i found my 13 year old brother with tampons and my clothes. My clothes had been worn and the tampons had been used by him. what can i do? this is really weird i don't know what to think of it help please.
2006-08-23 08:05:41 · 8 answers · asked by concernd sister 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
my much younger brother has been hidind my panties and my daughters panties along with used tampons in a room in my house. I thought he was just curious at first but other famialy members have found the same things in thier homes and worse one said that in his bedroom she found objects with bm on them and we dont know what to think about this. He says that he is hetrosexual and i think that he is because he into girls, but all the tampons have me wondering whats really going on was he abused or what i dont know. please let me know if you know of any counseling or web support on this matter or anything i dont want to exploite him i just want him to be okay. figure out what this is all about
2006-08-23 08:54:26 · update #1
I think you are right to be worried, there is a difference between a child being curious about something and actually carrying out collection and use of items of this nature, and using them in this nature.
This to me does sound like something you need to address with your family and with him directly; I also think talking to a doctor may be in order because this is highly unusual behaviour even if he insists this is just curiosity I would say there are some underlying issues here.
In younger children this sort of behaviour is very common in sexual abuse victims; the behaviour of using the tampons, the storing of underwear and personal items is suspect as well. It may not that he has been sexually abused but I would say these are signs of some issues either with sex or specifically about women.
I talk here as someone who was sexually abused in childhood, I will admit my behaviour was not quite so disturbing on this level, however when looking at behaviour of children relating to sex you have to bare in mind you are looking at a different ball-game. I cannot say for sure the significance of his age, something like this I would expect to see more in younger children, I don't mean to worry you but sexual abuse or not this is not just normal curiosity you are looking at here, there is a reason for this behaviour that needs addressing as soon as posible.
2006-08-23 09:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kasha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was young (11 I think) I was staying over my friend's house, and my brother's friend was staying over our house (both 2 years younger). My parents apparently found my brother and his friend trying on my clothes, which terrified me, but I find it humourous too!
Believe me, it's just experimentation. He's curious and perhaps he hasn't had sexual education and these kind of talks from your mother/teachers? Why not take the chance and ask him why he was doing this, and if you feel comfortable with it, give him some talks about sex, contraception, menstruation, etc. It'll do him good in the long term.
If you don't think he's being curious and he's had problems with his sexuality before, or you think he may currently be going through something like that, just tell him that it's okay and you're there to support it if he needs it. At such a young age sexuality crisis is a hard thing to confront.
Good luck. :)
2006-08-23 15:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by RSJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have nine sisters and three brothers. Once i found one of my little brothers playing around with my feminine stuff. I think kids that age are just really curious. Do you know for sure that tampon was used or was it just out of the applicator?
2006-08-23 15:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by beans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly how were the tampons used? he may be a cross dresser, but with the world so messed up, this is nothing and you should continue to love him.
2006-08-23 15:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he was curious and was experimenting privately. I suggest you keep it to yourself, but let him know you are there for him if he ever needs to talk.
2006-08-23 15:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?
Used by him?
How?
Oh, wait...don't tell me.
Best address this, um, 'problem' with your folks.
Something isn't kosher here, and it seems to be your brother.
2006-08-23 15:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a family of freaks to me.
2006-08-23 15:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by jessiieekatsopolous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
used? how? you know what......never mind. I don't even want to know. ugh.............
2006-08-23 15:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋