Ive tried everything. I still want to be his friend, but i don't think its going to happen. He says he loves me all the time and if i don't say it back he acts like someone peed in his fruitloops. if I don't answer my phone or hang out with him when I have a day off he says i don't care about him and that he's just the crap onthe bottom of my shoe. I had to move 45 minutes away to end the relationship cause he wouldn't leave me alone. I don't want to ruin the friendship but i think i'm going to have to.I'm usually not down but he upsets me. I think i just answered my own question...but have at it. let me know what you think?
2006-08-23 07:52:26 · 16 answers · asked by nicolea0329 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't change other people. Staying away would make him be responsible for his inability to be a friend to you. You're just setting a boundary to protect yourself. You're not ruining anything.
You can avoid having negative people in life, but you can't stop them from being what they are.
He needs to take responsibility for his own happiness and picking up the pieces.
2006-08-23 07:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is painful specially if someone dumps you . Your ex-boyfriend is going through the 'denial' phase ( he is denying the fact that you trying to break up with him) , he need time to move to 'accept ' phase .
You will have to talk to him honestly that you don't love him , but you do care about him as friend. Your ex should not be around you , give him time and space and he will move on .
On your part all you have to do is just be honest with him and NEVER even by mistake give him any hint that you still got feelings for him .
Being rude is not solution , and it will hurt him very much too , and he might take some extreme steps .
2006-08-23 15:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Saint Devout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be friends with him right now, he is still to attached to you. Separate yourself from him and if he makes stupid remarks on your message machine then let it go. He will get the hint in time. Or you can try telling him that he is really bothering you and that your tired of hearing all the stupid remarks, remind him he is the EX and that you don't have to deal with him anymore if you chose not too. One way or another I'm sure he will back off.
2006-08-23 14:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you should do is just let him go. Unfortunately its not going to be the easiest thing to do because you care for him, but if you truly do not want to be with him you need to end it. Completely. Good luck and wish you well!
2006-08-23 14:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by GSRgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make excuses for sending the wrong message.
THERE IS NO EXCUSE.
You don't tell someone you love them when you don't. Instead, you say sorry I don't think of you that way anymore ...that part of our relationship is over.
It would appear that you have brought this upon yourself and are making excuses for it ... ACCEPT THE RESPONSIBILTY
2006-08-23 15:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's guilting you, talk to him about pursuing you if he doesn't stop it's going to ruin your friendship and you don't want that but you will cut the friendship off if he keeps guilting you and keeps trying to get you back.
2006-08-23 14:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, next time he calls you just talk to him, and if he reacts negatively or starts to mope around, then you might just have to end the friendship.
2006-08-23 14:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by living2die_0110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no friendship here, he is a mental case. if you had to move 45 mins away!!!?? you can't be friends. change your phone number and let it go....otherwise they keep coming back
2006-08-23 14:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by soxgirl0780 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the chump, he is obviously not good at taking a hint so just be straight forward
2006-08-23 14:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like you can be friends. he also sounds immature. yea try ignoring him or change your number or something. he might get worse if you actually start dating someone else and then he finds out. we don't want to have a "lifetime movie" event happen. don't want to scare you but he sounds odd. becareful.
2006-08-23 14:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋