i'm a father of 3 and i am 28 yrs old but whenever i'm at a school function, sports event ,restaurant, or out in public.. i feel like everyone is starring at me as if i'm too young or sometimes i feel like i dont fit in with all the other parents with their kids.... maybe because i still look like i'm 18... just some advice or any suggestions that might set my mind at ease.. thank you...
2006-08-23 07:43:52 · 17 answers · asked by ROBERT N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is 23 years old and he looks like he is 16. I am 25 and I look my age. We get looks all the time because it appears I'm a "cradle robber". Also my husband is in prison at this time, and personally I have a condition called dwarfism. We both have people judging us on a daily basis.
No matter who you are you are going to have rough days and people are going to think what they want. We all have something about each one of us that someone else is going to think badly about, even if it's something we cannot control. It's up to us to live life to our standards and be happy.
My suggestion, find things you like about yourself and about your life and concentrate on those things. Only you are responsible for your own happiness.
2006-08-23 07:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i do sometimes. I'm 23 with two children (6 and 4) and i do sometimes feel like i am by some people. I find that most are ok and pleasent but there are a few of the snobby older women at my sons school who speak to me as tho i am a child which i find annoying but i most the time i just ignore it.
One woman one time i spoke to on the ferry once asked me if my children still had contact with there dads i was very offended by that. I explained to her i was still with my partner and we were very happy and yes he was both my childrens biological father and she was wrong for making assumpions she never said sorry tho and i don't believe she thought it wrong to make such a judgement.
2006-08-23 07:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are young to have 3 kids and if you look 18 then it makes it worse. People also aren't used to seeing young guys involved with their kids so that could be another reason they are looking. Doesn't that put your mind at ease ?
2006-08-23 07:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens to me and my husband as well. I am almost 29 and he recently turned 29 and ALL the parents seem to be WAY older than us. They all cluster together and talk to each other but never us. Any more, I just ignore them. I know we are good parents. I also know we are successful young professionals and have a good and solid marriage. I figure I am there in support of my children, not to really socialize with people I obviously have no common interests with anyhow.
2006-08-23 07:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand this completely, I am 25 and my husband is 27 and I feel those looks too. I just try to ignore it and still involve myself as much as possible, show them just because we are young doesnt mean anything and if they still look at me that way then I just try to deal with it so that I dont make things hard on my 2 girls.
2006-08-23 07:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by yo mamma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your self.
I am sure you are a good person.
What others think is i immaterial.
Your age has nothing to do with it
Of course you fit it is they that don't
People are strange animals
If you look as you say 18
perhaps they are jealous.
Your self worth should not be damaged by others insecurities
I hope this helps
Remember to SMILE
Have a great day
2006-08-23 07:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by witchfromoz2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of have the opposite problem. I am 36 husband is 41. All our kids friends have parents in their 20's. Most of our friends that are our age have teenagers! So..we really don't fit in anywhere! LOL
2006-08-23 07:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by FED UP! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will think what they want and you can't control it so don't let what they think control you. Be proud that you have 3 beautiful kids! On the bright side, you will be able to play sports with them and whatnot, watch them grow up and have their own kids, etc. when the other parents are experiencing their midlife crisis!
2006-08-23 07:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like someone else said, we're all judged everyday. I think it's kind of funny though. I am a female to male transsexual. I am 26 years old, and looked my age as a female. NOW, though, I look like a 15 or 16 y.o. boy, and get teenage girls hitting on me. I just laugh.
Unless they're sleeping with you, or paying your bills...f**k em, who cares what THEY think?
2006-08-23 07:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bible says dont judge unless you want it done to yourself. they look at you and think youre too young and inexpereince with kids and fatherhood. im 29 and im not a parent but i know how to handle/raise kids. and i looklike im like 16 or so.
i think theyre just jealous.
2006-08-23 07:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by jamz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋