I even found out that she is moving back in with her mother for her help. I am the father and I should be the one helping not her mother. Please someone give me some advice on what I should do.
2006-08-23 07:56:35 · 22 answers · asked by The Mole 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Dang dude, the baby is probably not even yours then. And if it is yours, she's so so stupid the best thing that could happen to a baby is have mom and dad together. She should be happy to have a man by her side. Before anything you should get blood test done to see if the baby is yours, if the baby is yours, then try talking to her ask her if she loves you, I hope she's mature enough to answer you like you deserve and if she don't want to be with you as long as she lets you be in the baby's life and make sure you don't give her cash money always money orders. Boy you better keep record of that, GOOD LUCK, God please see over this guy, help him.
2006-08-23 08:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by CherryBomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't any thing you can do until the baby is born. Good for you though for standing up and being a man, and wanting to take care of the situation. Be patient with her. My fiance and I were broken up when I found out I was pregnant, and after a lot of thought, I decided it would be best for our child if I tried to fix our problems. That was 4 years ago. Now we are the proud parents of a 3 year old little girl and are planning on our wedding for next summer. We've been together for 8 years now, and we went through a lot. Remember, she's pregnant, emotional, and extremely sensitive and if she's any thing like me, bitchy! On top of that, I'm sure she's scared and nervous, and morning sickness on top of that! So give her some time. Let her get a grip of the situation. You've got months before the time really comes and when it does, It will hit you both.
Hope I helped a little.
2006-08-23 15:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by lillibellemichele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem, my ex doesn't want anything to do with me either, he even won't talk to me about options or anything. I've told him I don't want child support just his support because i know he's a great father to his twin four year olds, and i'ld rather the baby have a dad than a pay check. His new gf even threatened to jump me (he did stop that) so I would miscarry. In my situation it's the company around him that is creating the problem not nessicarily him (the gf) so I plan on taking him out of that situation...bringing to my house, to dinner something just away from any 3rd, 4th, ect outside influences. Also just give her some time specially if she isn't that far along, she's going through alot she's about to be a single mom, your help or not and that takes alot to digest, just go slowly with it and don't be over powering...
2006-08-23 18:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by am i a mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really strange. Most women who get pregnant and want to keep the baby want the father involved with the child's life. Are you sure it is your baby? Are you a responsible person?
If you believe you are the father and you care about this woman and your child, then tell her. Be very kind, gentle and sincere when you talk to her and express your feelings about the situation. Your child needs both parents in his/her life. Don't give up.
2006-08-23 15:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am expecting my first child and am no longer with the father.
We moved in together after we found out I was pregnant. When I moved in with him things were great at first, then things quickly turned bad. He left me alone all the time, and was never happy. He indirectly blamed me for every problem in his life, and we were broke all the time. Everytime I would bring up the baby, he would say we'll talk about it when it comes. I was extremely lonely, depressed, and didn't want to raise my child in that kind of life.
I am now at home with my mom and my sister. I am happy again, my financial situation is working its self out, and I'm no longer lonely. I still talk to him sometimes, but he blames me for leaving him alone and says I took everything from him. I still love him, but I love my child more and she deserves better than that.
2006-08-23 15:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give her some time I know you are apart of the baby's life to but your ex girlfriends body its going tho lots of changes and maybe she just needs some time to get her head around being pregnant I know your head must be all over the place to but give her some space and time.
Then talk to her and tell her how you feel tell her you just want to be there for her and the baby and you want to help out with what ever shes needs.
Wish you luck
2006-08-23 15:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Foxy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard and emotional time for the both of you. she is going through changes in her life and with her body. My advice is just make sure she knows that your their for her and the baby and give her some space to figure out how to handle all the change. let her know the role you want to take on and maybe try to go to some Dr's appointments. congratulations on the new joy and good luck with your situation!
2006-08-23 15:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by welchs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her sometime to think about her life, the baby, and you. She needs your support. Don't stress her more than what she already is and what she eventually will go through now that she's pregnant. Relax dude, just be there for her and stop questioning her about her decision to move back with her mother. Let her be for now.
2006-08-23 15:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by JunAlo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time. She is probably experiencing very mixed emotions right now. It is very easy to upset a pregnant woman so don't pursue her just yet. You can send her a card now and then to let her know that you are thinking about her and the baby. You could also send some flowers. Let her come to you. Congratulations on the baby. I pray that all works out for all three of you. God Bless
2006-08-23 15:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mean for this to come out the wrong way, but are you sure you are the father? Someone I know went through a similar thing and he ended up not being the father.
Let her know that you are there for her and that you want to be a part of this experiance.
best of luck to you.
2006-08-23 14:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋