Adoption??

Question

I don't understand how anti-abortion are saying that they can't afford to adopt children or they had their own. Yet many of these people have their own chioldren. They choose to have sex and produce children when there are so many in need. Is this not hypocritical?

BTW, I'm not judging people for having children. I'm judging them for demanding people have children without a plan for providing loving homes for said children. Kinda like liberating a country and then letting it go all to hell.

Answer 1

agreed. if you are anti-abortion and want to tell others how to run their lives i think you need to fix their mistakes. you can start by adopting all the orphans. otherwise stop making excuses as to why you wont help the children who need it but still wanna bash on everyone who does consider abortion to be more necessary.

i myself am not PRO abortion or ANTI abortion, im mearly pro-choice. i think everyone lives their lives and you shouldnt tell them how. if we had to do what some people wanted, no1 would eat meat, no one would eat eggs, no one would drive cars (or pollute in any other way), no1 would have a mind of their own.

Answer 2

I had five children raised them all and yet i will not stand in judgment of any ones decision to abort even though I would have had a hard time doing that, I do believe God gave us freedom of Choice ,and the Law is no better than God. Most anti Abortionist have never saw the Foster Children statistics or how many have been badly abused and even killed. How can any of us know what is good for some one Else?

Answer 3

Adoption is a really tough thing.
Firstly, the costs are astronomical. There are fees attached to every aspect of the adoption process. Don't kid yourself, it can cost thousands upon thousands of dollars (out of pocket) when all is said and done.
It can take months just too properly check out the people who wish to adopt, background checks etc. Going threw a whole slew of tests just to have a whole board full of people decide whether or not you will be a fit parent, while we know there are many very unfit parents out there with children of their own.
Excluding the costs and the time it takes just to be approved, finding the right child can be just as tough.
First of all, finding a child that fits the bill is difficult. Many parents don't want a child who is over a certain age, for fear they won’t be recognized as the parents. Also, many people don't want children outside of their race, for fear of ostracizing, or just because they want a child that looks like them. And often time’s parents do not want children with a disability, due to added care needed. Often times too, familial history is unknown, which can make many parents (new, in particular) very weary. While I feel that age/race/disability should not affect someone's desire to adopt a child, it does.

Getting past all of this, even after you have adopted a child, problems can still occur.

Parents of adopted children are checked in on, regularly. Now, they have spent months and months proving themselves as fit parents only to be watched over by the same people who watch over parents who have abused and neglected their children in the past. They are visited by Social Workers regularly for a long time, just like all the offending parents.

So we get past all of these things, and its one big happy family, right? NO. Even when you dot all your i's and cross all your T's, there are still loose ends in the adoption system. Birth parents can get their children back, most of the time. Even when they have waved their rights, there are still ways around it.

Knowing all of this, knowing that you can get threw "everything" get extremely attached to a child to have the birth father show up at his fifth birthday demanding parental rights, well, why WOULD you do it?

And just to be clear, I cannot have children, so when I decide I am ready I am fully prepared to go threw this process.

Beyond all that, who are you to judge someone for having a child?

Answer 4

I respectfully disagree with you. It is not hypocritical to have children of your own. Marriage is a Sacrament and one of the tenants of this marriage is that husbands and wifes should be open to the creation of new life that God creates within the marriage union. Yes, there are many children in need and we are all obligated to do all within our means to help care for them. That may be very different for many as everyone has different means and talents but it is not up to you to decide that any person who respects the dignity of life is hypocritical. What are you doing yourself? Have you adopted any needy children? Do you help support causes or groups in place, to the best of your ability, to help these needy children? Do you pray for them? Look within before trying to condemn others.

Answer 5

Are you saying that because people think abortion is wrong they shouldn't have their own children? Why just because they believe life begins in the womb can they not experience that miracle for themselves? That's like saying that people who think spending ridiculous amounts of money on possessions is wrong should live in cardboard boxes to make their point. Yes, there are many kids in need but it isn't because people think abortion is wrong, it's because people don't act responsible in the first place.

Answer 6

We have two sons.. when we were in our mid 30's, we tried to adopt. We were told then, that we were too young, and could have more of our own children.. I assured them we couldn't, and that we wanted more than anything to adopt.
Then, when we turned 30.. we were considered too old.
This was in the late 70's..
We have the home - the love - and are able to support children now.. but we're grandparents.. we're told we're too old to be able to care for anyone..etc. Bull... we're only 56.

Answer 7

No, sex and procreation are natural and expected. Yes there are many children in need but it's because of the lack of people who never belonged having sex in the first place. It's tiring to think of all the ways we have to try to fix the f ***-ups in the world.

Answer 8

My wife's grandparents fostered over 100 children and adopted seven of them, my wife and I are in the process of adopting a sibling set to keep them together. Who is being judgemental and critical here. Are you feeling guilty about something?

Answer 9

IT IS A SAD STATE THAT MANY GOOD PEOPLE WILL NOT ADOPT BUT THAT IS HUMAN NATURE AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO CHANGE THAT EVERYONE WANTS THEIR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD AND YOU CAN'T BLAME THEM FOR THAT THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING PG AND THE MIRACLE OF BIRTH I WISH THAT I COULD AFFORD 100 BUT I AM NOT ABLE DON'T BE TOO HARD ON THESE PEOPLE HAVE SOME COMPASSION AND UNDERSTANDING

Answer 10

In your anger you are ranting ignorance.

Choosing to have your own children hypocritical that makes NO sense.

Calm down take a deep breath and try again.

Answer 11

Or..hey, here's an idea!
We gather all these immoral and irresponsible people up, and put them in pens, and let them breed, so the rest of us can raise their kids!
That way, we can all have all the kids we want, and NO STRETCH MARKS!!
HEY, this could catch on!!!!

My answer was no more rude or patronizing than your question.....