My bf of 2 years broke up with me for the 3rd time a couple of months ago saying that we weren't meant for each other. I was devastated but somehow I adjusted and started feeling ok again after many tears. We remained friends, but he now wants to get back together. I am holding back bc don't know how I feel about him anymore. I don't know if it is fear or if it just too late to go back to the way things were. I'm afraid of making the wrong decision and letting go.
2006-08-23 06:52:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm glad I found this answer, b/c i am going through the same thing right now.. by bf broke up w/ me and said that he just didn't want a relationship right now... well awhile down the road he realizes that he made a mistake. I have really been thinking about this hard b/c we enjoyed being together and never really had any fights, so when he did that it was a suprise.. So the only thing that keeps running in my mind is that HOW in the world or what in the world will keep him from acting this way again, how can I ever trust him again, and that things won't go back to the way they were when we were together, b/c there will be some resientments. As much as i love him I think our relationship is over, he has done to many things to hurt me and take my trust away. As long as we keep letting them do this to us they will do it over and over again. So the more that I write I am convenced that it isn't going to work, and there is no use going through the pain. And I know that he will do it again when he gets a wild hair up his as$!
good luck and remember this is my experience, and only a suggestion.... follow you heart
2006-08-23 07:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen hun, 2 years is long enough to know if you want to be with someone or not, if he broke up with you and said he don't think you were meant to be then maybe he is right, you are probably to good for him. honey move on stay friends but move on he will regret losing you in the long run but honey you are not a door mat for him to wipe his feet on when he gets lonely and decides ok i will take her back for a little while, no hun you are worth more than a second and third try, if he thought that then, he still thinks so now, don't be convenient for him, you already had you heart broken by him more than once,...that is to many times....find some one who knows what they want and what they want is you.....don't waste any more time on him love....your tears and heart are precious, your love is one of a kind if he is wishy washy, leave him out there.hun let him go. and move on to a new love, there are plenty of fish in the sea,one just for you.
2006-08-23 14:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he doensnt know what he wants and you are just one of his experiments. I wouldnt go back with him because it seems that he hurts more every time he breaks up with you. If he really wanted to be with you he would have stayed and not made you cry and hurted you the way he did.
There are other guys out there ( i know none are like him) they are either better or worst but its just something we have to go though in the face of love. Love is not easy but it is a lesson to teach better on who to give our hearts to and on how far to go.
You cant change your life just because he comes back and decides to get back into your life, Have some respect for yourself show him that you are better than him and that you dont need him because guys like him are all over the place.
2006-08-23 14:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by La fresa04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure you want him back then tell him so. That many breakups means that you are just trying for a relationship where there isn't one. Chances are he prefers having a girlfriend to being alone and it's easier for him to ask you than any other girl who's around. Don't fall for it. It is time to move on.
2006-08-23 13:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have moved on and are feeling better, remind him that you were not meant for eachother and send him away. Sounds to me like he was going to pursue someone else and that fell through for him. Forget him , find someone you can trust 100%
2006-08-23 14:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by gina_road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him...if you finally got over it you are better off to leave it alone. If he did it to you 3 times he'll do it again and you will have to go through the break up all over again. 3 Strikes ...you're out! Don't put yourself through that again. I hope everything works out for you!
Good Luck!!
2006-08-23 13:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Smoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Do not get back together with him. Move on. If he's not sure, then screw him. I'm sure there are other guys who would jump at the chance to be with you. If he doesn't know what he wants, he probably never will. just try to move on.
2006-08-23 13:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by bored_at_work 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be sad.Boys are boys.If you still love hhim than give im a norther chance and ask him if he's interested in another girl,so you can this problem.If my method works e-mail me on horia6gloria@yahoo.com.OK?glad I could help.
2006-08-23 14:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by horia g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's too late go fwd and find happiness you remind me of a dog chasing it's tail when they get it the cry out
2006-08-23 13:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by lewd_behavyour 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it, three breakups bodes ill for any future relationship
2006-08-23 13:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋