What would you do and think if you were with a woman that you were absolutly in love with. I mean, you had never felt this way about any other woman. She was sexy, smart, romantic, loving, honest, trustworthy, and more. But before you guys become intimate, she tells you that there is no way that she is going to give or receive oral, and she does not want any anal. But she's all for having intercourse, and she happens to be really good in bed. She's def. HOT and SEXY and can really get you going. What would you say to her? Would you accept it, since you love her, or would you say BaBye??? As I'm sure you have figured out by now, I'm basically describing myself. I've neve rhad oral or anal sex, and I don't really want to try. I wouldn't let a guy force me into it, but I am interested as to what guys think and what they would do in such a situation. Please be specific guys!
2006-08-23 07:01:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't see this as a problem... if she said no hands, that might be a problem, as I like to touch my wife everywhere, but anal/oral are pretty much negotiable to me.
2006-08-23 07:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've asked the question, you've got it in you to want oral and perhaps anal
If she is unwilling to meet you that far she's not in love, it's just not worth it to her with you, as hard as that may be to swallow
You don't want to set yourself up for failure down the road, losing everything in a divorce to a woman because in the end 10 years into a marriage you suddenly realized you wanted more in a women and in a relatioship that the cold offerings she leaves you
2014-09-20 11:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Forse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not wanting anal or to give oral. I'd be a little surprised that you don't want to receive oral because it doesn't require you to do anything you wouldn't do. Also it would make me wonder what you mean by sex if you don't want the guy going down there. Is he allowed to kiss you there, or are his hands and face required to stay "above the belt" at all times? And are yours going to?
But ultimately I'd accept it because I'd be in love with you, so anything I did with you would be wonderful.
I hope you like my answer :)
2006-08-23 07:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to find a guy who doesn't like oral. If you are honest with the guy upfront. Don't be wishy-washy either. Then a guy is either gonna use you and move on, or he is going to be with you anyway.
I would not be able to stay with you because I LOVE to give oral and if I am really into it and you aren't then we are not going to make it. That is the same with anything. If you LOVE Salsa and I don't dance, we aren't gonna get along that well down the road.
Find someone with mutual interests in bed as well as out.
2006-08-23 08:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well first of all..all women wants oral..i mean they went to get oral froma guy..maybe u donot want to cause u never thought the advatages u would get if a guy gave u oral..secondly..about 90% of americans never force women for anal..and trust me..they maybe all want blowjobs..but if they love someone very much they wont let her do that..soo it normale. but iam tellin u..if u had oral froma guy..u know between ur legs..u wont regret..u will ask for more..
2006-08-23 07:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by hekal 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is your body and you can do with it what you wish. However, were it me, and were I listening to this laying down of the ground rules for intimacy in non-negotiable terms as if you were the only one in the relationship, I would probably think about it long and hard and then be on my way.
Even if you are all of the things you say you are, what you are not is flexible and able to compromise, and those attributes are exceedingly important in sustaining a long-term relationship. As I say, it's your body and you can do what you wish, but so can he.
2006-08-23 07:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by anonymourati 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry but this would have been a subject we would have covered a long time ago and if that was your answer then we would never be able to work past it, I think you have to be compatible in the bedroom just as in your life and we wouldn't be
2006-08-23 07:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well your really condtradicting yourself...how can you say your "really good in bed" when you won't or don't want to open up to new things....
Anal I can understand, usually chicks are not into it...too much pain...
But oral is like having milk with your cookies...A1 sauce on your steak....hot fudge on your icecream...can you smell what I'm cooking?
Try it..you might like it....actually I can almost promise, guarantee 30 day money back you will love it!
2006-08-23 07:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by tuffness9999 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't be good in bed if you're not into oral sex. I love giving and receiving oral sex. I couldn't be with someone who isn't into trying new things.
2006-08-23 15:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
That they wouldnt get anything from me done to them. Got to be fare you know.
2006-08-23 07:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋