His family says that anyone can come, mine insists that only those attending the wedding should be invited-sold a ticket, whatever...I'm just curious who is "right"
2006-08-23 07:55:24 · 14 answers · asked by Colleen Cook 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In case of misunderstanding, I don't mean just the wedding party, but my family says only wedding guests should go to the bachelor party.
2006-08-23 08:09:03 · update #1
its who ever you want to go. it doesn't have to be only the wedding party
2006-08-23 07:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~Saratini~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well normally since it is the best man and the groomsmen who plan the bachelor party they may not know who is invited to the wedding and who is not. In my case my fiance has friends that know they are not invited to the wedding but want to be included in the bachelor party. Sometimes the groomsmen will also ask their own friends that could just be acquaintances of the groom. I'd say it's up to the best man and the groomsmen. Anyways, who's ever heard of a guy being upset because he was invited to a day of fun with strippers and drinking but not to the wedding? Also this is not like a bridal shower where gifts are involved. It's just the guys excuse to go out and party.
2006-08-23 18:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by spottedtiger2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the wedding is small and family only, or just really close people. Then you should invite anyone that the bachelor wants.
If the wedding is very large and you are inviting everyone you know then it would be awkward if they were at the bachelor party but not the wedding.
Just figure if you don't have an excuse as to why they weren't invited to the wedding, why invite them to the bachelor party.
2006-08-23 15:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what i understand, the bachelor party is thrown by the best man and his friends. I would think that all of the friends there would be attending the wedding, therefore should be allowed to come. I think it wouldnt be prudent to invite those who arent invited to the wedding, unless you are having a very tiny wedding/reception. That is one way you can involve friends in your celebrating.
If it were me, I would invite all of my friends, NO coworkers (too much gossiping!), and family. That is how my bridal shower is going to be. Friends and family only. Anyone else that I dont invite to the wedding can come to the reception (and even that will be limited on who I invite)
2006-08-23 17:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically male friends of the groom, including the groom's attendants. It's considered bad ettiquite to invite people to a bachelor party but not invite then to the wedding, unless they know beforehand that the ceremony is small and only for family and closest friends.
2006-08-23 15:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Duende71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone invited to a "pre-wedding party" (shower, bach party, bridal luncheon, engagement party, rehearsal dinner, etc) MUST also be invited to the wedding. It is extremely rude not to invite them to the wedding also.
You do not sell tickets to a party of any kind. You invite guests to a party. Charging guests money is offensive. The host(s) decides what kind of party to have and picks up all costs of hosting the party.
2006-08-24 17:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the guys that your man knows or are related and are invited to the wedding. His family is right. Some men have friends/buddies that just aren't wedding attenders and the bachelor party gives them a chance to send their friend off to wedded bliss.
your parents aren't suppose to foot the bill for it all your soon-to-be husbands friends do.
2006-08-24 14:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite whomever the Groom wants. We had a bunch of friends of friends at my husbands bachelor party, most were not invited to the wedding, but they had a great time and it just made it more fun for my husband. Two things to remember... girls at a bachelor part (not strippers, just friends) are ONLY allowed if the GROOM wants them there, and what happens at the party STAYS at the party...
2006-08-23 15:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Angela S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say that only people who are attending the wedding should be invited because if you invite ones that arn't comeing then they might feel out of place. good luck
2006-08-23 15:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coworkers, neighbors, acquantainces, anyone that is up for some fun. They don't necesesarly have to be invited to the wedding to be able to participate, since it's an informal affair.
Good luck
2006-08-23 14:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no "right" answer. generally people will invite those who were invited to the wedding whether the accepted or declined, and that's just not to "hurt feelings" of those not invited. but it's really anyone
2006-08-23 15:00:54 · answer #11 · answered by ~*~Stacy~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋