My outgoing toddler is now shy?

Question

My outgoing toddler is now very shy
It started around 20 months old after the first night he stayed with the grandparents
He was very outgoing then sometime after this event he has become shy and very cautious of people,particularly strangers
he is now 2 years of age
Is this seperation anxiety??

Thanks for any advice

greg

Answer 1

It is possible he may think you are going to leave him with the strangers. Children do think in an unusual way. Maybe they could stay at your house the next time so that he feels more comfortable.

Answer 2

No this is not seperation anxiety. This is common in children. It is a phase they all go through. I have 3 boys 14, 12 & 2 and my 2 year old is gong through it right now. I wouldnt worry about it. Yes they might cry when you leave but not for long. This is very normal call your doctor that might put your mind at ease. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I don't want to alarm you but are you SURE nothing inappropriate happened when he stayed with them. Have you talked with them about any exposure with strangers he might have had.The reason I ask this it because when my daughter was 18 months old she was extremely gregarious and outgoing. Then I started to take her to a certain babysitter. She suddenly got very withdrawn and tearful. She acted very strange. I quit taking her to that babysitter and gradually she returned to her normal self. That was my experience. It could also be a stage he is going through. Just check it out - be aware. (my daughter is now 9 yrs and doing fine)

Answer 4

Maybe...I never let my son spend the night with anyone else until he was 5. He spent the night with his cousins and his aunt and uncle. It was okay but he told me he only likes sleeping in his own bed. However, there was no change in his outgoing personality. Now he is 9 and he loves to spend the night with friends or other family members.

Is it possible that your son woke up and his grandparents did not realize it. Maybe he had to cry himself back to sleep without anyone checking on him?

Answer 5

i don't believe of you may. i became continuously fairly shy at the same time as i became slightly one, each and each of how into extreme college. So he will be too. he's basically being himself. So if and at the same time as he comes to a call to be more desirable outgoing. he will. yet when no longer. it quite is okay too.

Answer 6

most kids go through that state in their lives, usually when they become mobile and start walking idenpendently. it might be poure coincidence that it started after that event, maybe he had just reached that stage in his development. it probably has to do with mother making sure that kids stay near their parents and don't wander off with strangers who might harm them. of course he might also have hada a bad experience with his grandparents. i don't know how close you are to them, but maybe bringing it up in a friendly chat might be an idea?

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I hate to suggest something heinous, but a lot of kids react this way after something traumatic happens--hospital stays, injuires, etc.

The good thing is most kids bounce back with time.

Answer 9

Have you asked his grandparent if anything happened when he was with them. Maybe he saw or herd something that has traumatised him, have you left him since then? whatever you dont dont force him - it could make him worse - be gentle and patient.

Answer 10

its probably normal