crap, so you should get some help from somewhere. Maybe your whole family can get some counseling together. As you know the death of a parent is a life altering experience and everyone should have help coping with something like that. See if you can find a grief support group in your area, because your mom isn't coping well. It's her job to support you, not the other way around, you are the child she is the parent. Print this question and show it to her so she can understand how she isn't doing her job properly. You guys need to get some help for your family. This happened in my family 3 years ago too. Two of my cousins died in a boat accident and their daughters are trying to cope with the loss as well. good luck and I'm so sorry for your loss.
2006-08-23 09:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a place in these people's lives and I think that it's so wonderful that you took on these resposibilities with such calm. You should be rewarded for your efforts. God is with you and will not give you too much to handle. I think you are one of the most wonderful people I have ever heard from in this q/a thing. You are be far,not selfish. You do need a break from this once in awhile though. I understand the want to flee from all this,but that would only make your Mom feel so much worse. She loves you and really does appreciate your efforts and all that you do around the house,it's just that she is lost in grief. Stick with it Honey and in time things will get better. If you got any more questions about anything involving your life and want answers,you can reach me through this site. God bless you little lady!!!!!
2006-08-23 10:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot...
Have you and your mom considered going to Church? There are SOO many people there that would support you, not to mention God's always got your back. I'm sure there is someone at a nearby church that has gone through exactly what you're going through and can be of great support for your family. If you seriously believe your mother will follow through with her suicide threats, you need to seek help for her immediately!! She's in a haze right now and can't see how saying something like that would traumatize you and your brother.. Mention it to an aunt/uncle grandparent..
I think you're a brave/strong person.. maybe the cornerstone of your family.. Trust me, while you can't see your dad.. he's around, watching over you now.. with God!
God bless you, if you need anything.. Look up to the sky, slam your hands together and talk to God! He wants you to..
2006-08-23 10:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by xjujijimex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your mother, open her eyes, ok her husband died, and it must be really painfull but she has remember she has kids and that now she got to live for them, im sorry for your situation but DONT run away with the first sweet boy u meet, you're still a kid...Good luck with your mom, and feel proud of your self for being there for your family.
2006-08-23 09:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a very strong young lady, but you are right, you are just a teenager and you need to experience your life and make mistakes, its good that you are there for your mother and your brother, but maybe you should all sit down and talk about how you are all feeling,tell your mother that killing herself would not be a good idea because she still has to live her life because she still has people who love her.tell her that you and your brother need her to be strong for you guys. maybe you guys could go to family counseling..i know what you are going through when i 14 my father dies leaving just me my mother and my other 3 siblings. i told my my mother that just because dad passed away doesn't mean her life was over, i told her that i would help her out as much i could, but i was not going to be the mother of this house. now my mom is remarried, we have all moved out and everything is great. dear it takes time for things to happen, but they will happen
2006-08-23 09:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by wichita25falls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom, and if you can't do that, maybe a school counsler or something. You shouldn't have to feel like the world is falling on your shoulders.
2006-08-23 09:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 16:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by joyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, you do have a lot on your shoulders, but you can't runaway from your problems. Go to the guidance consular at school and release all your problems, it will make you feel a whole lot better.
2006-08-23 09:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by parentslittleprincess66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, be strong, my mother died 1 year ago and i got desperate...
i have reached the point that I wanteed to kill myself...
then my father wanted to charge me with responsabilities and I had to accept it, but then I have met some gothic guys that helped me and are with me 24/7
meet the gothic, join them, make friends, they are dark and evil from the outside, but a supportive family on the inside
luckass
2006-08-23 09:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by acataaaaaaa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all liven it girl. Stay strong and work ta get out. Hold your own. Thats all I can really say.
2006-08-23 09:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋