me and my girlfriend are going on 2 years
2006-08-23 08:46:05 · 14 answers · asked by NapBon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you will know when you're ready. i got married at 19 and we are both absolutely happy and content with everything and each other. and we've both "been there, done that" with dating and whatever else....so we know we're meant for each other. as soon as we got married then our careers blossomed too...so don't worry about your job that much. jobs come and go, but its hard to find true love, don't let her slip away!
good luck :)
2006-08-23 09:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say mid-twenties. By then you should be finished with college, earning decent money, able to buy a home, have a car - all the stuff "grown ups" do!! Also by then, you should have partied plenty, slept around as much as you needed to, gotten all the "wild hairs" outta your system! A little maturity is a good thang & helps when marrying! Good luck!!!
2006-08-23 15:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as a "good age" for marriage. It's everything else that matters. Do you share similar interests, life goals, standards, morals, etc. Can you live together every day for the rest of your days? Who will cook? Clean? Do the laundry? Keep the house and the social calendar organized? Can you stand the thought of having someone in your "business" all the time? Very few secrets, if any, are allowed to exist in a healthy marriage. Can you stomach the idea of spending every holiday with her entire family? And she with yours? Do you agree on how the money should be spent, saved, invested? Who will control the finances? Will you want to buy/build your first home together? Or would you prefer to rent forever? I guarantee your first tiff will occur over what pieces of your furniture will be allowed into the main living area of the house to mingle with her things and the new furniture being delivered on Tuesday. Oh did someone forget to mention the new furniture? Oops. "I thought you knew I was going to refurnish the entire house right after the wedding". Speaking of that...Do you both have a good credit rating? If yours is good, marrying someone with a bad one will drag yours down too. What if...she loves dogs and wants to have at least three; how about you? You love cats, have never lived without one; she's terribly allergic and hates cats to boot. She's just tolerating yours now because she has to if she wants you. Kids? Do either of you have any? Want any? How many? What if one of you can't? Do you both agree on how they should be educated? ie Homeschooled, private or public school? What about disciplining the children; do you agree on how that should be handled? Does she want to stay home after she gets married-become a domestic goddess? Do you? Does she want to continue with her high profile career and keep working 50-60 hours a week? Is that okay with you? What if, God forbid, one of you contacts a serious illness or deadly disease, is this the kind of person you can take care of for years and years? Can you deal with having her take care of you for years and years?
I know of too many people who have said "oh yeah it bugged me that he/she did that when we were dating; but I was just sure it would change after we got married". Right about here is where that obnoxious game show buzzer should sound, indicating that you were WRONG! So very wrong, or at least sadly mistaken. I know of a woman who has been married ten years and was so naive that she had no idea he loved to gamble and as a result their savings has been depleted. She trusted him and "it just never came up" she said.
My daughter and her husband were married when he was 21 and she was 20. I wasn't surprised as they were quite close. I was shocked however when they told us how they had discussed each and every one of these issues and had come to agreement, or compromise, on every one of them. They knocked the wind right out of my "lecture sails" that day. We gave them our blessing and so far they're doing well; and are expecting their first child. They've been together for four years.
My husband and I admitted later on, when we were alone, that we wished we had talked all that out before we got married. It would have spared us some tension in the early years.
So, see what I mean? Age doesn't have thing one to do with it! It's EVERYTHING else that matters.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-23 16:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 16 and my now husband was 25 when we got married...it's not about the age, it's the maturity level.
But if you're asking this kind of question...you're not mature enough to get married.
From the Great and Powerful Poppet
2006-08-23 15:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you should get married as soon as you know that you want to stay with your girlfriend for the rest of your life. No sooner. And waiting longer is stupid.
2006-08-23 15:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's not an age .. depends on you ,.. if you're ready to be independent , support a family and ready to settle down then go for it . in my case I think my late 20's are good.
2006-08-23 16:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by strawberrymoon86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best age to get married is when you find your soul-mate.someone you honestly and truly wanna share your life with.when you meet that someone you won't be asking that question,you will simply pop another question to her while on your knees," will you MARRY me?"
Good luck:)
2006-08-23 15:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
45 for men; 30 for women
2006-08-23 15:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you have a house and are ready to settle down.
2006-08-23 15:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in today's world, everyone is getting maried at different times.
so i would suggest get settled with your carrier, and if you still will be together with the guy.. go ahead marry him
2006-08-23 15:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mrsashko 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋