So, a couple of months ago I finally left my abusive husband after many years in a marriage that was complete hell. I just thank God for waking me up and reminding me of who I was and who he made me to be.
Now my husband is angry that I left him and have a restraining order against him. He thinks it has to be because I am cheating on him. Not the case. I was faithful to him even before I knew him. He still wants to punish me and is telling everyone we know, friends, family, people at church, our own children, all about how I am having an affair, how I broke his heart, etc. Then he says he loves me and wants me back, but every chance he gets he is threatening and intimidating me. He has said so many things about me to so many people, I just feel like I have no where to turn.
Well, I do know I can turn to God. I'm going to keep on praying. I am also going to head up north and go quadding on the beach for a couple of days. Maybe some fun is all that I really need. ???
2006-08-23 07:42:54 · 17 answers · asked by anabasisx 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So, are you asking if fun is all you need, or just need to get some feelings out in the open???
2006-08-23 07:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ur going through a tough time, but God still has a purpose for u. Don't ever lose sight of that. God loves u and despite how u feel, u can never truly be alone. Pray about it and study the Bible- it'll truly comfort u. Whenever things are going wrong I usually read a book called "When God Doesn't Make Sense" by Dr. James Dobson. It's a great book that shows u how 2 be strong when things in life go awry. Take some time out for urself. After having an abusive relationship, u should be proud of urself for getting rid of that man! Ur free now- so u should take some time 2 go 2 the salon, go shopping, go out 2 eat w/ friends. Basically live life 2 its fullest. I know it's hard not the think about the past, but try 2 move forward. U'll feel so much better once u've realized that what u lost was nothing- u only gained a sense of wellbeing and independence. God bless u and much luv!
2006-08-23 07:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you deserve to relax and have some fun for a change. Make sure all of those people he bad-mouthed you to know the truth about you and his abuse too. Tell him if he contacts you or your family members again you will call the police and tell them he is in violation of the restraining order. By no means ever, ever go back with him. He will continue to accuse you of cheating on him, and those he lied to about you will think he must be right, if you went back to him. Be on your own for a while and see how nice it is to be free to be where you want when you want with whoever you want to be with, and never go back to slavery.
2006-08-23 07:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You havn't an affair ! Ok , you believe you'r honest , then nothing to worry about . I want you to have your turn ; to tell people the truth , as you know it !
Then you keep going in your life ; this happens everywhere in the world : Two humans love each other , get merried , after two years they discover they are not M.F.E.O ( made for each other ).
You are not the only one . So don't be angry wiith any one !!!!
2006-08-23 07:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by citizen high 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left an abusive husband 4 years ago and It was the best thing I couldn've done. The people your husband tells the lies to won't believe him.
If God reminded you of who you are and what you're supposed to be......then how can you not know what to do when you're alone? What do you want to do? Do it, you don't need anyones permission.
You wanna lay around the house, go to the park, start a hobby, go to the library......whatever....just do it!!
2006-08-23 07:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by beachie51 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CONGRATULATIONS for leaving an abusive husband. That took courage, and now that you have made the break, have a good time for self and your new found freedom. First divorce the bum and then date, go to parties, go to dance clubs and just have the time of your life, the time you were deprived of during your marriage to that bum!! You have done a good thing, so don't look back!!
Good luck!!
2006-08-23 07:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go wrong turning to God and calling on a faithful friend who can give you love and support. God be with you and I pray that your husband gets help.
2006-08-23 07:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God will make you just as abusive as your husband was. Christians are some of the least understanding people out there.
2006-08-23 07:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a lot of prayer! Keep away from him and do not fall into temptation! If he is putting things into the kids heads then you really should have supervised visitations or prevent them until after the divorce is final
2006-08-23 07:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by lttlbt22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't so much matter what you do in this life, but the qualities you practice. Faith is a good quality. You are never alone and you will discover that when your mind is quiet and listening. Practice prayer and meditation to clear your head of the mess you are in, then you will find answers to your difficulties.
2006-08-23 07:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jimbo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋