me and my guy want to get engaged on my 21st birthday but we have lot of troubles with my dad....he still lives about 3 generations behind. he is so bad that he does not even like us kissing each other in front of him or anyone that can see us. We have been going steady for more than a year now and love each other very much.
what can we do to get their approval and to let them see how much we love one another?
2006-08-23 07:35:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to show him the respect he deserves and not kiss in front of him. He will come around with the marriage when he feels that the boy is safe and a good worker and really loves you. Dads know how boys are and some will say they love you to get what they can get! Give him time and don't rush! You are young still. In the meantime you two work on budgets,religious questions,how many and when you will have kids, where to live-how much rent/payment,savings above budget, savings for furnishings,car, etc., who's home will you go to for Christmas, etc.will someone stay home with kids, and so many more things you need to talk about and start doing. Both need to clean up credit and/or make a few small loans and pay them off before the wedding to build credit.You will be receiving a whole family and all of their problems and happiness when you get married. Discuss just how much you want to be involved or barged in on beforehand. Just a few ideas! Hope you have a happy and secure future!
2006-08-23 07:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want their approval you need to act like an adult and respect how your parents feel. If they don't want to see you slobbering on each other in front of them, don't do it. If you want to be considered adult enough to make the choice to become engaged so young, then at least act like an adult by being respectful.
Sit down like adults with your parents and talk to them about your engagement. Get their opinion. Just because you are engaged doesn't mean you have to rush to get married. If you choose to be engaged for a year before planning a wedding, that might ease their fears.
You are a bit young, IMO, to get married, and I am talking from personal experience. I married at 21, and was divorced by 24, because in my (and your) early 20's a lot of things change in your life, your world opens up to a lot of new things, you haven't reached a full maturity yet....and my husband & I both changed...if the two of you can survive the changes you are inevitably going to go through, great, but it is rare.
good luck
2006-08-23 07:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never get his approval. You are still his "little girl" and obviously he is having a hard time letting go of that. Just do what is right for you. It is YOUR life.
2006-08-23 07:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋