2006-08-23 08:39:48 · 26 answers · asked by betboop188 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop being a dictator and play games with him instead. My 7 year old and I play soccer and baseball and run along the beach and I show him respect and he shows me respect and I don't try to dominate his little life. He does his chores and homework and is such a cool little kid. I think he respects me because he knows I adore him and think he is fabulous. He is secure in the knowledge that I love him and want him to be happy and healthy and well adjusted.
I assume that the whipping , beating responders are American and must say that you are a violent lot....no wonder you all need guns.
2006-08-23 08:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok just want to say that all you who think spanking is gonna work are cruel and lack the knowledge to deal with a 7 year old. The best way to approach this situation is to think like a 7 year old. Observe him/her when he/she acts disrespectful, see what makes him/her that way. If the problem is not obvious, or the child is constantly disrespectful, then you must approach this on a more leaderful way. Sit the child down, come up with ground rules and awards for when those rules are followed, and a penalty when they are broken. From here on out you must put your own skills to the test, and I hope all goes well.
2006-08-23 15:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Azena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello: I am facing the same thing with my 11 year old girl. Just last night we had a confrontation. I think sitting down and having a heart to heart and respecting your sons thoughts and feelings could be a great start. That's what I try to do. It is hard for children these days they are expected to grow up so early in life and take on responsibilities that they shouldn't have to.
Discipline is hard I hate spanking my daughter and it doesn't change anything with her. But you should stick to you guns if you say don't do this and he does it any way he must be disciplined and you have to be consistent.
Hope this helps a bit
2006-08-23 15:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Moma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a little late to start, but when I was a child my parents had forms of punishment that worked. My mother had a bush off the porch of our home from which she cut long (about 2 ft) switches, as she called them. Applied to the back of the legs in a swift and repeated fashion was one form. My father used a belt across my rear end. I was allowed to keep my underwear on, so it never broke the skin, but it was effective. Not allowing me to go outside for periods of time, or denying me some activity that I enjoyed was another. It hurt, I cried, but I learned.
2006-08-23 15:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little dicipline, he/she doesnt respect you, you must show who's in charge and once they figure that out things will get a lot better for you. Restrict them from certain activities they like to do if they are defiant to you. Until they change their ways then give those privileges back. Its all about respect, make sure they know who's in charge and in control.
2006-08-23 15:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Murfdigidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm. Tell him what is required of him and stick to your guns. Remember, kids learn how to act by how they are treated by others (especially their parents). If you yell and scream, that what he thinks is proper behaviour.
When he is rude whatever, give him a time-out. Make him sit in one place (preferably not his room or a place you will want him to go when he is not in trouble). It doesn't have to be a long time. Two-five minutes is a long time at that age. If he gets up, his time starts over again.
After a few VERY difficult times, he will get it.
Good luck.
2006-08-23 15:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything away and I mean everything I know you feel bad blah blah you are the parent you have helped this behavior form now nip it in the but before the kid is 15 and strung out calling you a stupid whore so you take everything away except desk, bed lamp than as the child starts to change or not you show them what they can have w/ positive actions it worked w/ my son he had everything back in about three months and we have not had any big problems just normal kid stuff :)
2006-08-23 15:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by barbie89032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lead by example as well as be very firm with him. let him know what behavior you expect and what the consequences will be if he does not meet those expectations. You MUST follow through with the consequences because the first time you do not he will see that the rules are negotiable and you will be setting yourselves and your 7year old up for failure.
2006-08-23 15:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach respect by example. I strongly recommend a family therapist. You are having difficulty with parenting skills and need special training to unlearn what your parents taught you. If a child is acting like this, usually they are getting this by example from somewhere, school, home, sitter, media, relatives, etc.
2006-08-23 15:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dad has to take care of that be very stern! Start off taking any recreations items from him including desert. Do not give him/her caffeine
2006-08-24 12:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋