I have a boyfriend and it's getting kind of serious. He asked me if it was the right time yet and i said I didn't know. I want to and all but i don't want anything bad to happen like he'll break up with me or something else might happen like getting pregnant. I want to be safe. Please someone, i need some advice on what to do.
2006-08-23 06:48:47 · 27 answers · asked by PartyChick22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its ok.. just use protection.
2006-08-23 06:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by christopher d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how old you are. Don't waste it on someone you don't know you'll be together with for ever. when you finally get married you would feel way better inside if you knew this was the man you last it to and he was the one who last it to you. i am married now and i have been with my husband since i was 15yrs old, we were each others first and it feels good knowing that because no past situations hurt either one of us, remember the past can bite you in the butt, make a good choice. you don't want to regret it, or worse him dump you and tell everyone about what you did. i just think you should take some time to think about it!!!
2006-08-23 13:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can use a condom but what if it breaks or falls off as it often does?
Then you can catch an unwanted pregnancy and/or an unwanted disease.
That's why you wait until you are married, tested and both of you are ready for committment.
Dont be a fool! WAIT!
What is the alternative? A little pleasure now or raising a child you are not ready for (by your own admission) and a fatal disease! You are smart. Choose right. If he objects then he doesn't respect you. If you object then you dont respect yourself.
2006-08-23 13:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the safety part, that's easy, talk to him about it, tell him no glove=no love, and that takes care of that issue.
Now for the emotional part, the fun part *lol. First of all, do you trust him? When you're emotionally involved and he is too, there should be total trust that he won't "dump you" after it. Also, talk to him about it, express your concerns, etc.
You sound like you're ready, remember that trust is everything, not just in the "will he dump me think", but also in the act itself, you should be able to trust him to tell him what feels right and what doesn't and that he'll respect your needs.
Have a great time!
2006-08-23 14:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you are not ready to do. If you are afraid of getting pregnant and are seriously considering becoming sexually active then I would highly recommend going to the doctor and getting on birth control just to be safe.
If you think you are ready then go for it but don't let him make you think you are ready...just enjoy each other and be kids...if you are under 16 then I would wait as long as possible.
2006-08-23 13:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For pregnancy use a condom or get on birth control right away.
Talk to someone at your local health department about sex or a school counselor me assuming ur still in school.
If you feel completely ready and you want to just wait until the mood comes and its the right time and do it. Only if you want to,don't be pressured.
2006-08-23 13:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by LaLa N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time to have sex with him is on your honeymoon!! If he truely loves you he will wait. If you have sex prior to the wedding you stand the risk of your relationship becoming more of asexual realationship. Rather than a relationship based on love trust and friendship.
You don't say how old you are but you sound young.
Put your trust in the Lord and pray he has always had the very best answers.
2006-08-23 13:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Froggy_45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know if it is the right time. If you are having too many doubts..then you should not do it. Don't be scared of what if... You need to live in the moment but responsibly. We have NO guaranties in life, we have to learn from our own mistakes. If you love him, it should be a wonderful experience and even if it ends one day, you will have the memories forever.
2006-08-23 13:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, if you are having enough doubts that you ask this as a question on Yahoo Answers, you are not ready. When the time is right you will know it and you will do it. As far as preventing pregnancy, there are lots of options and lots of sources for information on the proper methods for preventing conception.
2006-08-23 13:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you sure you want to do this. When you get started, there's no stopping. Make sure it's with someone worth it. You'll have much more special memories later if its the right person. Hold it out at along as you can. All guys want is to get into your pants.
2006-08-23 13:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then it's not the right time. You'll simply know when it's time.
And if you are going to do it to keep him from breaking up with you...let him leave. He should love you no matter if you put out or not.
And when you DO do it...use birth control. Condoms are best since they protect against STDs as well.
2006-08-23 13:51:20 · answer #11 · answered by Echelon Right 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋