I'm supposed to be getting married nest fall. My parents don't like my Fiancee tho. they reall don't want me to marry hima nd they say that if i do, i won't be in the family. i really love my boyfriend and he loves me too. but i also love my familly. Could someon eplease help me.
2006-08-23 08:54:38 · 20 answers · asked by PartyChick22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What are some of the reasons why your family does not like him?
2006-08-23 08:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you must make a choice. Be smart about it.
If your family does not like him. As a wise woman, you owe it to yourself to ask without anger or resentment your mother, then your father, then any other member for a list of reasons why.
Here is the script and just change the names:
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Mom, with love, tell me why you don't want me to marry him?
Then the reasons why he is "not" the man for me- be specific and not emotional. I need my Mother to tell me the truth.
As an adult I honor her for her wisedom and life experience.
Keep your mouth shut...just listen, no reply. Just thank you, I can see that, I appreciate that and be thankful that they will be there for you.
Thanks mom
I love and appreciate you telling what you think.
I will honor you by making the best choice possible for both of us. I do not want that choice to tear us apart. So let's don't let it happen.
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Then you must really know that these people whom have loved you a lifetime and created you want the best for you and then you must make a choice.
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If you choose to marry then send them a letter with all the reasons why he will be a wonderful part of your family. They are such a huge part of my life and now our life and one day our families life.
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When you get married, its a multi-cultural belief that you forever leave your father's home (family) and become a part of husband's family. You can "honestly never go home" as a woman. You are not a girl the world will be different and sometimes painful.
Best wishes to you. This should be the happiest days of your life.
2006-08-23 16:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could..
hmm...
confront your parents and sit them down first talk to them and ask them why they don't like him
(make sure that you Fiancee isn't around like send him out with a couple of his friends or somthing)
well anywayz...
ask them and see what they say if they get mad tell them that just becuase you are getting married to someone maybe they don't like doesn't give them any reason to reject you from the family cause a real family would stay together no matter what
and if they still reject then just say if they still feel like that than that must not be a real family cause family is about love and care no matter what.. not rejection and hatred.
they should be happy for you and if things don't work out after the marraige you should be able to go to them for shoulders to cry on
but i hope nothing like that happenes
good luck!
2006-08-23 16:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Mystery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family is going to boot you out of the family unit, then they either have some very good reason for feeling this way or they are trying to control you. My family didn't care for my husband but did their best in getting along. Now that we have separated my family is letting me know how they really feel. I thought I loved him too. Family have a knack for seeing things that the ones in love can't. Go with what you feel, if it doesn't work out at leat you can say you tried.
2006-08-23 16:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know some things before answering this. How old you are, why your parents dont like him. They must have a good reason for not liking him. If you are under 20 I can understand your parents not wanting you to get married, you need to experience life before settling down. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-23 15:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents aren't going to disown you. You might for a little while. But when that grand baby comes along they'll be all over you. I would get married and move on. Don't let your family choose who your marry... You'll never be happy.
2006-08-23 15:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...That's a tough one.
First I know you love your boyfriend, but family is forever. They obviously love you so you have to ask them WHY they don't like him. Sometimes when we are so caught up in love we don't see things that others do. Maybe they've noticed something about them that you haven't which leads them to believe he's not the one for you. They wouldn't give you such a harsh ultimatim for no reason.
Once you hear their reason you need to follow your heart.
Good luck.
2006-08-23 16:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I went through the exact same thing. I chose my family and friends. It was a hard decision, but it was for the best. I asked myself...who would be there longer? If you lost your family and went to your bf, if the two of you broke up, your family is still gone. Go with your family! It will be the best thing to do. It will be hard to do, but you have to think of YOUR future. Good luck sweety
2006-08-23 16:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by Reca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I can't help you.
Oh and by the way, your English is terrible. You're parents probably don't want you to get married because you haven't finished the 5th grade yet and they would like you to at least finish 7th...
From the Great and Powerful Poppet
2006-08-23 15:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you find out why your family does not like your fiancee. if they have valid reasons, examine yourself. if you still want to go ahead with your wedding, that's your choice. make them understand your choice but just remember, your family only wants what's best for you and they are the only ones who would be there when all else has failed. good luck !!
2006-08-23 16:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋