Thank you for all that helpful advice. I'm 14. Do u thnik it's ok for a person of that age do have sex? My Boyfriend is 17. Do u think that's ok?
2006-08-23 07:00:44 · 26 answers · asked by PartyChick22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait. You're too young to let your body write checks that your emotions may not be able to cash. I know you don't think so but the trick to this is that you don't get to find out until afterward and you want to avoid the potential for a bad trip, so to speak. I'd hate for you to have negative feelings about your first time, negative feelings about yourself, negative feelings period and there is huge potential for that. Also, at this age, there is this background tape that plays in lots of girls' heads after the first time. "I've done it before, no reason not to now". And they sleep with EVERY consecutive boyfriend (I'm generalizing, I know). Get real good at saying no and do it several more years before saying yes, okay? It's really the only right thing. You're too young, sugar, just too young.
2006-08-23 07:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to sound very cliche, but my advice to you would be for you to wait. So many of us out there who had sex regardless of our age, often wish we had waited until later. I do, however, think that you are to young to have a boyfriend who is 17. When you're older (like in your 20s), age differences like that don't matter. but for now, you're dealing with someone who is almost considered an adult in the eyes of the law, and could legally be up on very serious charges should you have sex with him, your parents find out, and decide to pursue action. Secondly, while I'm sure you might be mature for your age, you have to wonder where his maturity level is since he feels it's normal to date 14-year-olds.
2006-08-23 14:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Candilaria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are to young, girls of your age, in my opinion, are not emotionally mature for this. Just wait a few years. If your boyfriend loves you, than he'll wait. You will be more happy if you do. If you had sex now at your age, and got pregnant, it would be really hard on you. I think you should finish school for your benifet. You will have a lot more to look forward to.
2006-08-23 14:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel it's alright to have sex at that age you'll regret it believe me.
You'll have a lot of time for sex and those things later so take your time going out and having great time with your boyfriend but sex that's too soon
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-23 14:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Wise_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not ok and ur not helpless. if he really really loves you which he's probably telling you, then he would be willing for you to wait. he's probably using the centuries old guilt trip of asking you that if you love him you'll do it.... well, what about if he really loved you he wouldn't be pressuring you into it. don't do it.. ur too young... aside from the fact that it's morally wrong, you could get pregnant, get a disease and what if he ends up leaving you??? you want to be able to hold ur head up high and know that when you get married, you deserve to be in white and your future husband will love you even more for it. most importantly, talk to your parents.. believe me, it might be hard but they will be glad u did and it'll open up the relationship so much more.
2006-08-23 14:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by ana g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally don't, especially with such an age difference between you....when you are older, 3 years will not make such a big difference, but at this point in your lives, you are both very different emotionally, socially, and with regards to life experience....i would wait if i were you and allow yourself to mature, especially in the emotional department...having sex is a big step, and nothing you want to take lightly....please be careful, and by the way, if you have to ask strangers if you are ready, then chances are, you are not ready.....you have to KNOW absolutely that you are ready....but please, no matter when or what you decide, respect yourself and make sure he respects you...and be careful
2006-08-23 14:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by pineappleclock2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait as much as you can.. You are NOT ready for a responsibility this big!! Sex..brings lots of responsibilities... You need to enjoy your teenage years...Believe me...You will regret it if you do it at this age!! Your body is not ready...your mind is not ready...your emotions are not ready....You ...are just NOT ready....to have sex at 14.... Think about it very good.... You sound so smart...Don't do it!!. Good Luck!
2006-08-23 14:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It isn't alright for a 14 year old to have sex.
2006-08-23 14:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rape,but if you are truly ready then have it.but remember there is a risk of you becoming preg everytime you have sex,even if you do use condoms/birth control.they don't always protect you,there is only 1 way of not becoming preg and that not have sex at all.
2006-08-23 14:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know its the right time when.......you no longer have to ask complete strangers if its the right time. Or, by the laws in your state so that it's at least legal.
2006-08-23 14:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋