My Girlfriend is pregnant?!?!?!?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 and 1/2 months and she got pregnant about 2 months ago... I am 17 and she is 16... What should we do?

Well we aren't going to have an abortion, i really dont want to put her up for addoption because i was addopted but if we have to i will. but both of our parents have said that if she gets pregnant we are on our own... so we're on our own if we tell them so we are going to hide it as much as possible till we cant anymore. i have a job but i am only making enough to keep up my truck and gas money to get to her house. i'm usually the one everyone else comes to for help but for once... i'm the one that needs the help. so please give me some advice. i really appreciat the posts so far just keep them coming. thanks everyone.

Answer 1

If you love her stay with her. MAybe you should talk about adoption with her or any other options like marriage. Maybe you guys can work it out and raise the child. You slept with her so you need to take resposbilty for your actions. What do YOU feel is the right thing? What ever that answer is then you should follow through. Only you know whats really going on so . Good luck whatever you decide to do . I will prey for both of you

Answer 2

I agree that you two are too young to be doing anything sexual. Condoms are only 50% effective, and birth control pills are only 97-99% effective. So there's always a chance of getting pregnant. You two should not have taken that chance until you guys were old and mature enough to deal with the consequences.

I believe that all of the options given would be the unfair thing to do. Obviously you guys can't keep the baby because you're immature and far from ready to be parents. Abortion, most people would say NO to but in a lot of cases today that is the best solution. The adoption agencies are overcrowded with kids who need to find homes.

Some of these kids who have been there for years. The more babies put up for adoption, the less chance these other kids have to be adopted. They deserve it more because they've been there longer. What about someone you guys are close to adopting the baby? That way everyone wins. No abortion, no adoption agency, you get to see the baby (open adoption), and neither of you two have to put your lives on hold.

I saw this movie on Lifetime called "Mom At Sixteen". You guys should watch it. It's about a girl who has sex at 15, has a baby at 16. Gives her baby to the guidance counselor at school because her and her husband can't have kids. It's a good movie and sends out a good message that no one should have sex until they are both ready to face the consequences.

Answer 3

Okay. I know how you feel I was 15 and my boyfriend 17 with my first child. For one be there for her she is just as scared as you are. In school? Don't let your education slide, I did and regret it. You can accept help from people but don't use them. go to school and work an afternoon job to buy the things that the baby needs. Have your girlfriend go get on WIC at the local health department. This will supply you with formula when the baby is born. Are you going to stick around? Most young fathers get scared and run off. Although I am sure you have heard people tell you time and time again since you found out that if your man ennough to pull down your pants then be man enough to take care of the outcome. Children are a bleessing. Cherish them, nuture them and in twenty years see how they've grown. It's not going to be easy and you will miss having your own life but in the end it is all worth it. Hang in there, be supportive, and by all means keep that child because if you don't you will end up regretting it. Good Luck and email me if you just need somebody to talk too. I have been there and I know how both of you feel.

Answer 4

Has she told her parents? Have you told your parents? That's the first thing you must do. Then you all have some important decisions to make. Can you afford a baby? Can you provide it with a home, clothing, food, medical care, support and education? Babies having babies is a serious problem, something you should have thought of before. Your options are abortion, adoption, or raising the child yourselves which will mean the end of your own youth and the beginning of heavy adult responsibilities. You are now between a rock and a hard place.

Answer 5

What are your beliefs.
Is she deciding to keep the child?
That is largely her decision but you should have some input.
Can her folks or your folks help out at all? Do they even know yet?

You and your girlfriend have some very tough decisions to make and no one on here can make them for you.

But remember YOU had some part in this situation it was NOT just her fault.

You accepted the pleasure NOW ITS TIME TO PAY FOR IT.

Or are you considering to be like so many other cowards who say it's not my fault and leave it up to the girl to deal with.

Sure you may think it may screw up your life but you should have thought about that a long time ago at this point and you have to remember you are also screwing up her life as well.

So get over being scared, talk to your parents and her parents, take your punishment like a man (remembering you took your pleasure like a man already) and help out your girlfriend and support her as much as possible.

Please don't be just another coward. Too many of them running around already.

Answer 6

first get a job cuz having a baby ain't cheap. you got to pay for the hospital bills, diappers. I hope you don't think your mothers are ganna be there the whole time to help you but if they care they will give in sometimes. take control and help your girlfriend out a lot. Hope you kno this is ganna be tough your old life is gone for good. Now you are a father and you have to protect the child and your girlfriend from all damger. They got to kno theat they can trust you and that you will always be there for them no matter what

Answer 7

If you have a good trustworthy adult in your life then go tell them what is going on. Parents and kids don't always get along perfectly but they really only want the best for their kids. Go get her signed up for WIC which is a state run program for mothers and children. They will get her prenatal care and nutritional supplement coupons for stuff like milk, juice, eggs, cheese, cereal, maybe other stuff. Your local public aid office will know how to get that started. Be good to each other. Pregnant isn't the worst thing that can come premarital sex.

Answer 8

BE there for her. and help her through it your both young but you can do it. Dont be pressured into marriage if you both are not ready. That was the biggest mistake i made when i got pregnant at 15 it ended in divorce. Getting married for a baby and not love never works. Sit down and talk together make it clear what u want and let her make it clear what she wants. you will be fine. feel free to hit me up if u need nething [e-mail] congrats!!

Answer 9

You know what you want to do... I know you are scared, and I bet your girl is too. Talk to her, DO NOT, I repeat do not make any decisions about the baby with out discussing it with her, and the same goes for her. Think of it this way, if you decide you want to give the baby up for adoption, and she wants to keep the baby there will be big problems. talk to both of your parents, what ever you decide you will need their support and love... Ya they are gonna be real mad at first but in the end they will respect your honesty, and that you asked for help.

Answer 10

ok i was a teenage parent you have alot of options and no one can make this decision for the 2 of you first you need to keep dr appointments don't drink or smoke eat right and tell your parents they will be a big help u can email me if u need someone to talk to or want to narrow this question down some i was 15 and pregnant 16 when i had him