What is the best way to cope with death?

Question

My grandmother died 10 after she was sent to the hospital and since then, it seemed like everywhere I go, I see something that once belonged to her. Lately, I have felt like I have been lashing out at people and being very tempermental. Do any of you know how to cope with death in an easier way?

10 days! Whoops...forgot to put 'days' in there.

Answer 1

There's nothing you can do about it now, so just try to remember the great times you had with you're grandmother and if she was still alive, she wouldn't want you to be sad.

Answer 2

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just because a loved one dies, your memory of them does not die. My brother died of Muscular Dystrophy, and, believe me, it was not pretty. He suffered so long, but he kept up his spirits, and it took a long time to get over the fact that his positive attitude was no longer a part of my life. Of course, I eventually realized that his attitude was there all the time, but my grief would not let me see it. Once the grieving process has run it's course you will feel normal again. You don't need to talk to a professional, unless it's free. You have all the power you need right inside you.

Answer 3

My grandfather died when I was eight years old, and I still have dreams about him. See, I was never allowed to go to the wake or funeral because my grandmother and parents thought I was too young. I then felt (and still do) that I never got to say goodbye to him. (He'd been sick at home for many months before he died, and I was not allowed to go into his room).

You will feel better, but it takes time, and as someone mentioned there are those stages of grief you need to go through. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

Talk to a professional therapist she/he could help you cope with it and you can talk to her/him about your temper. Or if you don't want to get professional help go to your parents or close friends and relatives. You are not the only one grieving and you don't have to deal with it alone, it is not good to deal with it alone. Let all your feelings out and try to think of all the happy times you had with your grandma, not sad things. Once you feel a little better maybe ask your parents to take you to her grave and place flowers there. Whatever you do, do it with friends or family, or both! I'm am soooo sorry this happened to you and i hope you feel a little better soon. I hope this helped you. I give you all my luck, and this is not an easy thing, i understand. Just remember talk to people, it helps me when i cope with things, it should help you. Good Luck

Answer 5

Ignore the idiot Texas Gurl for a start.

There is no best way to cope with death, everybody copes with it differently, but the best cure is time.

Time is the great healer when we are grieving.

Just take each day as it comes and concentrate on getting through the best way you can.

My thoughts are with you, having lost many people close to my heart.

Take Care.

Answer 6

If ur lashing out becoz...you love and miss ur grandma then the best thing is for you to grieve your loss, allow urself to cry, give urself a fixed number of days to grieve and express ur sorrow, like wear something black, but belive in your heart that God is merciful and she's in a good place...then allow urself to move on and experience other emotions...be thankful for the good times and the good things you've learned from your Grandma...hold on to her memory...But let go of the person...she's in a better place...pray for her soul...look after youself...guard against blame, anger, regret...pray to experience peaceand joy in your heart. Set ur grieving period for 9 days or so, not too long...you wana give yourself time to grieve, but you also wana move on. Find some people who can listen to you and be there for you especially during your grieving period...and friends who can cheer you up after. Remember to be responsible for your emotions and planning your course of action to get over the feelings of loss and to take care of your well-being. Also accept Death and grief as part of the circle of life...that way it won't catch you by surprise! (Lashing out at people may be due to a lack of self awareness in the emotions you are feeling that's brought about by death and loss, and is an inappropriate expression of frustration due to this lack of self understanding, therefore greater self awareness will lead to more appropriate self expression (i.e. crying or talking to someone close about your sorrow :-)

Answer 7

Perfectly normal....I was like that for a few months after my grandfather died, and for a long, long time after my husband died. It gets better, believe me. Don't be afraid to get counseling or take meds if you need them, there's nothing weak in that. One day you'll wake up and she won't be the first thing you think of, or your feelings won't be so strong. Keep up with your normal activities, avoid alcohol, and please rely on anyone who wants to help you.

Answer 8

I'm sure you have heard of the Stages of Grief...
A reminder...click on this:
You will survive....because life must go on. By the time you are 40 ....you will be a pro at surviving grief...I'm 36 and already a pro.

Answer 9

Pray

Answer 10

you can look and try everything but the only true way is to make peace with God. ask Him to come into your heart and fill the void you feel. this is not to say that you won't still grieve but peace is the key. I am sorry for your loss.