How do I subtly let my boyfriend know what kind of engagement ring I want?

Question

And leaving pictures around the house and stopping by jewelry stores and saying "oh I like that" is not subtle.

Answer 1

Subtle doesn't work. You can drop hints and drop hints and drop hints and then get a ring you don't like. You should do what both my first and second wives did; take your fiance to the jewelry store, point and say, "That's what I want."

Answer 2

There is no way to tell him subtly. First, he does not pick up on subtly. Second, even if he gets a vague idea, the salesperson will convince him to get something else (more expensive) if he isn't solid in knowing what you want.

If you've discussed marriage and he knows you know it is ring shopping time, then outright say "I'd like for you to come with me to a jewelry store, so I can show you the kinds of things I like."

Answer 3

Why be subtle? It's your finger that it's going to be on, not his and maybe he really doesn't have a clue what kind you'd like.
Take him by the hand and to the jewelry store and pick out a few different styles that you like and tell him either one would make you happy. If you leave it up to him, you're likely to get something you don't want to wear.

Answer 4

I agree with some of the posters.

Men don't generally pick up on subtle hints. You need to be a little more forward.

I have personally told my boyfriend (while I was watching Sex in the City) that I wanted a ring like Carrie got at the end of the episode (and agreed that the first ring was a dud).

I have also told him, outright that I don't want sidestones. I want one big diamond, a princess cut.

Answer 5

How would you let him know is a good question. I wonder if you have asked yourself is the engagement ring really that important to you. I mean the fact that you want your hands involved it the purchasing of the item. In my opinion this is coming from a 25 year old man it is best to allow him to do it on his own. Thats when its from the heart cause if you have to do it for him then the question lies where is your heart. Not every man can afford to buy an expensive engagement ring something to think about also. I hope your future with him is a bright one. Again think to yourself do you love him cause if you really loved him it wouldn't matter that much how it looked.

Answer 6

I actually have a picture saved on my computer of the kind of engagement ring I hope to have someday. Or at least an idea of what I'd want...but in any case, my friend (guy) is planning on proposing to his girlfriend in the next few months and he has no idea what kind of ring she wants. So he is asking her mom to go along with him and help pick one out. So maybe recruiting your mom - like make sure she knows what style or stone you'd like.

Or if you have recently engaged friends, maybe make comments about what you thought of her ring...ie. let's say her ring was a roundcut but you want a princess cut... "Sue's ring was nice but I think I'd prefer a more square, princess cut instead..."

Well anyway, that's what I might try. But good luck!

Answer 7

Take my advice (from a Man's point of view).

Don't be subtle - we don't do subtle very well.

Go to the store, point out the one you want. End of story.

But. . . isn't the ring more about the commitment than it is about the fashion statement it will make? Shouldn't you be happy with whatever he gets?

Answer 8

Make up a story about some girl at work getting engaged. Then talk about the ring and say I dont know, the shape was not nice, I think xyz is nice or let him over hear you telling this story to your sister/gf.

Answer 9

I will tell you what my husband always tells me, men don't get subtlety. If you are talking about getting married I see no reason why you can't show him examples of what you like. He will still get to pick out the ring but he will know what you want. Also, he might actually appreciate the help. If you aren't talking about getting married then you're jumping the gun.

Answer 10

I would not be quiet about it. My fiance and I went to look at them together. He understood that I would always be wearing the ring that he bought so it better be something that I liked. The same goes with his wedding band. The ring doesn't have to be a suprise...just the occasion when he gives it to you!