I am a 42-year old woman who has completely different religious beliefs than my father. He is constantly telling me when and where I should attend church even though he knows I don't go to church. I've reiterated my beliefs time and time again. I don't feel respected in any way. How do I change this?
2006-08-23 08:34:16 · 7 answers · asked by ccbarefootcon99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its not your job to make him understand. All you can do is explain your self. With all due respect ma'am, you are a 42-year-old woman. You dont need him to understand you. Just live your life, and when he sees that you have a happy life with faith eventually he will acept that.
2006-08-23 08:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by thejokker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father loves you and wants to guide you in the way he has found to be right.
That does'nt mean you should follow his path, but do respect that he has nothing but your best intentions at heart.
Tolerance is a key in this situation. Instead of fighting about it, just tell him that you appreciate his caring and concern. Leave it at that.
2006-08-23 15:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by mykidsRmylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. So don't try. Next time he start in tell him I respect your opinion but I believe something different. Then change the subject. I don't believe the same thing as my parents and they have finally gotten that we are adults and we are entitled to our own opinion.
2006-08-23 15:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to your father about religion. There is no need for it to take over every conversation. When he brings it up, tell him that you understand his views but you will just have to agree to disagree.
You should have done something about this decades ago!!!
2006-08-23 15:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Just make the conversation as easy as possible, "Dad, we've been over this a million times. I'm not going to change my mind, and neither are you ... so, what's for dinner?"
2006-08-23 15:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by kentata 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mykidsrmylife.................your dad loves you and probably is feeling a little guilty he did not instill in you, the values he holds dear.
I doubt if you can change your dad...........but don't let this upset you. Just try to remember HE LOVES YOU and this is why he does what he does...........
2006-08-23 15:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cherie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one...You should study Islam.
2006-08-23 15:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋