I am in a abusive relationship. I really love this guy and he didn't use to be this way. We have even moved to another state, to start over but I really think that was to keep me from my family. I have no where to turn. My family don't want to be bothered at all with me. What should I do? Serious replies only
2006-08-23 08:31:57 · 11 answers · asked by fungurllallthatime 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have been in the same situation and let me tell you it won't change .. even if he tells you he won't do it again .. HE WILL .. if you stay .. he will tell you he is sorry HE'S NOT !!! he will tell you he loves you HE DOESN'T !!! because if a man loves someone he would never lay a hand on them THIS IS TRUE !! get OUT NOW !! go to a shelter .. of course its to keep you from your family then you can't leave so easy .. get out before you are hurt seriously .. i ended up stabbed .. for staying . almost died .. my brother saved my life
2006-08-23 08:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out and fast!
No good can come from staying in an abusive relationship. I speak from experience hon.
You need your family now more than ever. You say your family doesn't want to be bothered with you but I'm sure that's not the case. Perhaps they've felt helpless because you left state and they don't really know what to do for you or if you want help from them.
I strongly suggest you get in touch with your family, tell them what's going on and then leave. Stay with your family for a bit until you get back in your feet.
You need to talk to them .. you need to let them know you need help and you need their support.
Best of luck to you
2006-08-23 15:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by bluesie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you have to: get out and get help. Moving was exactly that: a chance to get you away from any support you might have had. The fact that your family has turned their backs tells me that you haev had a history of letting this guy dog you. you have to face a very ugly truth: you are a perpetual victim, and in many ways your own worst enemey. Realize that and GET HELP. Counseling for a start. Then make a plan to get out of the relatiionship and back to your family and a support system.
2006-08-23 15:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by Toxic Buddah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you have to get the guts to leave him first, if you family does not want anything to do with you, you start over by yourself its going to be tough at first but atleast you wont be in danger of being harmed by him anymore. I commend you for realizing something was wrong about the relationship and trying to make a better change for yourself. Sweetie just keep your head up and realize that you love you and you dont need someone as abusive as your boyfriend to love you, if he loved you he wouldent hurt you the way he does. He's broken you down I could tell by your sign on name, dont let him do this to you, you are someone with feelings. you have to gain strength and just leave him, you dont love him your scared of him and just afraid that if you leave him, no one will ever love you the way he claimed that he does after he hits you, you have to get out, you need to save your own life.
2006-08-23 15:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by twiinsgirl316 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hope that u do not have children, because that will truly be sad for them to have to sit back and watch what is going on. Is there any time that he lieaves? I would just try to leave while he is sleep or something. Run like u never ran before. I don't care if all u have is just a pair of shoes to put on your feet! Get out of there! Fast!
2006-08-23 15:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by bicheeeened30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call your mom or dad or some one you can talk to and tell them you are leaving him and you need help. NO MAN would ever put his hands on some one he loved. He needs to be messed up. it pisses me off that men out there think they are only men if they hit... well hitting will turn worse and one day he might kill you. It happens all too often so you need to call the cops and leave him he aint worth nothing.... because you dont deserve to be hit on no matter what! CALL THE COPS and go back home!!!!
2006-08-23 15:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by chick_on_a_stick69 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this situation. I agree he moved you away from your family, friends and comfortable environment so that it would be easier for him to control you. Go home- I bet your family wants you more than you think. If not, call a shelter, pastor or cops....just get out before it gets worse-and it will!!!
2006-08-23 15:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by MJ R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen. I was in an abusive marriage for 16 years. Whether or not your family wants to help you shouldn't matter. You need to get away from this guy for your OWN health and safety. One day, he could go completely off his rocker and kill you. Find a battered wives shelter in your area. They can help you get away from him, and on your feet. PLEASE do this.
2006-08-23 15:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave. Otherwise it will only get worse. You feel you love him, but you have to love yourself first. You don't deserve to be treated with anything but respect. Go to a women's shelter if you don't have a way to leave on your own, they will help you. Good luck and take care of yourself.
2006-08-23 15:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this ASAP!!! No questions about it!!
2006-08-23 15:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Shawntray 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋