my bf's parents and friends and family are in Southern California and that is where my bf and i reside also, but my parents and friends are mostly from Northern California. his friends have kids under the age of 2 and my friends dont have a lot of $$ to just spend on airfare/driving/hotel/outfits/etc.
AHH what options do we have! Ps. NO Beach weddings!
2006-08-23 09:34:08 · 23 answers · asked by strwrs7772000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well both our parents know we're getting married...we just don't have the $$ yet to buy a ring!!!
2006-08-23 09:41:55 · update #1
The bride should have the wedding in her town it would make it easier to get things done.
if other people cannot make it to the wedding she could always have another reception in the other town??
2006-08-23 09:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm posting a link below. It's old, but there's a list of wineries in Northern California on the left. Many wineries have weddings all the time... and it's great. All outdoors weather permitting... many have gazebos and catering services... your wedding party can tour the winery if you like... they individualize to suit your event.
Another possibility would be to find a Bed and Breakfast or Inn in Northern California. Most will do weddings and then the happy couple stays there for their wedding night... many have guest houses where you could rent out an entire home for the night to take care of your out of town guests, with several families sharing a home, each with their own bedroom or suite.
The second link is for Bed and Breakfast/Winery packages in California. There's a click up top for weddings. If you make it close enough to the families with children, then you wouldn't have to worry about them staying overnight. Have it closer to the larger number of people so you're minimizing your expense and the expense of others to stay overnight at the inn.
What's nice is that this can be outdoors and casual... there's room for kids to run around... and no one has to feel stuffy and churchy to celebrate your day with you.
2006-08-23 16:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there anywhere in the middle that is within driving distance of both families? If not, then one side or the other is going to be incovenienced.
You could have a destination wedding, you won't have as many guests, but the important people will probably show. My husband and I went to one in December and it was nice. We got a 5 day all inclusive vacation for our money plus we got to go to a beautiful wedding. This option will be less expensive for you because you won't have to pay for a reception and the honeymoon is included in the price of the wedding.
2006-08-23 17:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since most live in Southern California, that's where I would have the wedding. Could you have the wedding in the middle of the state? But then that would be an expense for all involved.
2006-08-23 16:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a golf course, Many of them have a country club receiption room you can rent. I'm from So. Ca and when I was young my parents said they got married in a funeral home. But, That was in the 60's. Look around. Try some parks or someplace like the Moose lodges, ect.
Good luck
2006-08-23 16:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Highbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sonoma, the wineries can make beautiful weddings There is a hotel called Mc. Arthur Place they have beautiful gardens and in the back they have a Gazebo .... dreamy
Or Lake Las Vegas ! they have great packages like the Hyatt Lake Las Vegas pretty cool.
2006-08-23 16:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by lisirm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hotels usually have discounts for groups of people coming for a wedding; i'm sure airfare/busfare/trainfare isn't horribly expensive. at least they're not all in another country! having 2 weddings is expensive as well. i think you should take your time, save up, have a small 'intimate' gathering for your wedding, and provide for some of the costs of your out-of-town guests (such as discounted hotel/cabin rental, sight-seeing trips, baby-sitters for the little ones, etc.) give them some incentive OTHER than your special day to make the trip!
2006-08-23 18:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by discoballz82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pick a middle ground, the Central Valley of California! I live here and it is just beautiful. I am partial to my church too, but seriously you could have your wedding at any church locally and the reception as well. Just a thought. If you want some ideas in my area let me know =) Congratulations!
2006-08-23 16:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try a small resort or a hotel in the middle or at one of your parent's homes. Keep it simple but elegant and let everyone be involved.
2006-08-23 17:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally a wedding is held at a bride's hometown..so have it nearer to your family --or find a nice place halfway down the coast and have it a nice resort that everyone can meet up at.
2006-08-23 16:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋