I can't believe i have 13 more years until i can date. I am 13 years old right now. My mom thinks that dating is off-limits for people under 26. Even to my friends, that seems RIDICULOUS!!! Mom's philosophy is that i'll be 26 when i finish my doctors degree. She thinks that if i start getting into boys/men too early, my education will be messed up and i will start to divert my focus of life (bs!!!). I know i have enough self control to juggle my education and the boys. maybe not right now, but certainly when i'm 15 or 16. 17? Well what do you think? Do you think i should try to convince my mom to let me date earlier? Or do you think she is right about her no-dating-until-26 rule?
2006-08-23 08:52:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm impressed that at 13 you know you will be a doctor at 26. And the fact that your mom is the one pushing it... it's too funny. She is right in saying that boys/men will divert your attention. But that's gonna happen, dating or no dating.
You should tell your mom that your future as a doctor will not hinge on whether or not you date. There are plenty of other, much more siginificant obstacles you have to overcome. I know people who haven't had a date till the end of university. Guess what, they didn't get into med school. They had good marks, even some decent extracurriculars, but they didn't even get an interview.
I also know girls who had boyfriends through most of highschool and university who got in. I know a guy who got married and had a kid during undergrad and is now doing his MD PhD. Relationships will not be the reason you don't get into med school. Your mom should know that.
2006-08-23 09:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom's got a wacky sense of humor and already knows she can't keep you from dating that long. She loves you and wants to keep you her little girl forever.
She also has a point about getting your education messed up by focussing on boys instead of school.
Clearly you two need to negotiate a compromise. Maybe you could go on group dates when you're 14, and one-on-one dates at 16. Come up with a well-thought-out compromise and do a nice presentation, and maybe she'll see you're old enough to trust.
Of course, if you do a bad job, she might not let you date until you're 40! :o)
2006-08-23 16:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by lee m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait about 4 more years and she will change her mind. Best not to argue or even think about it now. By the time you're 17 she will be beging for you to leave for college. Then you can start dating, What's the rush anyway, you have the rest of your life to find complications. Enjoy your teen years without boy problems.
2006-08-23 16:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by rbt33176 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is paying for your full education for a doctors degree, then once I turn 18 I would start hanging out at the "library" regularly and "study groups". If you don't need her help, then I suggest you get a descent job and some scholarships, move out and have fun. Still get your degree though. That is very important.
2006-08-23 15:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by kimmysue62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 26 is REALLY pushing it... Talk to her when you think you are a bit more mature and have enough self control to handle both school and a boyfriend. You might be able to persuade her. But if you can't...
When you go to college (you'll probably be 18 and won't have to listen to her rules anyway...) you can live on campus and she will never know you're dating unless you tell her. (This will only work if you move out though... she'll probably figure it out if you're living at home...)
Good luck!
2006-08-23 15:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is right you shouldn't be dating at 13. Hopefully by the time you turn 26 you will be in your own place.
2006-08-23 16:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by april j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait untill you are 16 or 17 to date and just dont tell her cause right now you are too young.... and she is just saying 26 cause she doesnt even want to think about her little girl having a boyfriend that might lead to somthing else dun dun dun
2006-08-23 16:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a little too strick. maybe you should bring home a nice guy that you know she would approve of to kind of break her in to the idea. or you could just do what everybody else does and sneak out and go for it on your own and get what you want. and pretend your not. that way you and your mom are both happy.
2006-08-23 16:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by cob_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, age is nothing but a number. You have to make decisions like that on a case by case basis. Parents tend to think they know what's best for us. Sometimes they do sometimes they dont. Don't rush it! If you really think you are ready, ask mom about group dating and stick to it. She will learn to trust your judgement if she trusts you and you are honest with her.
2006-08-23 16:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by chanel h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a college or university far, far away, then do what you want. That way she'll never know! ;)
You don't have to do a doctorate if you don't want to. It sounds like your mother is living through you. Remember, it's YOUR life, and YOU do what YOU want once you are eighteen. :)
2006-08-23 15:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋