JUDO, JUIJITsU AND KICKBOXIONG?

Question

i want to do juijitsu and kickboxing and judo but im a girl and in class i dont want to be touched by a boy, do teachers force u to pair up with a boy or do they have other girls too or what if their are no girls in my class???

Answer 1

No teachers force you to do that, just make sure you find a good dojo that has a few girls around your size.

If there are no girls in your class, than you probably will have to work out with boys.

I am not sure you aversion to being touched, but it is possible to learn if you find a place that has other girls and you express your desire to not have to work out with boys. I realize that this may be a religious choice or something of the sort.

If it is a personal preference, I won't say it is wrong, but I will encourage you to try to work out with guys, they are stronger and possess a different body type, ultimately if you want to defend yourself on the street it will be a boy generally who is coming after you, knowing how to deal with someone stronger and bigger than you would help.

Plenty of places, in all three of those Martial Arts you suggested should have a few girls in their class.

Answer 2

no they can't force you to spar with a guy, but if your the only girl than your training will seriously lack in experience. I'm the only girl in my kickboxing training and I have to spar with the guys but I see it as an advantage not a hindrance, because believe me when it comes to having a match in the ring or on the mat you get plenty good from sparring against a guy.If you have a problem because the guys are touching you inappropriately than tell your instructor or lay it on the line with the offending guy, I've had to do that many times over the years and then I go kick their butts in the ring and they usually stop. Other than that I would recommend you go to a different Dojo,where there are more girls and you can be more comfortable.

Answer 3

No teacher won't force you to pair up with guys.

However you really don't need to worry about roll/spar with experienced guys. I have been on wrestling team, in few grappling matrial arts, and Muay Thai for total of 6 years. I NEVER see any case where guy try to fondle girls. They usually are too focus and pumped up on winning the match (you should be too and you will be once you get started ;-) ) that they doesn't even think about touching you inapprorite. Sometime they may touch you in way that make you feel akward, however keep in mind they will also do it with a guy. For example if guy slip down and you some how wrap your legs around their neck, they would put their hands on your legs or butt and push you away. That's what they would have done with other guys as well.

Major of people who are in jiu jitsu and judo are very nice and friendly and good people. I really trust pretty much all of them from my experience. I even took a couple of girls i use to date in past to some of grappling classes. And they would say I'm extremely protective. but in the class I let them have fun and learn the art of grappling with other guys no problem. They all always say they really enjoyed it.

If it will make you feel better, you can talk to instructor and tell him you perfer to not roll with new comer for 3 to 6 months so you can get know to them.

In Muay Thai, you really don't need to worry about guy touching you most of the time I promise. Unless they catch your kick or grab you into clinch. but how can they really do anything? beside that like as above, they will be too pumped up to even think about touch you and they will not want to risk it and get hurt.

If this doesn't help then well... you can try see if some of place offer girl only class (very rare) or find gym that have more than couple girls or something. Plus if any guys try to do something inapprorite, I promise you he will be kicked out immidately or at least will never work with you again. NO decent gym want to risk getting into sexual harassement lawsuit.

Answer 4

No offense hun, but if you seriously want to train in combat arts....you'll have to get used to training with guys....it's part of the deal as there will almost always be a higher percentile of guys over girls. What can I say, it's in our nature to be more of the combative variety.....

Kickboxing would be your best option, as there are very few guys who do cardio-kickboxing or something offered at a local gym or university.

And you'll for sure run into guys with Jujutsu and Judo, that's a given....and while the touching wouldn't be inappropriate, it'd still happen.

In all reality, I say get over yourself.....if you're ever going to be mugged or assaulted....I don't think the perp is going to be considerate of your touching boys disdainfulness.

If you want to learn how to defend yourself, it's better to train with a person who outmatches your physical strength considering 99% of attacks upon you would be done by males anyways.

There's nothing to be afraid of, I train and teach both men and women, and have them train with one another equally....it's better for both. Not to mention, having the guys get thrashed by a female training partner keeps them humble.

Not to mention, that were such a situation ever to happen with an honest intention of it happen (i.e., a blatant fondling), not only would that student have to deal with me....but he'd also have to deal with my top guys.....

and none of them want that.

Answer 5

depends on the teacher. in the school i went to your desire to not touch a boy would 1) get laughed at, 2) get you paired up with the toughest male blackbelt there was, and 3) could insult professor to the point that he invited you to leave class, if you insisted on not following HIS teaching instruction for what would train you best.

HOWEVER, i studied jujitsu as a combat art, our school was strongly focused not on presentation but rather on life and death combat. the point wasn't to learn how to fight other people our size, but rather to learn how to handle any situation we might come up against. I personally think that if you continue to pursue this lines of thought, you'll only be crippling your own martial arts ability. then again, it's up to you and whether you're learning this all for show or for actual defense.

Answer 6

hunny, judo and jujitsu classes you'll tend to find filled with more men than women.. kickboxing you'll most likely not have to be touched by guys (but you might get punched by guys) and typically instructors tend to pair women together.. but sometimes that's not always the case.. and it's not always the best for you personally..

and i'll tell you why.. if you're training with one partner be it man or woman, you become 1 dimensional.. it's good to vary your partners in weight, height and body type.. it gives you better understanding on what works for that particular body type..

say in jujistu you're short, and your training partner is short.. you work well together and the techniques come.. but what if you had to deal with someone who's a foot taller than you? you're going to need to adjust your technique to work on that person..

i'll give you an example.. my husband is 5'6 i'm 5'0.. i can get him in a standing rear naked choke fairly good, because he's not too tall for me, but i was training with a student last month who's 6'2, and i couldn't even reach his neck let alone put the hold on him.. so i had to adjust my technique to his height.. i took a note from jkd and checked the back of his knee, which caused him to buckle down, making him short enough for me to sink the choke, see what i'm saying..

not to mention that a guy is going to give you a different type of resistance than a woman..

what i'm trying to say is don't limit yourself because of coodies..
most schools have a strict professional policy and students are taught to conduct themselves respectfully...

i ask you what are you going to do if a guy attacks you in the street, not fight back because you don't want to touch the boy???

think about it hun!

~*good luck*~

Answer 7

You will be given two choices by most schools. Do as told or leave.
But if you find a place that allows you to only work with girls and you enjoy it , then do it. However, please know that you are only hurting yourself with this mentality.
When I try to pair up, I pick the biggest, meanest guy in class.
that is what I will face in the street so that is what I want to face in training.
The closer your fight simulation is to actuality the more effective it is.

Answer 8

HEY YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY CANT FORCE YOU but if you really want to learn fighting guys is the only way and that if there are girls at least practice with the stronger of them to get better .If you were in my class most of the time if there are no girls to fight you ,you would fight a boy/me.

Answer 9

alright, try to get over your aversion of being touched by a boy. Also if you do get a boy explain that he is NOT to purposely touch you in a sexual way. If he does then pound on him, after all, you are in a martial arts class...

Answer 10

especially in judo and ju jitsu, you wil most likely pair up with a male.