ok, so me and my bf of 3 yrs recently broke up a week ago because he went psycho and threw my table and tore down my door beads and yelled at me, etc, etc. so we sort of got back together, for a few days friends only, and now were together "working things out". but i dont want my friends and family to know that im stupid enough to take him back again...yet. and now everyone is trying to set me up with all their guy friends and i cant say "no, me and my ex are back together" cause then ill look stupid and nieve. so what the crap do i do or say??
2006-08-23 07:28:04 · 25 answers · asked by *~* tErrA *~* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because you're trying to work things out that doesn't mean you don't have other options - there's no guarantee things will actually work out or that you'll stay together. Your BF is abusive. It wouldn't hurt for you to check out some of these other guys. Maybe one of them will be the right one for you. You and your BF should cool it and you should try one date with each of the other guys just to get some perspective. Even if you and your BF stay together, maybe you'll end up with some decent guy buddies.
2006-08-23 09:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not a good signal. Imagine what would happen if you decided to marry him. You don't mention why he got so upset but in any event, it not good. You dont want your friends and family to know because you told them all what happened. These situations are private and if you would of told me, I would of advice you to keep away from this psyco. He threw your table, tore down your door beads, yealled at you and the next, you know what could happen. Give him one more chance but just one, if it happens again, get away from him. About you having to explain to families and friends, it's not necessary but if you feel so, just tell them you are together again, It's not them to judge you but I hope you learned not to argue your private issues with details. Next time just say you argued and it's over and thats it. If your willing to give the guy another chance foreget about looking stupid however, you still have the choice of deciding to breakup. BEST OF LUCK
2006-08-23 07:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by ladydi9red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Terra, Whose life is it anyway? We all have to learn and make our "own" mistakes! Don't hide it! Then you'll be the "jerk"! Face them with it and if they don't like it tell them you're just being honest and that's the way it is! They make not like what they hear from you but they'll "respect" you for telling the truth! And so what if it doesn't work out "again". You pick up the pieces and move on and you "learn" from your mistakes! If it doesn't work out , I wouldn't be afraid of the , "I told you so"s!" , So what,you tried and did what you had to do for you! I only have one concern. If he's slapping you around and physiaclly abusing you then it is time to quit! If he's just a little boy having "temper tantrums" he needs to learn to grow up! If he thinks he can get away with it he probably will continue to keep doing it. You can stop it! Tell him you took him back this time, but if it happens again you won't be around, and this time learn, Terra, mean it! Good Luck!
2006-08-23 07:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to that psycho chick on The Real World Key West. Try watching some rerun episodes.
Sorry, but it sounds really immature that you are so afraid to tell people that you are back with your abusive & violent boyfriend.
If that is "YOUR" personal decision, you should not care what other people think.
2006-08-23 07:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you appreciate their help but you have your eye on someone else right now and you are pursuing only him. They don't need to know who just say a new friend. People are going to think I'm stupid for going back to my ex but I think I will. I'm just going to put up with their bad opinions of him. If you do tell them the truth, tell them to please keep quiet about their opinion of you and him getting back together if that'll help that's what I'm going to do when they find out I'm going out with my ex again. Also tell them you'll consider what they say and you are aware what could happen and will do what is best for you if it happens again so they won't have to worry about your safety as much, you're aware it could happen again. Please do follow through on what you say too because it could end up in you getting hurt or getting killed.
2006-08-23 07:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me? you'd take back a guy who went psycho??? You are out of your mind..... Has he been in any anger management courses? has he seeked help for his agressive/anger issues? I am sure that you are an intelligent girl, but you are being VERY STUPID. He's going to flip out again and next time he may throw you instead of the tables. You need to be worried about your safety, and don't assume he'd never hit you, he's obviously unstable when he's angry... if you even saw the cases I see of women getting beat to death, or near to it, by their men who thy knew had anger issues, and chose to believe that their men would "never physically hurt them" You need to realize that this is not a healthy relationship for you right now. Get out
2006-08-23 07:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone who goes psycho and does that is scary to be around. becareful..go out on the dates maybe you'll find someone with a better temper or better yet one that doesn't need anger management. sweetie you're young stay away from this guy. don't take him back. you'll get damaged by this situation. it's better to be single and looking than miserable relationship that will turn into a living hell. uh! so not worth it.
2006-08-23 07:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you already know you're being dumb and naive letting a violent man come back into your life, I won't go there. Just tell your friend you aren't ready to get back into the dating game. It's pretty sad when you can't tell the people that care about you about your BF. Red flag don't you think?
2006-08-23 07:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the psycho as soon as possible. ANYONE who throws a tantrum like is not only immature and lacks self-control, but they are DANGEROUS! You never know when he might flip again. I've never met him, but he obviously has abusive tendancies. Someone who is that destructive is not a good lover and will only make your life miserable. Maybe he is bipolar?
2006-08-23 07:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years one fight, didnt touch u right? Was he drunk? If so does he drink a lot? Let him know that what u got is amazing and if he gets close to doing anything like that again he will lose you for good... the only thing is, u have to mean it! Tell your friends and family, theyll get over it, u need them.
2006-08-23 07:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mommyof3 BGB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋